I think that admitting that you need help and getting that help makes you stronger than pretending you are okay when you aren't. School can wait. Your health comes first. I myself am on my second year taking a break from school. It may suck, but with an ED you won't be able to give your best to school and you won't be able to enjoy it like you should. You are young, you have PLENTY of time to go to school
Hang in there beautiful!
I wanna stay inside all day
I want the world to go away
*hugs*
sorry thing are so hard for u hunni and your not selfish,u deserve help
non of this is your fault its a illness ,
im only a pm away take care i hope your meet up with ur cpn goes ok
Hey sweetie,
I am so worried about you right now :(
Please accept the help you need. You deserve to be well, you do.
Sending you massssssive endless snuggles to make up for the fact that I don't know how to help you <3
xxxx
"That is why, for Christ's sake,
I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships,
in persecutions, in difficulties.
For when I am weak, then I am strong"
(2 Corinthians 12:13)
i cant really add much more to what everyone else has said. I just wanted to let you know im here always helen, if you ever need anything.
please accept help, im so scared for you. *cuddles*
I miss chatting to you <3 xxxx
Through the dark, a strand of light, the light continued to get bright, with it came the strength to fight (Gem)
She said like to go in for 2/4 weeks & get stable & then go out again (cause i HAVE to be with my mum right now,, the drs said she's relapsed.) & stay out until I'm 'medically unstable' then go back in... Sounds pointless to me,, yeah it'll keep me alive, but whatever.
You need to take care of yourself before you can help your mom at all, Helen. You aren't going to be any use to anybody if you get more ill than you are now, or if you die. Which is ultimately what is going to happen. And if you get sectioned you won't be able to help either. So maybe you could consider taking this opportunity?
^ I think I would agree with what Sarah said, best person to ask is your psychologist, though. It would make a lot of sense to do it that way, I think, because you could be medically and psychologically treated at the same time for what is a chronic illness.
What do you think, Helen? Which direction would you like your treatment to go in? xxx
Edit, I'm not sure if you're still interested in in-patient ED treatment, but the Yorkshire Centre for Eating Disorders says in its brochure (pdf) that they treat severe bulimia, I'm not sure if their IP service does that, but it might be worth finding out.
i'd go in for 6 months, you need to put you before her, she may not mean it but she's being selfish your mother. & she takes advantage of your caring nature.
you need to get help. you need it now. you have eto accept that. people can take care of yourmum theysaying shs relapsed she can get people to look after her.
It will be hard for you but you need to go in and periodically might be the way to do it for now especially if you arent ready for full recovery.
But either way its where you need to be.
i know you care for your Mum a lot but as said above you wont be here for your Mum or Sar or anyone soon if something does not change.
You need to start to look after yourself.
Please try and work with your team and at least look at the options they are giving you.The options may be difficult for you or not what you want to hear especially while you are so concerned about your Mum and want to look after her hun but Hel seriously i believe your team could of just sectioned you right now - although they probably should give you as much choice as possible in your treatment and i dont think they necessarily have to in these circumstances and they still have the option to take any choice away from you [which may actually may be for your best possibly] so please try and hear them and work with them.
As for your Mum i dont mean to sound disrespectful but to be honest i'm sure she will relapse a darn lot more if her daughter were to die.im sorry if thats blunt.im not trying to guilt trip you.Its just the reality of what i believe would happen.
People both online and offline are so so concerned about you and yes im selfish but personally i couldnt bear to lose you either.i love you!So so much.All the time when im on here or off i worry constantly about whether your alive or dead so i cannot imagine how this must be for either you or those closer to you than me like your Mum and Sar.
Please try and look at any opportunities you are given even if you dont end up taking them - please try and give them a fair consideration.When do you next see your Psychologist/have support?Perhaps you could discuss this further.
Ultimately sweetheart i guess it depends if you want to live or die but the hospital is where you need to be [in my opinion].
i miss talking with you and i love you very much.
xx
Last edited by Sleepless123 : 05-10-2010 at 09:35 PM.
Reason: To add a bit
i do not always manage to be around but i wish you all the very best - love and luck to you all!
Helen, you really should be in the hospital. You are not well and you need to be in a place where they can help you to get well at least physically. None of us want to see you ill, and right now you are definitely not well. Give it a cry honey, college can wait. You are young, and there is always next year if you want to go on a medical leave of absence that might be the best option for you. You don't need to be worrying about school right now. You need to work on getting well <3
Love you.
I wanna stay inside all day
I want the world to go away
It sounds really tough with your mum being ill, but I assume if the doctor said she has relapsed then that at least means she has her own support?
If your psychologist thinks you need to be in hospital, then you should at least try it. You're no use to your mum seriously ill yourself. If you focus on getting better, you'll be in a much better position to help your mum.
Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes but when you look back, everything is different…
you once called your brain a hard drive, well say hello to the virus.
*hugs*
i agree sweetie i know its harsh but hospitial may be the best plae for you at the momment ,we all want what is best for you know one wants to see you dead i dont like to use that word but couldnt find better word
everyone wants you to get better even if its little steps at a time
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This thread isnt about me and i dont want to make it about me.
im not sure i should post this but Hel im so scared you really will die soon.Seriously.
i sit on RYL or at home and i literally wonder moment to moment if your alive or dead.
You mean so much to me and so many others here.
i knows its so hard for you to go into the hospital but i dont dare think of the outcome anymore if you dont real soon.
i love you and i couldnt bear to lose you.
You have people closer to you than me.im not sure how you or they must feel right now cos this must be so hard.
im sorry if it was inappropriate to put this here.Mods please feel free to remove and Hel if you dont want it here also please ask the mods to delete and thats ok but i just....maybe im selfish...but i just i need to get you to get help or i need to get you help...and i fear im running out of time pretty fast.
im scared for you Hel.So scared.
i love you and i would do anything to help you with recovery or even stabilising if you arent ready for full recovery.
i want to see you well and happy one day but i fear i wont.
i fear so much i wont and it makes me cry.
Please think about things.Please.
They need to help you and they should have done it sooner.
i know you probably hate me but if you cant go hosp yourself i really hope they section you soon.i would rather you hate me for life cos you know i wish this than to have a best friend die.
i love you.
xx xx
i do not always manage to be around but i wish you all the very best - love and luck to you all!
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