The Safe Room

[shadow-light]

none is it's your fault.

I think we all at times ask "why me", but to be honest I don't think there is a reason. It's them who are bad, not us

[troubleshooter]

People who hurt others often choose people they think are lonely, easily scared and don't have many people to support them Becky. You didn't do anything to deserve being hurt. No one can, even if you do really naughty things. That doesn't mean you deserve being abused and hurt.

[frenchhorn]

i stupid, did stupid things last night and know i just cant even play french horn anymore, wish they would go away

[l.e.g.o]

mummy hit jo
mummy not want jo
she tell jo useless
she tell jo her fault the r*pe happened
she right tho
she say jo stupid
she say jo dirty

[frenchhorn]

jo is none of those things and does not desreve to be hit

[StillBroken]

I scared
*hiding in corner*

[troubleshooter]

*holds Jo's hand* It's very wrong for mummy to hit you and say all those awful things. She's not right saying you're dirty and it's your fault you were hurt or those other nasty things.

What did you do Imogen? Everyone makes mistakes

[Cacoethes]

becky must have done something wrong

[shadow-light]

Jo, my mum says that it was my fault I was r*ped too...

but it's not true. Some people just don't understand, like my mum thinks that in order for it to be "real r*pe" the woman has to be left seriously injured or dead, otherwise they didn't fight enough... but that's not true at all.
People say nasty things where they are angry, and smetimes people just say nasty things for no justifiable reason. But that doesn't make what they say true

[l.e.g.o]

no touchy jo dirty
jo very dirty
she shout at jo for it
she say dont jo know about being protected etc
jo remeber when little scary things mummy did

[troubleshooter]

No Becky, you didn't do anything wrong to deserve that. If you try to figure it out it will probably only hurt more to try and figure it out baby. Would you like to cuddle? And maybe tell about who hurt you/what happened? I don't know, and you don't have to if you don't want to. Up to you honey. I'm Tracie if you didn't know

[shadow-light]

why must you have done wrong?

Even if you did do wrong NOONE deserves to be hurt, and no matter what you did you're still human so you don't deserve hurt.


These bad people have some odd ability, they can see vulnerbility, see hurt, sense who and how thy can hurt. They misuse this skill to hurt people, it's a bad reflection on THEM not you

[troubleshooter]

*hugs Jo gently* Shh, sweetie pie, you're not dirty at all. No one here thinks so and you'll get cuddled and loved on a WHOLE lot here. What little scary things did mummy do honey?

[l.e.g.o]

when little mumy hurt jo bad
she want jo dead
she try strangle jo

[frenchhorn]

i looked them up on facebook and now i cant stop remembering all the years, it scaring me and i tried not to, but cut last night and arm hurts, feel so stupid

[troubleshooter]

Oh goodness Jo that is real scary. *hugs you gently* That's very wrong of mummy to do to you. No little one deserves that. WAnt to share anything else that happened? And Imogen honey maybe try to do something calming and nice. And avoid the pull of facebook! It won't bring any good =P *hugs*

[shadow-light]

Looking up the bad people is never good... though often VERY empting for some reason... try not to look again, maybe go offline for a while if you feel tempted.
Maybe do smething nice tonight for you, might make you feel a bit better :)

[l.e.g.o]

she tell jo she bad jo not allowed to cry ever
jo get hit if cry
she threaten put jo in care
jo was only 4

[shadow-light]

Crying is healthy.


Thugh for some reason parents don't seem to like crying I don;t know why.


But there is nothing wrong with crying, your mum was wrog to do that

[troubleshooter]

*gives Jo a Garfield teddy* That's very mean of mummy to do to little Jo. You weren't much more than a toddler. Little ones need to cry, it's not nice to tell them they can't.