Im really lucky, when my dad left my maternal grandad was terminally ill and my paternal grandad realised he was the closet male role model i had
hes risen to the challenge no end, hes been everything to me, driven 200miles for me, found me in the middle of east ham at 1 in the morning coz i was upset and lost etc, he's just been the most amazing person i could ask for
and then double whammy, my mum married in october and hes fantastic, its not a father daughter relationship coz im 23 so we're never gonna have that but it is a truly amazing bond and he is wonderful, even when i go a bit haywire and push them both to the limits, and to be fair when he met me he could have just said 'I cant deal with this/her' and left but he didnt so im really really lucky
on the down side even with these two amazing men i still go running after affection from my dad and am constantly disappointed and let down but meh
My dad left me and my sister alone when we were 4. Now I'm 16 and we got back into contact when I was 10. Kinda never forgave him for it. So No offence or anything but some of them can be complete wankers.
Never had a real bond with my dad (even though we live in the same house), we are quite distant.. but he's a very detatched person. I get on much better with my mum.
I'm slightly surprised that this thread is still running but clearly relationships between RYLers and their parents are very important - and understandably so.
It seems to me clear that there are good and bad Mums, good and bad Dads - and good and bad offspring (wow, is that really a profound conclusion? Sorry if it's obvious.)
So we've all got to try to make the best of the hand we've been dealt. Those of you who've been blessed with good relationships with your parents, enjoy it. Those who've been less lucky, don't give up on mankind - it can be argued that your traumas and difficulties at home are a form of preparation for getting future relationships, outside your home, into better perspective.
And everyone should have faith that there is somewhere out there a soulmate with whom there'll be complete communion and understanding ...
Oh && just for the record.
My dad rules.
He has all the classic dad jokes (terrible obviously), he says the stupidest things and does the stupidest dances.
He has terrible taste in clothes and hobbies. But those are the things i love about him.
In all his weirdness he's amazing.
And although he's a bit rubbish in the whole knowing who i am and noticing when I'm upset. He still is just top notch.
Daddy's girl all the way me.
"I'll lean on you and you lean on me and we'll be okay"
I'm slightly surprised that this thread is still running but clearly relationships between RYLers and their parents are very important - and understandably so.
It seems to me clear that there are good and bad Mums, good and bad Dads - and good and bad offspring (wow, is that really a profound conclusion? Sorry if it's obvious.)
So we've all got to try to make the best of the hand we've been dealt. Those of you who've been blessed with good relationships with your parents, enjoy it. Those who've been less lucky, don't give up on mankind - it can be argued that your traumas and difficulties at home are a form of preparation for getting future relationships, outside your home, into better perspective.
And everyone should have faith that there is somewhere out there a soulmate with whom there'll be complete communion and understanding ...
Tony (who hadn't meant to start a hare.)
See, you say that, but I'm TERRIFIED of having kids. in the future.
Never had a real bond with my dad (even though we live in the same house), we are quite distant.. but he's a very detatched person. I get on much better with my mum.
Yeah, likewise.
Me and my dad dont really do emotion. We could go a whole week without saying a single word to eachother. The only time he speaks to me is when he feels guilty about something he's done to upset me, wants to get back in my mums good books or is in a good mood. [which isnt often]
I feel kinda awkward around him. Like i dont know what to say to him, its like living with a stranger tbh. But whatever..
Dicky, no-one's obliged to have kids. But that doesn't mean you can't have a complete and fulfilling relationship with someone who also doesn't want kids.
Mind you, once you've got some you'd be surprised how they grow on you - even though you're forever poor thereafter. And I regret not having had a girl though I'd no doubt have been putty in her hands. So I've had to make do with Harley and I'm putty in [u]his[u]hands instead!
