Does anyone remember the first time they ever found themselves thinking about someone differently? I mean, the first time you ever went 'ooh' or, you know, 'ooft' at someone?
I do, I was 10 and it was a woman, and that's what I base my thoughts around completely. I mean, it wasn't a concious decision, especially aged 10, to turn round and think about women, it was an automatic response totally. I do believe that you can act against your sexuality, any gay/bi or straight person can do it, but it's what you really feel and think that defines your sexuality. It's the same with anything really, when you think about it, I mean, you can spend your whole life pretending you're not a Spice Girls fan, when really there's nothing you want to do more than 'a-zig-a-zig-ah!'
(^ I realise this is probably quite a lame example, but you get my drift.)
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Now I'll play your ghost as my ace, whenever I'm led astray.
But I am actually good, can't help it if we're tilted.
I'm in my right place, don't be a downer.
I do, I was 10 and it was a woman, and that's what I base my thoughts around completely. I mean, it wasn't a concious decision, especially aged 10, to turn round and think about women, it was an automatic response totally. I do believe that you can act against your sexuality, any gay/bi or straight person can do it, but it's what you really feel and think that defines your sexuality. It's the same with anything really, when you think about it, I mean, you can spend your whole life pretending you're not a Spice Girls fan, when really there's nothing you want to do more than 'a-zig-a-zig-ah!'
This.
'Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.'
['There is only one thing we say to death. Not today'.']
'We are each our own devil, and we make this world our hell. Oscar Wilde
Its hard to dance with the devil on your back. Sydney Carter
I'm a firm believer in the fact that every human action and thought can be moulded in some way, if you want it to be. Who we are is fluid, it isn't absolute, set in stone - and why should sexuality be any different within that?
Due to the religion i was brought up in, i believed for years that i wasn't really gay, believed that i just had "gay attractions" sometimes, and i spent years acting straight and believing that i had the power to make myself fully straight, ridding myself of those thoughts. no matter how hard i tried, i could not make myself attracted to a male. i tried everything. and i truly believed that i wasn't actually gay, i believed that was a choice at the time. i think that the human mind has incredible powers; i even think it might be possible for some people to change their sexuality. maybe some people's is more fluid than others. but i do know that for me, no ammount of acting, believing, or denying could change me. i think that what you said is true to a point. but i think there is a line where you must decide to accept that there are some things that you just can't change about yourself.
Funnily enough I was discussing this with a friend the other day. He reckons it is a choice, whilst I don't. His argument was that a gay man can sleep with a woman making him straight. I said if that happened the gay man is in denial or experimenting.
I have friends who are gay or bi and they say it isn't a choice, and I also agree with someone who said, "Why would you choose something that is the minority?" It is true...Why would you choose to be hated by many people [which I think is wrong] when you can choose not to be hated?
I just think you're born that way, and it's not a bad thing, it's just the way it is.
I dunno, that's just my two cents.
'Coincidence...it's what the Universe does for...fun.'
The Doctor
