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[Cazki]

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Originally Posted by talaiporia

But what are we lacking?

Well i am not going to answer that question all the time people are rude and show a total direspect for me/others. Plus when i say things it gets changed to something that i didnt even say. I missed a point someone was saying to me and apologised to that person so i think you can say i do care. That is not meant in a sarcastic way at all.

[Pi.R^2]

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Originally Posted by Atlantica

No its not the same at all. I dont hate ryl, it is just lacking and poor.

OK, maybe we have different interpretations of the word. I would describe the company I work for as lacking and poor, and that is pretty much me saying that they're crap. Poor and crap are fairly synonymous in my vocabulary, the only difference being I'd not use the latter in front of my mother. But I apologise, I clearly interpreted it differently to how you meant it.

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Originally Posted by The One Who

Not really. RYL is lacking in certain things, and it's quite naive to think otherwise. Yes, of course it has its good points, but it's also got its bad. And it is these bad points that are continually brought up and shot down, it gets pretty tiresome after a while.

For the moods, I see little point in discussing them when we know it's something that can't be changed or altered. I'm all for discussing things that can be changed in some way though.

(And the term "flidding" is quite offensive, even when used in a joking manner.)

It was the 'poor' bit that I felt meant crap, or at least 'quite bad'.
And on the flidding issue, I would never of expected it to be actually made a mood, as I know it is not very politically correct. Just like I don't think "sporting an erection" or "sparkling like a cullen" would of made the cut either. I was just messing on.

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Originally Posted by Buttons.

^ I agree with the whole freedom of speech angle, although at the same time if someone uses a word in a context I find offensive and I ask them politely not to use that word in that way in my presence, I would expect the respect for that person to refrain from using it (where possible/not accidentally slipping out) in my presence. (Bit of a side note.)

Regarding RYL I have to admit I would see having a 'flidding' mood as bad as if we had 'spazzer' as a mood.

I will most definitely try to reign in my use of the word 'flidding' when I meet you in real life, but if I'm honest I don't feel the need to censor myself on the internet. If it became an RYL rule that the word 'flidding' was banned I would by all means follow it, but otherwise no. I don't know if it makes me a bad person, but that's just the way I am. I'm not very politically correct. It is always clear from context that I do not actually mean any disrespect to those affected by thalidomide and to me as long as I am not deliberately being cruel, it is the choice of the reader to be offended by it or not.

[Buttons.]

^ That's exactly the attitude I respect, not expecting you to change your online speech but appreciate your saying you will refrain from using it when I'm present where possible :)

[The One Who]

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Originally Posted by Bellatrix

Some people find words offensive, others don't. I think everyone has to accept people are entitled to use whatever words they like and if you don't like a word, you just don't use it.
I've said this before but words change meaning over time. Crap, for example. Retarded, as another. Gay, as a third.

Of course, but RYL shouldn't condone it. Seems a bit odd that it's fine to use words that are, by-and-large, considered offensive, but on a self-harm site people need to be careful what (and where) they talk about specific aspects self-harm.

I doubt RYL would consider accepting the words faggot, nigger and cunt into common usage, even though all three can be, and are, used regularly in a non-offensive way.

I just hope that in future if someone uses a word that you dislike you'll remember your response on this thread.

[Bellatrix]

^Um. I don't think there are any words a person could use in jest that I would find offensive. Said seriously and with intent to hurt then yes, of course it's not okay. Eg, a friend of mine says things like, 'is it coz i is a nigga' when she's joking around. But if someone called her that name with intent to insult then it would not be okay at all.

[Pi.R^2]

^ditto.
I don't think you'll ever find an example of me getting into a paddy about people using 'taboo' words in a non-offensive jokey manner. People use the c-word on RYL quite a lot, and I don't really like it, but I wouldn't suggest they should stop, just because of my personal preference. I politely ask people not to call me 'hun' or variants of the word, but I just recoil inwardly when they do and let them get on with it.