Good point, I thought one and a half hour lessons were bad!!
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Just so people know, I've PR Ashlee's last post. Ashlee - I'm not in anyway doing this to attack you (and I appreciate my last couple of posts were probably too antagonistic and I apologise) but there are different boards here that people use for very different reasons. Many of your posts would be better suited to other boards, like General or R+V, which I know people have pointed out to you in the past. This board is for SELF HARM support, not general love-life support or just random conversation.
Last edited by bella_cullen : 07-02-2013 at 08:52 PM.
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You could run from someone you feared, you could try to fight someone you hated. All my reactions were geared toward those kinds of killers – the monsters, the enemies. When you loved the one who was killing you, it left you no options. How could you run, how could you fight, when doing so would hurt that beloved one? If your life was all you had to give your beloved, how could you not give it? If it was someone you truly loved?
I still think the world would be better off without me Some people, when they hit rock bottom, they dont have that person in their lives to pick them back up The mirror can lie, it doesnt show you whats on the inside. I dont think im fixed, people think that your like a car in a body shop, you go in, they fix you and your out, you work like your brand new, it doesnt work like that at all Sometimes i dont understand my self. Im not strong enough and im tired of pretending i am.
You're missing the point. This forum is not the place to discuss Sean, Sean's GCSE choices, how long his lessons are, your friends or what they do to get in trouble. A forum dedicated to SELF-HARM support is not the place to talk about the rigours of your love life.
I really want you to consider that when you post something about Sean's music lessons which is entirely unrelated to self-harm, you push someone else's thread of the main board. Someone who may be crying out for support and who will lose the opportunity of getting it. I ask again, please consider making an R/V, or using the general chat boards, to talk about Sean or other day to day things, and use this board more appropriately, for example when you are triggered.
You're missing the point. This forum is not the place to discuss Sean, Sean's GCSE choices, how long his lessons are, your friends or what they do to get in trouble. A forum dedicated to SELF-HARM support is not the place to talk about the rigours of your love life.
I really want you to consider that when you post something about Sean's music lessons which is entirely unrelated to self-harm, you push someone else's thread of the main board. Someone who may be crying out for support and who will lose the opportunity of getting it. I ask again, please consider making an R/V, or using the general chat boards, to talk about Sean or other day to day things, and use this board more appropriately, for example when you are triggered.
You're missing the point. This forum is not the place to discuss Sean, Sean's GCSE choices, how long his lessons are, your friends or what they do to get in trouble. A forum dedicated to SELF-HARM support is not the place to talk about the rigours of your love life.
I really want you to consider that when you post something about Sean's music lessons which is entirely unrelated to self-harm, you push someone else's thread of the main board. Someone who may be crying out for support and who will lose the opportunity of getting it. I ask again, please consider making an R/V, or using the general chat boards, to talk about Sean or other day to day things, and use this board more appropriately, for example when you are triggered.
THIS
I can't believe this thread is still here and open. I'm sure loads of people have reported it for being completely off-topic now
I still think the world would be better off without me Some people, when they hit rock bottom, they dont have that person in their lives to pick them back up The mirror can lie, it doesnt show you whats on the inside. I dont think im fixed, people think that your like a car in a body shop, you go in, they fix you and your out, you work like your brand new, it doesnt work like that at all Sometimes i dont understand my self. Im not strong enough and im tired of pretending i am.
I think the point people are trying to make is that you really don't need to be posting in this thread.
You could run from someone you feared, you could try to fight someone you hated. All my reactions were geared toward those kinds of killers – the monsters, the enemies. When you loved the one who was killing you, it left you no options. How could you run, how could you fight, when doing so would hurt that beloved one? If your life was all you had to give your beloved, how could you not give it? If it was someone you truly loved?
I still think the world would be better off without me Some people, when they hit rock bottom, they dont have that person in their lives to pick them back up The mirror can lie, it doesnt show you whats on the inside. I dont think im fixed, people think that your like a car in a body shop, you go in, they fix you and your out, you work like your brand new, it doesnt work like that at all Sometimes i dont understand my self. Im not strong enough and im tired of pretending i am.
Unless you were doing it to purposely harm yourself, then I'd say no it doesn't count. We all have accidents from time to time and that doesn't make it self-harm! Otherwise clutzes like me would be self-harming without being aware every single day, which would be badtimes.
I still think the world would be better off without me Some people, when they hit rock bottom, they dont have that person in their lives to pick them back up The mirror can lie, it doesnt show you whats on the inside. I dont think im fixed, people think that your like a car in a body shop, you go in, they fix you and your out, you work like your brand new, it doesnt work like that at all Sometimes i dont understand my self. Im not strong enough and im tired of pretending i am.
Seriously Ashlee - PLEASE listen to what people are telling you. This is NOT the place for song lyrics, or random updates, or anything like that - it is for SELF INJURY DISCUSSION AND SUPPORT.
You could run from someone you feared, you could try to fight someone you hated. All my reactions were geared toward those kinds of killers – the monsters, the enemies. When you loved the one who was killing you, it left you no options. How could you run, how could you fight, when doing so would hurt that beloved one? If your life was all you had to give your beloved, how could you not give it? If it was someone you truly loved?
I still think the world would be better off without me Some people, when they hit rock bottom, they dont have that person in their lives to pick them back up The mirror can lie, it doesnt show you whats on the inside. I dont think im fixed, people think that your like a car in a body shop, you go in, they fix you and your out, you work like your brand new, it doesnt work like that at all Sometimes i dont understand my self. Im not strong enough and im tired of pretending i am.
Ashlee will you please stop posting song lyrics in this forum. It is beyond unhelpful and a poor use of a forum which as Bella said is for SELF HARM SUPPORT. I don't know how many more times we need to say this - there are other areas of this site for song lyrics, use them.
Also - you have another thread to talk about Sean now. Posting the same thing in two threads is pointless and takes space away from people who are triggered.
I'm sorry to be blunt but I thought we had established a way for you to use this site productively and you don't appear to be doing it, which is extremely frustrating.
Guys, quite frankly if this thread bothers you, don't reply to it. Over 1000 posts which are predominantly people telling Ashlee to lock/close the thread isn't productive.
I think Carrie makes a good point. Progress had been made and reminding Ashlee how to use this site efficiently ought to not be reprimanded in my opinion.
I am curious as to what would happen if someone contacted the supporters on this issue. It feels like you're almost encouraging people to bitch about a member to the supporters, which I feel is worse than confronting the person directly about how their conduct is making them feel.
Ashlee, I'm sorry to hear he appears to be ignoring you. It's difficult to deal with, but maybe an important life lesson in learning to know be so reliant on a single person. Fall outs and disagreements happen, but it's so much easier to bear if we haven't placed all our trust and confidence in one person.
As the others have said, I think you'll receive more productive replies if you post this in your thread for relationship issues. It will also prevent people from getting angry at you!
I'm going to reply to this in your other thread, so go read there.
- Holly
Last edited by Eccentrics : 11-02-2013 at 08:14 PM.
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I still think the world would be better off without me Some people, when they hit rock bottom, they dont have that person in their lives to pick them back up The mirror can lie, it doesnt show you whats on the inside. I dont think im fixed, people think that your like a car in a body shop, you go in, they fix you and your out, you work like your brand new, it doesnt work like that at all Sometimes i dont understand my self. Im not strong enough and im tired of pretending i am.
I am curious as to what would happen if someone contacted the supporters on this issue. It feels like you're almost encouraging people to bitch about a member to the supporters, which I feel is worse than confronting the person directly about how their conduct is making them feel.
Sometimes it can be helpful to talk to the Supporters if something from the site is upsetting you. The Supporters would never encourage bitching and that is not why it was suggested, it is for if you need further support and, following a few things that have happened in this thread, it's important to know that the Supporters are there if people are upset.
As for saying that a thread isn't productive, although I don't agree with bumping it to say that the thread isn't going anywhere, the fact is that it isn't, and it's not always easy to know how to support someone when they struggle to engage in your posts. There are very few ways to tell a member that they're not using the support given effectively without telling them and, when ignored, becoming understandably frustrated. I think people have given wonderful support in this thread and I think that either Ashlee needs to engage with it now or the talk needs to occur in the relationship thread that she made, instead of moving other threads further down the page.
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