I think it's probably going to take a while for the little one to settle down since his mum has just left. I think as long as this doesn't go on for weeks and weeks or months that it's probably normal.
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Originally Posted by Le Almighty Kitten
Kids come first, hard as that is. If it's something consistent, then the Dad may want to try gradual retreat given the child's age. As i think Aidey mentioned, you're not their Mum and in essence are still a stranger and that counts for a lot more with younger children. Much as you may like to put them in their room and shut the door, they're just looking for love and attention, what's so wrong with that? They also suggest that action/consequence/reasoning isn't something that truly kicks in until after age 3. You wouldn't want to be shut in a room in the dark on your own, surely?!
If you can't handle being there at the kid's bed-time then perhaps go around after he's put them to bed, and/or have lunch-dates etc? I know it's a pain in the ass but at the end of the day he has to put his kids first, and if they're being clingy or something then it doesn't surprise me - their mum's just left them and now they have a strange woman in the house.
Oh, and I finally bought a sling of sorts on Sunday. I'd like a wrap-style one at some point (like I saw Kelly using with Oliver) but for now I have a Premaxx 'baby bag'. It goes over my head and one shoulder and H can lie down in it, then when he's older it can be used as a hip seat. I've used it for shoppingin already and it's proving useful.
that video is amazing!! mine isnt quite like that yet but i can understand why it freaked some people out lol! hard to imagine a little kiddie in there really int it!!
definately...especially now that she is here...i cant imagine what she was doing in there. and i certainly cant imagine her being so small she could fit in there! shes so big now!!!
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
lolly - This period in time is probably very stressful and upsetting for the children. It's hardly surprising that the children are unsettled at this point in time.
It isn't just a case of "plonking" him upstairs and letting him get on with it.
He has a duty to put his children first, especially at this time, those children depend on him.
This is something you may have to put up with for the forseeable future if you plan on staying with this man, as his children will always come first regardless of situations.
Stace - How's the teething going?!
Mandi - Well done to Chloe! :)
its going ok...im actually beginning to think she had a bug as my pals baby was ill, her boyfriend was ill, jamie was ill and now i am ill. i was up all last night throwing up it was unreal. i had to call my friend to come pick freyja up as i couldnt look after her. freyja cried last sat for 4 hours, she also gave me a really really really bad nappy, it was right up her back to her shoulders and she was sick at one point too. so maybe it was this bug
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
thanks dramatic basically were now taking it slower and just doing everything for the boys now :) until there a bit better :)
He should do everything for his children regardless of a relationship.
Sorry to sound harsh, but if you're unable to cope with children being upset/distraught/having tantrums, maybe it's best you figure out what you do want - as regardless of how upset the children are at the moment, they will still have tantrums, and arguements, and refuse to sleep, and "interrupt" you at the most inappropriate of times.
That's children for you. They don't work like clock work - there's no on or off button to there emotions.
So this may never "settle" down. Children will be children and all that.
Stace - You poor thing. I hope you and Freyja feel better soon. It's that time of year where loads of germs/bugs are flying around, horrid.
Did anyone hear about the two premature babies who died at Luton Hospital?
As Luton is in Cambridgeshire it was on my local news - but i believe it was on international news stations as well.
They died from E-Coli.
Poor family.
isn't E-coli the thing u catch from handling raw meat n not washing your hands properly? how would babies catch that? there poor families! i havent seen it on the news, but it must be hell for them
ok ive just read it is the different strain, it is: "The strain of E.coli involved is known as Extended Spectrum Beta Lactamase, or ESBL, and is resistant to antibiotics"
sounds so scary, would it be your local hospital dramatic?
So hope it wasn't parents, i know there was a scare some time ago (though i don't recall it getting further than a scare) because some parents had felt it fine to bring a visiting sibling who had chicken pox!
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Yeh Shona that's it.
I got a bit choked listening to it on the news.
It's not my local hospital (thank god) but i think it's just another "tick" against the NHS hospitals in general, and it shows just how much they're really going downhill.
My local hospital is far from fantastic. (And in millions of pounds worth of debt *rolls eyes*)
I just can't believe they'd be so careless in a premature baby unit. Seriously?
I'm on my own at home with Harlan now for a bit, Rusty's gone out to meet a mate of ours who's in the city for the weekend. H has just had a bottle and he's in his bouncychair so hopefully he'll settle down for a sleep.
I've been a bit fixated on taking pills lately and don;t want that to happen when I'm on my own with him.
It is incrediable how careless some parents are, Laura, but it happened, all the babies had to have extra blood tests to see if they were ok. Chicken poc can be harmful to pregnant women, can't remember how/why it's harmful; most kids will get chicken pox at some time, but for babies in neo natal they're really vulnerable and chicken pox could be very harmful.
Ragdoll (Victoria?!), have you got resources on hand should you need to talk to someone? I know you've got your mothers unit which you can go to though. Cry-sis (is that what they're called?) can offer support when babies are stressing parents through crying.
Stace, hope you feel better soon, it's horrible being ill.
Must say, we had a wonderful bath time this evening; Fin puddled and splashed away under the shower (in the bath) whilst i read Harry Potter and drank hot chocolate, haha!
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