I PMed back saying that if a break is what he needs we can respect that but dont be afraid of upsetting us as we support each other and we know that what we say can be potentiionaly (whoa bad sp) triggering.
Hopefully he will start posting back, will wait for his reply.
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I can't hug people in real life and online it makes me feel like a lier.
that sounds good :) thank you for that!!! that's what support is all about!
i hope he finds the strength within himself to return as i don't think it's completely about hurting us but more that he doesn't think he deserves the support and comfort we're here to give.
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
Jess,
Good Idea about Jeff. I wish I knew how to tell him how much we care.
My husband is my best friend.
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
*sits in her corner, knees to cheat, hands on head and rocks ever so slightly*
Nonononononononononononoidontwanttoidontwanttoidon twanttoicanticanticanticant
*continues rocking ever so slightly*
I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I'm out of control, and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.
~ Marilyn Monroe
Sweetie, I hope you're ok hunni, were you safe? *snuggles*
I'm awful I don't WANT to go
I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I'm out of control, and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.
~ Marilyn Monroe
I'd spent a bit of time talking to Jeff last night. Sent him a pm in my early hours of the morning.
This is his response;
Proof of life, share as you see fit
My husband is my best friend.
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
I want him back so bad too. He is afraid of hurting us because he is so angry.
My husband is my best friend.
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
Marc, could you please let him know how much we want him here, even if he doesn't think it would be good for us?
My anger and sorrow are so big sometimes too, that i worry about it.
Right now I'm triggered. I can't let go of the idea of scarification. I won't do it, but I sure want to. I wish that what i had done in January had scarred, at least a bit of it.
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My husband is my best friend.
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
Just got a reply, He says he doesnt feel safe to be around but will note us that he is "still alive" which is somthing i guess...
Am going to reply sending all our love with it.
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Live your dream? Or Dream your life?
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I can't hug people in real life and online it makes me feel like a lier.
I've heard from him I think there times since he left the ward, once in one of my threads and two PMs... Very supportive, as is Jeff... I wish I knew why he felt like he may hurt us
Just got back from my session... Will post in my 'please, I can't do this...' thread. Suffice it to say it sucked, it was worth it, can't wait to cut and drink later on...
I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I'm out of control, and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.
~ Marilyn Monroe
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
I think the best thing we can do for Jeff right now is pray/think about him and let it be. He worries about hurting us, as he has told us several times before, and our lamenting here would not be helpful to him should he come in lurking to checkup on us. For Jeff, we need to take care of ourselves and eachother and hope that he comes back to our ward soon.
*steps off her soap box and returns to her corner to huddle there feeling... Well she's not sure what but it's not good*
I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I'm out of control, and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.
~ Marilyn Monroe
Please, I need hugs.
I've been crying so much, it is giving me an asthma attack, a bad one.
My husband is my best friend.
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
**** i have the urge, but the urge is in a notacable place. I wont be able to deal with questions and all the **** again...but i need to so somthing. Oh **** my brain hurts cant decide.
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Memento Mori
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Live your dream? Or Dream your life?
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I can't hug people in real life and online it makes me feel like a lier.
