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Old 06-06-2008, 08:39 PM   #121
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sorry i didnt get back to you ,
i get lost and it takes a while to come back, thank you so so much for everything youve said to me and given me . It means a great deal to me everything you do for me.

im here for you to please come to me if ever you need to i will be here

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Old 06-06-2008, 08:48 PM   #122
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Loz,
Thank you sos so much really it means so much to me,

Than k for saying your glad im not dead hugs you, it means more than words can say that you say to me we would be lessend without me

Please dont worry about not knowing what else to say what you have said to me already comforts me and means a hell of a lot thank you for that.

Thanks for saying im much stronger than the people that hurt me, i am fighting to get over them the best i can. Thanks for saying they havent beat me, i need to keep telling myself that as i feel they have and that theey have damaged me, but i will hold onto what you say and try and accept it.

you dont know how much that means to me loz that you all care about me so much, god i wouldnt be here if it wasnt for everyone on here and msn theyve kept me alive . all of you have my thanks.

thank you to for saying you care about me alot, that means so very much thank you

i will try and fight as long as i can im trying iam

you take care Loz

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Good to hear you're still fighting.

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Old 01-06-2009, 05:49 PM   #124
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Hey there ive not been around for a while now
ive not been able to be around in vets or the other forums which has been hard for me so far ive only been able to post my artwork which is a record of sorts of my current journey and what im going through.

Today has been bloody hard not the news i was expecting im scared
ive just been crying my eyes out in diggles im home now , trying to keep it together. I was too shocked while in my art therapy to show what i really felt , its drowning me again ive been let down and they know damn well i need more support .

arhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
arhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

I went to my art therapy session i was expecting this one or the next to be my last. I have had 22 sessions of art therapy and id recomend it to anyone lets just say its been keeping me sane . My art therapist has been so supportive , he clearly validated by looking at my artwork that ive been through some traumatic experiences and i need help, he was aware of my my past history and past encounters with mental health services he was aware of the times ive been let down and left all alone to struggle or the bad way ive been treated by some mental health professionals.

He said he was willing to continue to see me for a couple more sessions until i get to see my psychiatrist.

I didnt get the news i wanted the art therapist said ive spoken to our boss and made him well aware that in my oppinion that dave needs more support after the art therapy he still has some issues to work through. The art therapist said even though i made it clear to them they were unwilling to offer me the group therapy you hoped for.

**** **** ..........
i dont believe this im still not over this **** and how the hell can they turn round knowing full well that my art therapist has made it clear to them i need MORE support, he is even going to write a report outlining his requeast that i have more support. My psychiatrist said the options open to you dave are art therapy, mens group therapy or possibly CBT so hes aware of me needing some more support.

Damn you how much more bloody proof do you want that i am not making this **** up i still have a way to go yet before i am well enough.
im distraught now ive struggled to get this far by fighting for f*cking ages against my **** to overcome it. Ive tried my best to make the sessions and do the work knowing full well that im going to have to go through some tuff sh*t in order to get better . Ive faught for so long ............

...cries...............damn you
i get so far on my journey and now when i need the support to help me through you bloody turn round and say nope.. he cant have group therapy or cbt.

ive now been dropped by my local psychiatric services end of,
my psych apparently wasnt requesting a meeting with me to discuss progress or further treatment. Damn you i dont believe this i said to my art therapist well im surprised my psych doesnt want to see me was i just supposed to walk away from art therapy and thats it
no more support.

im really scared that after getting this far im gonna crash and go backwards destroying all the work ive done.

Ive kept going knowing that i have had the support and that i should be getting further support

thats all been shattered now im gona crash im trying to stop myself spiralling down .im fighting myself already .....................****.

I said to my art therapist well i want an appointment with my psych can you tell him. The art therapist said he would. jees im p*ssed off that my psych wasnt following up its like it was all left to my art therapist to shoulder the burden of telling me thats it no more support.

cries bloody loads..........................

screams

what do i have to do to get through this i cant explain how hard it is to deal with someone elses childhood sexual abuse. i loved her with all my heart and soul and wanted to do anything possible to help her overcome it so we could hopefully spend the rest of our lives together. But my ex couldnt cope with her past and systematically destroyed herself through self harming and trying to kill herself and then destroy me emotionally, mentally and physically until i became a basket case . she continually pushed me to hurt her physically ....but i never did . so she used domestic violence on me .
.......she nearly won..................damn you
i dont hit woman .

er oh god i dont know anymore im now going to try and wait for an appointment with my psych that could be ages damn. Im sure even if i see him hes gona say the same nope dave no
Group therapy, no CBT ...................god if he does im gona fall apart

the art therpaist said you can complain about the services you receive its part of the mental health act. So im gons see psych and if i dont get support im gona write to them making a complaint there is even a advocacy service who could fight on my behalf. Im gona fight but im scared that im not gona win and im gona crack and fall apart im just keeping it together for now the art therapist can still see ive got a long way to go yet by alot of my art work .

How is it that when you fit the criteria they still wont give you the support. what the hell do i have to do to show the bosses that i need more support . Im not making this **** up god . I acually feel like i want to explode into a million pieces . Im trying my best to stop myself going into self destruct or cracking up mentally .

oh well im gona be doing plenty more art work for sure sorry if any of it is hard to look at the art therapist has clearly said its good i have this technique to channel the hell and trauma into works of art if i didnt i i know damn well i wouldnt have been here id be dead. Im still alive and determined to overcome this ...just dont know how long i have to keep fighting until i receive the extra support i deserve...................


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Old 01-06-2009, 06:52 PM   #125
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Im not a vet, but ive seen your name. Sorry to hear your struggling so much.
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Old 17-06-2009, 01:40 PM   #126
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*Massive hugs* I am sorry Dave I have only just seen this. I know this is a little late but I wanted to let you know I care and to offer my support as much as I can. I am sorry to hear that the extra support didn't go through, its sounds like your art therapist is really on your side and is doing the best he can. Its crap how they decide these things sometimes. Don't you dare go and give up tho, you have come this far. Which proves how strong you really are, which I know is hard to see sometimes yourself but I do see it. You have constantly been pushed down but you don't let it stop you, time after time I see you get up and try again. Don;t forget that strength you have within you. I agreee with you if after you see your pysch nothing happens still then complain, it is in your rights. Fight it dave, I am here for you.Take care
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Old 22-06-2009, 02:31 AM   #127
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hi Dave,

How are things going now? Sorry to hear about the loss of support... that is not great to hear at all. Keep fighting hopefully they'll be able to provide you with some more. Keep updating and let us know how things are going.

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Old 22-06-2009, 03:44 AM   #128
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Kat ,
Thanks for your massive hugs, they are appreciated, its ok that you have only just seen my thread in vets . I wrote this over two weeks ago and was a little worried when i only got 1 reply i was beggining to think i was invisible . I do know that you care kat and your offer of support for me when you can means more to me than words can express ive been feeling alone alot.

Thanks for saying your sorry i didnt get the extra support i deserve im devistated im sick and tired of fighting and when i get this far and need more support and its been confirmed by my art therapist that i clearly need more support. They bloody refuse me anymore, is it any wonder why we give up , its bloody hard for any of us going through
any mental health issues such as depression or dealing with a personality disorder to also ontop of that have to fight the mental health services for what we deserve.

Yes my art therapist was supportive and helped me a great deal sadly he cant do anymore for me now hes written his report and passed it on to the management and my psych . my art therapy sessions have finished its now down to the psychiatrist and i dont hold any hope of him saying oh yes dave you will get group therapy or CBT.

Im trying my best not to give up its really hard i get scared i will fall apart and give up i dont know what more i have to do to prove to them i deserve more support . Thanks for saying im strong i have been but there are limits to that i will keep fighting as much as i can i have got back up again and continued to fight , its wearing me out though this mental and physical fighting .

thanks for being here for me kat, you know that i am here to if you need someone i will allways do what i can for you and others when i can.

you take care too kat
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Old 22-06-2009, 03:57 AM   #129
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Ravynsoul,
Thanks for asking how things are going, and thanks also for saying your sorry about me losing my support. Im having to wait right now for my psychiatrist to get back to me with an appointment date to speak to him about my situation.

He wasnt even going to see me one more time after my art therapy finished, it was my art therapist who said thats it end of art therapy sessions you have no more support goodbye . I was the one to demand an appointment with my psych which im really annoyed about i thought it was their job to follow up on clients to check over progress if ive been seing someone else such as the art therapist.

It isnt great news i know some areas are better than others in the NHS for providing enough mental health services . And waiting times are normally long but to hear that after my art therapy finished i was told id made some good progress but needed to receive more support to help me get well enough hearing that the management refused my group therapy or CBT knocks you back.

i will keep you informed of my progress thanks ravynsoul

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How are things going now? Sorry to hear about the loss of support... that is not great to hear at all. Keep fighting hopefully they'll be able to provide you with some more. Keep updating and let us know how things are going.

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wow, I don't know what to say.... but I felt I needed to respond just so you know that we are reading your thread and thinking of you. You sound like an amazing person to have kept fighting like you are now, though I can only imagine how tough and exhausting it is for you. Please keep posting and keep up with your artwork. Wishing you improvements and lots of support. *huggles*



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Old 29-06-2009, 09:11 PM   #131
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Haven't spoken to you for a long time (I think your last day of birth), sorry things are tough and hope things improve Dave!

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CrazyHayley,
Thank you for responding to my thread, and showing me that others are reading my thread and are thinking about me .

Its really kind of you to say you think im an amazing person to have kept fighting all this time. Im glad i am strong at times but its also exhausting fighting for what i deserve all the time when im ILL . It is often soul destroying for me to keep getting knocked back by mental health services,they have also been helpfull to me but , these recent issues are really tough and exhausting for me .

I hope no one has to go through any of the stuff ive been through, To be recently assessed by my present psych as having symptoms of borderline personality disorder scared the crap outa me .
Especially seing as all ive had so far is Art Therapy which has kept me sane but still doesnt solve some of the issues of my past abuse or the symptoms of borderline personality disorder .

Earlier when i was still seing my community mental health nurse (im not now seing any comm ment health nurses,thank god, i know not all comm ment health nurses are bad ) she kept telling me i had symptoms of PTSD (which i still believe i have) but couldnt get an official diagnosis. Then to be told by her to stop looking into PTSD , stop talking about PTSD, stop trying to be a counsellor? (im not) . Then to be told by the previous psych i will never get diagnosed or treated for PTSD . Screws with your head and to be told by a nurse " I havent got a f**king clue what to do with you dave " nearly destroyed me. To then be told i NEED MORE support by my art therapist and psych so i should now be ready for mens group therapy or CBT to then be told by the bosses of psych therapies david will not receive any further support , goodbye off you go, is screwing me up a great deal im gona give up if they dont get me some more support.

I spoke to a local advocacy group today god that was hard ,who support people dealing with complaints about mental health issues and ensure they are supported and heard . I had to demand an appointment with my psych (he wasnt going to see me) for one last appoint i was supposed to just walk away(hes not doing his job) . I have this appoint on 14 july i know what hes gona say NO, i will go to the advocacy group after i get my answer from psych.

I dred hearing my psych say NO More support, if the advocacy doesnt help im gona give up.

i will try and keep posting and doing my artwork im even struggling to do artwork right now grrr.

thanks for your support and huggles.

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Haven't spoken to you for a long time (I think your last day of birth), sorry things are tough and hope things improve Dave!



Hey there Bobidrawpictures,
No mate we havent spoken in a while now, thank you for your support and kind words, they mean alot to me right now.

I hope life is treating you better, i noticed the male support thread in mental health and seen your posts i will get myself in there and introduce myself as soon as i can.

Look after yourself mate, i look forward to chatt with you anytime, if i can ever do anything for you mate i will try, just shout me.

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Hi Dave,

I hope things improve for you soon. You have done such great work offering support to people here, including myself. I don't know you that well but I can tell you're a good person and you deserve a happy life, free from SH or mental health issues. Please take care and stay safe.

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Old 30-06-2009, 08:36 PM   #135
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Cheers Nathan for your reply,
It means alot that you hope things improve for me soon , thank you, and i appreciate you saying that ive been very supportive to people here in RYL . I have been supported by and cared about by many rylers here since i joined and i will be forever greatfull to you all for everything youve given me. Im happy to be here when i can and to reach out to people here and support them when i can and share some of my experiences in the hope that others gain hope, strength and acdceptance in their lives.

Your right that we dont yet know each other well, and its really kind of you Nathan to say im a good person and i deserve to be happy and free from self harm and my mental health issues. You deserve exactly the same and theres nothing i wish more for you than to also be Happy and free of self harm and the issues that you struggle with .

Remember that rylers here, including me do care about you and support you and accept you here .

Thanks for saying take care and for me to stay safe, im doing my best.

you to please take care and stay safe ok,

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Hey Dave,

No need to thank me, you have done more than enough to deserve support from fellow RYLers. I also wanted to say if you ever need to talk about anything you can send me a PM anytime. I would be happy to offer support like you have given to me in my post.

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Hi Dave,
I know i don't know you but i wanted to offer support.
I'm sorry thing's are so hard for you atm.
I'm always around you wanna chat, rant etc.
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Arhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh


Ive just been typing an update here only for it to crash and my internet connection fail and ive lost my update.

Sorry i will come back later and type the update again im knackered emotionally right now so it may be late when i come back but i WILL come back and give you an update .

Why is life so bloody hard.

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This last week and the last few days have been hell for me, I have just finished art therapy a couple of weeks ago after doing 20 sessions and its kept me sane and alive for now with the hope that I was to receive further therapy after my art therapy.

(How wrong could I be L )

I know myself that I need more support , more therapy , than the average person knowing what I went through . (Why the hell is it so bloody hard to then get the therapy I deserve ?? ) . And both the art therapist and the psychiatrist both said I needed more than the standard amount of 20 sessions of therapy that you get.
This gave me hope that my battle was for a purpose of healing myself and finding a purpose and a future in my life.

My hope was built on the belief that I could continue my journey and receive “Mens group therapy “ or “CBT” or another therapy that would help me with my “ Symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder “ .

How stupid am I to believe that the NHS and the psychiatrists and community mental health nurses really do care and really want to help me. Because ive discovered that they don’t.

I knew that my art therapy would come to an end I could only have 20 sessions I cant deny that it has helped me and the art therapist is truly a wonderful man . Yet I said that art therapy alone wasn’t going to get me to the place of healing I need . My art therapist knew of my bad treatment by some of the NHS professionals, and being abandoned by them , such as one psychiatrist, and two community mental health nurses. He was willing at the end of my art therapy sessions to continue to see me for 2-3 more sessions up and until my psychiatrist made an appointment to see me.

Ive had my dreams and hope shattered into smithereens by what my art therapist then told me on the very last session. “ Dave now today is your final session with me and im sorry to tell you that the commission has refused to give you any further therapy or treatment “. “ You wont be getting any Mens group therapy” you wont be getting any CBT , that’s it its all over “.

I was expected to just walk away and be alone, im distraught and broken by this I have worked so bloody hard to get to my sessions and face up to my past and heal myself . With the belief that the so called professionals were going to help me. I held onto hope like it was a precious jewel, only for them to smash my hope and me into pieces. My recent psychiatrist assessed me as having symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder which scared the crap out of me. Ive been told previously
by the community mental health team I had symptoms of PTSD, and when I tried to learn more about PTSD and what could help you recover from it only then to be told to stop looking into PTSD, stop trying to be a counsellor . Dave you will never get an official diagnosis for PTSD. Then for them to backtrack and try and say I haven’t got PTSD .

My understanding of the NHS and community mental health teams is that they are full of professionals who use therapies to help patients deal with and heal from mental health issues or personality disorders. You know by using things like CBT, DBT talking therapies. How bloody wrong ive been because since being assessed as having symptoms of borderline personality disorder ive had no treatment or specific therapy given to me to help me with my personality disorder . My bloody psychiatrist has done nothing but backtrack in my session today trying to down grade personality disorders and we shouldn’t use labels . Im sick and tired of fighting for what I deserve sick and tired of trying to justify myself to them.


Sorry im going off all over the place so my art therapist said theres no appointment with keith your psychiatrist.

(me) What your joking arnt you , you mean he isn’t going to see me at all.
Screams.

Im not happy with this Neil (art therapist) please get him to make an appointment to see me I need to talk to him.

Im losing it inside now and my heads about to explode, my art therapist kindly told me that he could see how distressed I was and said you are entitled to complain about the treatment you receive or are needing but not receiving from us as part of the mental health act. And there is an advocacy group here who are independent of NHS whose job it is to ensure my views are heard and my opinions are valued and respected. I am certainly going to put a formal complaint into the NHS about my treatment and need for further therapy but their refual to give me that therapy.

I managed to get the courage to ring the advocacy group and make an appointment with them which was yesterday. I have a further appointment on Monday 20th july.


Ive had a day from hell today my psychiatrists appointment was this morning at 10:30am for 1 hour. What a bloody waste of time it was and what a useless person my psychiatrist is.

Im so tired of fighting so tired of being abandoned and not given the therapy or treatment I deserve . I have no hope left anymore no reason to continue . Being bloody ill with depression, anxiety and this **** personality disorder cripple me enough without having to then stand up and continually fight for my rights, fight for my treatments and fight to be respected and listened to. With so called psychiatrists my respect and belief in their abilities has been smashed to pieces, mainly by my psychiatrists treatment of me and what im going through.


He proceeded to smile stupidly at me while he spewed out a load of crap I told him I was upset and felt abandoned by him because I believed he was going to see me for an appointment at the end of my art therapy rather than being abandoned and sent away with no further support . . When I told him my art therapist said he was going to see me that’s why my art therapist agreed to see me 2-3 more times up and until my psych has the appoint. Only for my psych to sit there and say “ I was always going to see you ( that was crap) and then my psych proceeded to blame the art therapist for getting it wrong. Only for my psych to sit there and say to me id not been making enough effort in helping myself. Well I was so bloody angry this guy is meant to be a professional he is complete rubbish.

The psych made me feel like I was making things up and I was being argumentative when im only standing up for myself.

Jees this is so bloody hard to write I feel like just giving up writing it ,

My psych started laughing which I didn’t find funny and he said what do you expect dave when you were with the community mental health team and were seing a comm. Mental health nurse only to have disagreements . I don’t see them helping you any more.

I got angry and said you know why , you are aware of my treatment by some of the team and what they said to me. What am I expected to do sit there and take it.

My psych said weve done all we are supposed to do, you saw your dr they refered you to the psychological therapies service, you saw the community mental health team but refused to be treated any more by them. You eventually saw me the psychiatrist. Ive assessed you ive offered you treatment . What more do you want your not happy with what weve done. I cant offer you any more treatment.
Dave what do you want what treatment do you think you should get.

he even said well we will just have to wait and see in about 2-3 months you may be back when you just cant cope anymore

i cant beleieve what hes just said to me go away dave we cant do anymore for you but oh you may be coming back to see us if you are in crisis, how about if im in crisis i may not be here to bloody come back to you arhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

Im getting upset now what sort of question is that you are the professional you are the psychiatrist you should be assessing me and offering me the relevant therapies.

Its not my job to do that , I said to him what the hell does a psychiatrist do anyway my understanding is that you are a medically trained professional who diagnoses mental health issues and treats them with medication or by offering the current therapies.

Well from my understanding you arnt doing that with me , I have talked to you keith about me trying to learn about borderline personality disorder and finding that CBT or DBT therapies work for people with my issues and whn I try and talk to you about them and ask you if I can get those therapies.

You keith sit there and say you wont get those treatments dave they aren’t available for you its just not here in the NHS that’s it take it or leave it. You better go and find the treatments privatly then dave if your not happy with the NHS .

I cant believe what im hearing here he even says to me what treatments do you expect dave we haven’t got CBT and I don’t honestly know why I said to you dave that CBT was an option. By now all I want to do is die or jump out the bloody window . What sort of NHS is this you assess people and then don’t give them the therapy they need to get better , you even say to me you (the psych and you (the NHS)
Has done everything you needed to for me.

Sorry im gona repeat something again but my psych said ive been to my dr (yes I have) my dr refered me to the Psycological therapies service, they put me intouch with the community mental health team, and eventually after 8 bloody months I saw you keith a psychiatrist and you keith assessed me and gave me the current amount of therapy sessions 12 to 20 sessions and that’s my job done dave . Im only supposed to give people 12 to 20 sessions and no more . If your not happy with the treatment you’ve received then you go back to your dr dave and get them to refere you back to the community mental health team, because im telling you know dave you wont be seing me again you wont get refered back to the psychological therapies service and you wont be sing a psychiatrist again we are are only meant to see people the once which I have and no more.

What the hell am I supposed to do keith you’ve clearly told me I have issues above and beyond the standard 6- 12 or 20 sessions that people get , you and my art therapist both said I clearly need more than 20 sessions yet your not willing to get me that help. How the hell do I get through this on my own.

Well dave go to London or Manchester where you’ve clearly said that these treatments are available , I recommend you go to north lancs counselling which is a private counselling group. Er keith I know who they are I went to them right at the start when I tried to get treatment by the NHS but couldn’t get it and wa put on a massive 8 month wait list they were the only ones available and they helped me but only to a point when the NHS counselling became available I stopped the private counselling and went with the NHS.

Im completely discusted with the NHS and the so called professionals and their lack of treatments . Ive been abandoned before by the NHS only to be again abandoned by them and you keith. I will be writing a letter of complaint to the NHS.

You do that dave because that’s the only thing you can do to see if you get any further treatment.

Jees im so angry right now as I was then I forgot to say inbeetween all this he went on about my medication but it was a waste of time because he clearly didn’t want to talk with me or help me he wanted to distance himself from my assessment of borderline personality disorder.

Im sorry im gona have to stop there I cant deal with this anymore ive got no hope no belief and struggle to carry on im gona carry on as long as I can but I fear im gona give up .

He keith the psych even said im sorry dave we ave to stop it there I have another
patient he couldn’t wait to get me out the door , no more appointments with him I was so distraught on leaving him I feel so let down and abandoned and as if im a trouble maker and its all my fault.

God ive got to hold out till Monday 20th for this second appointment with the advocacy group im not gona be strong enough I know im gona burst into tears I don’t think anyone can help me know .

Sorry if you’ve had to read all this crap I need to go away

Dave


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Dave,

Words cannot describe how much I sympathise with you having to go through all this. It's very hard to stand up and fight these gutless, heartless and soulless beaurocrats when you are in total despair. Please talk to the advocacy service and tell them how you are being treated. It's disgusting that a person with a mental condition is treated so poorly in a developed western country. I really hope you get somewhere with the advocacy service, I will be praying for you.

That psychiatrist sounds like nothing more than a heartless wanker and a beaurocrat with a doctor label to make it sound like he actually helps people. He should be shot for saying that you're not trying to help yourself. What a load of crap. You are fighting this all on your own and wanting to get help and you have some lazy **** gov't employee telling you they won't help you. You should be respected for how hard you are trying to get better because I know that you really are Dave. I think it's actually very negligent of the psych to send you out on your own without any follow up support. Just remember that if you feel like harming or killing yourself please go to the crisis team or nearest hospital emergency department.......they still have to help you if you are in a crisis.

The doctor at the hospital last year told me I show symptoms of what he called "borderline personality traits". I guess that doctors don't like the term BPD because of the stigma attached to it. They say that no mental illness is a character flaw but that's hard to believe when you have terms like borderline personality disorder! The labelling is quite hurtful though. I personally detest the words mentally ill. It's a person suffering mental illness for Christ sake.........we are not defined by our illness

I don't know if there are support groups that you can go to for people suffering from mental illness but it's worth a look. I found information about one very close to my home, I just have to work up the courage to go there, the only trouble is that it may be on when I'm at college....I hope that isn't the case.

While you are waiting to get in to more therapy give this website a try:
http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome I was referred here by a psychologist and I find it really helpful. It's an interactive program that helps you to work on CBT. It's no substitute for real face to face therapy but it is definately better than nothing at all.

Take care and stay safe Dave.


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