Okay, it's great that you guys have something in common (by 'you guys', i mean everyone who has participated in this thread) but instead of talking about the people you like and obsessing further, why don't you try and get help for it?
It's really not healthy.
I was similar when I was younger but it became very violent.
I'm better now, but sometimes it creeps back when i'm particularly emotional.
I;ve had obsessions with celebrities and non-celebrities. Its weird. I get obsessed for a while then forget it. I also get fixated on things. Like for example my fixation last night was ponchos...and i ended up buying one >.<
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That happens to me too. It really sucks sometimes though. It's like I don't feel the same when I haven't talked to them. Like I'm not gonna be okay if I don't get to talk to them. I don't even understand why. It really upsets me. :\
i used to get obsessed with celebrities too and i would buy every magazine with them and keep every picture and stuff, but now i don't do that. also i get obsessed with things, i mean when i think about something, i want to go buy it the same minute.
i don't know what we can do to stop getting obsessed. what can we do?
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It's easy to say we should just get help, but to be honest I'm too embarrassed to tell anyone about the way I feel. Also it's so personal, I feel like I love this person even though they're so inappropriate, so in a way i don't want to let them go... I'm just going to keep working on my self-esteem and hope that one day I won't need other people so much :/
I get like that. Its pretty annoying. Im very much like that with fiance, Liam. I want to be with him all the time, breath him and just cling to him like im never going to see him again. I'm also like that with my little sister, Ellie. I feel like i NEEd to keep her safe. Incase this is my last day of living.
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thank you, Lily, for saving mummy's life*.
You are my one and only, you can wrap your fingers round my thumb and hold me tight, and you'll be alright.
rebecca, i used to be like that with my mother. i used to remember her last words when she was leaving the house, in case its her last day. i was so scared that something would happen to her.
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today i had my speaking exam, i didn't do very well, but my teacher was there and my mum told her that im gonna go to the hospital and that i won't take the other exams and my teacher(you know, with whom im obsessed)told her that if i want, she can come to the hospital to have lessons. but i don't know what to do. i definitely don't want to take the exams, but i want to have lessons with her.
today probably was the last day to see her, because we finished our year...:(
maybe i will tell my mum that i want to tell her to come, just to see me and not have lessons. but i want to see her many times and i don't know what to do.
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I feel the same way with certain people. It’s like I really want them as a friend or mentor. Then I get all socially awkward when I’m around them. It’s like I want to talk to them but I don’t know what to say so I end up being shy and nervous. It’s usually with females who are completely understanding and accepting of things such as self injury. And they are people who I actually feel comfortable talking to about really bad things that have happened in the past and things like self injury. I think the reason for my obsession is because I never actually had anyone to talk to when I really needed it. I also have done most of the things that everyone has listed here like making up reasons to see them and questioning my sexuality.
There’s another thing that might sound strange. I get obsessed with people who seem to need me. Like I always meet people who tell me about their problems and who need a good supportive friend. It’s like I love it when people feel that way about me that I become obsessed with them as well.
I also know that I’ve read about this kind of thing in a psychology book like with a patient becoming attached to a therapist. Maybe I will ask my psych professor about it when we start learning more about therapy. It’s abnormal psych so there should be something about it in the text.
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i do that.
i talk to someone for a bit, i fool myself into thinking that they care, and i become completely dependent on them. and then, if i don't talk to them for a whole day, i get really paranoid and think they hate me and can't stop thinking about them.
it's annoying, and when i do decide that they hate me i usually end up SIing :(
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Irene, have you decided what to do yet? If you really don't want to do exams, i wouldn't do them as you don't want to get more stressed... but it's hard to know what to do about your teacher. Are you close enough so that she might come and visit you anyway, even if you don't have lessons?
Also, frizzbob I am just the same, i start to worry that they think I'm pathetic and they don't care about me at all, and then get sad. So I know where you're coming from.
I'm like this too with my roommate. All I want is her. I just want to be with her all the time. When i'm sleeping, I want her next to me. I want her to hold my hand. I "need" her constantly. I thought I was alone in this. Apparently i'm not.
I won't take the exams. but i will tell her to come and visit me, because i really wanna see her again.
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I can relate to this. It's a difficult one.
I think it's important though to look for solutions or ways to change this obsessive behaviour and thinking because it isn't normal. Wish I had an answer though!
i will discuss this with the doctors when im in hospital, cuz i will have plenty of time. i know it isn't normal, but i don't think its a symptom of a mental illness. what do you think?
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I think you should talk to the doctors Irene. I really want to know if this has something to do with a mental illness, or if it is just from my depression and the part of me that needs someone to care for me.
"Theresa thinks about everyone except Theresa." ~ Ms. Smith
"I've figured you out enough to know everything that makes you happy." ~ Ms. Smith
"You're too important to forget." ~ Ms. Smith
"I know you want to be happy you just keep pushing yourself back into this depressive safe zone you have" ~ Ms. Griswold
"I am so proud of you for making it one year Theresa. February 5th will be your new birthday, so happy birthday" ~Ms. Griswold
My God, I really thought I was alone with this. I've been getting attached to people for longer than I can remember, mainly teachers, but also one or two friends, and now that I've been in units, nurses and therapy assistants. The one I was most attached to left 2 months ago and I'm still devastated. I think of her all the time. Along with the others that've left me along the way. It hurts so bad. But I'm glad I'm not alone. I should tell my team about it, but it just sounds so weird. I don't want them to hate me. I'm scared. But it's not going away.
Thank you guys.
^^^don't be scared. they won't hate you. talk about it.
yeah i will discuss it. i was thinking that the obsession i have with my ex friend that i can't forget is one of these obsessions. it doesn't mean that im in love with her.
My RYL family:
I-used-to-be-positive is my big sister razorxkissedxwrists is my mommy alyssa.star is my sister phoenixflames_forever is my cousin concreteangel, helpmydeath, xxbeckyxx and queer fringe are my little sisters bob--says--hi is my twin
