With re. to Minty's idea. Good idea, no need for you to think it may be stupid etc. But I think that has already been done in several forms around the place and in articles and may just be in an SH thing where it says severity of wounds don't matter, it's emotions and stuff but I don't know how easy they are to find. I know a lot of people hold assumptions that don't reign true but then I *think* (though feel free to kick me up the arse if I'm wrong!) it's said elsewhere here and there dotted around in articles for the particular type. However, a thread/ article of this nature could well be a possibility. I just don't know where it would go as breaking general assumptions about all SH, ED & MH things spans a few forums. Now you could say therefore it could go into serious but not everyone looks there. GSA wouldn't necessarily be a good place either as many people go on there when they don't want to be triggered at all and those that are or where all the competition happens isn't there... But it could be we have an article and that there are links to this at first in different forums or we divide the idea into sub-sections with a thread for each in their necessary boards though, just reminding people of these facts in threads, even if even if you're directing it at someone who seems to be looking more on the pro-side or that they need more help because they have 'more diagnoses' or whatever as well as being competitive, may not go a miss and may actually be the most useful thing.
But, I think it's definately something worth contacting the community team and/ or supporters about so that they can look further into this. Cam (random.swirls) is the head of the CT as a whole so she can put this to the people in charge of a team where this would be suited (or if any of you guys are in the CT then bring it up in the forums there; I'm not in it). Same as Chloe (klo_flo), who is the head of the supporters and either/ both of these teams can look further into that or any other possibilities. You can contact them via PM so even if you're not sure but you have some ideas it may be worth doing something.
I know i'm being really unproductive here & i'm not picking up on anyone specifically. but talking about the atmosphere of mental illness on this site, this discussion does not need people to comment about if they've been in hospital or not, or if they have stitches or not, do you know what i mean?
it's very anecdotal, yet several timers, hospital & if they've been in & cutting & stitches has been brought into conversation, whereas some people have offered replies which doesn't mention their health.
I'm not sure the point in this reply & it's not helpful in the slightest, but it is something i've noticed.
Thanks Irene, I'm not deliberately trying ot make people feel bad, but you can construct a thread & converse & discuss in this without bringing in your mental health history/ongoings, plenty have done it, so why not all?
i dunno, it reminds me of the hospital thread, in which i tried to raise my point, & keep failing.
you can say well i was in so&so hospital.
or i could say
i was in so&so hospital last year for a few months, on secure & acute wards, & as an outpatient.
the second one seems more competitive i feel, because i've mentioned the wards & how long, of course, if someone then asked "oh when were you at harplands" i could then answer, am i making the point clear? i don't know, i'm thinking i'm missing it,
i suppose in that case, the mentioning of the hospitals in not so much competitive (as you could have been to many in short spaces of time or one for a long period of time) but more, time & what wards & why etc.
ok I know I am a few pages late but I want to say something. Some of you guys love your labels but on the flip side there are some of us who avoid them at all costs. I know personally you would have to force me to go to a counselor, psyc, therapist and I refuse to take any meds. And I know that just the idea that I might fulfill the new DSM criteria is a scary prospect.
Also having any sort of Dx automatically fails your physical if you are trying to be a diplomat.
Then wear the gold hat, if that will move her;
If you can bounce high, bounce for her too,
Till she cry "Lover, gold-hatted, high-bouncing lover,
I must have you!"
Thomas Parke D’Invilliers
I know i'm being really unproductive here & i'm not picking up on anyone specifically. but talking about the atmosphere of mental illness on this site, this discussion does not need people to comment about if they've been in hospital or not, or if they have stitches or not, do you know what i mean?
it's very anecdotal, yet several timers, hospital & if they've been in & cutting & stitches has been brought into conversation, whereas some people have offered replies which doesn't mention their health.
I'm not sure the point in this reply & it's not helpful in the slightest, but it is something i've noticed.
I had to go back and check I hadn't done so but although I haven't mentioned stitches/hospitalisation, I think I might have fallen down on the mentioning my own health bit. Sorry.
"Everything is possible through Christ, who gives me strength". Phillipians 4:13
I had to go back and check I hadn't done so but although I haven't mentioned stitches/hospitalisation, I think I might have fallen down on the mentioning my own health bit. Sorry.
Don't apologize!
I'm not wording this right really, it's like, I can understand people posting saying that certain thins posted means they don't feel validated that makes them feel bad or something, I'm talking about people that seem to have just put in about hospital or stitches because they've seen a chance to say that they've been in hospital or had stitches (or the complete opposite, they haven;t been in hospital or haven't had stitches).
*rolls eyes*
he didn't say YOU PERSONALLY loved them.
there are some people who do love them and would be lost without them, which tbh is silly. you are not a label.
i personally think when people list their diagnosis's it's stupidly competitive, and there's no need for it unless you are asking a question related to them. for example 'i have this and this, is there anyway to combat them together' or something along those lines. i agree with tom & erinn (i think that's your name?)
I'd feel very lost without my illnesses & disorders, but simply because that is all I've ever known, & since they are who I am, & I define myself by them, without them, I'd be extremely insecure & very scared of what would be then... at the same time, I wish I could be "normal".
& Rolling your eyes doesn't make you look any more maturer you know.
I don't really say I can't do something because of my illness, I just feel they are who I am.
I do still try, I'm recovering from a lot of them, & I fight back as hard as I can, but I still feel they are who I am inside, & that's all I'll ever be.
Tbh, since not a lot of others have said they define themselves by their labels, I don't get why it wouldn't be directed at some people & for him to assume that they love them is well, stupid in my opinion... Just because someone defines themselves as something does not mean they enjoy it or love it.
