I know it is going too fast! My antenatal care hasn't been great because I have been seeing different people all the time but a midwife turned up out of the blue yesterday and said she heard about what was happening and so she is going to see me from now on so I get some consistency. She is coming today to do a birth plan :)
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hey guys, could really use some advice we are trying to potty train, we are on day 4
he is 2 and 10 months so well within the age range (im wondering if maybe we have waited too long)
we have not had anything on the potty
ive tried letting him wet himself - he doesen't care and doesen't tell me
tried a sticker chart and he doesen't care
he wont sit on the potty,
and i just dont know what to try now
he is dressing and undressing himeself
he is very verbal and can tell me when hes hungry and what he wants ect
he is dry for over 2 hours
cant remember the other signs
Debbie have you tried him with a toddler seat on the toilet? I know some children I have worked with really didn't like the potty but once they thought they were using the proper toilet they were much better with it.
I haven't done much on my birth plan apart from just basic stuff like saying I want to be moving around as much as possible and that I want to avoid pain relief but if I do have any I may need anti-emetics because a lot of pain relief, entinox especially, makes me very sick. I have put in that I would like dim lights and they are going to do as few intrusive examinations as possible. She is coming back on Sunday and we are going to put a bit more in about grounding and things we can do to avoid me panicking. She was really really nice though and very understanding not like some of the nasty judgmental ones I have seen.
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When i was having Oliver, i said outright that i didnt want a man doing my internals, and they were fine with it.
And then i felt really bad and i apologised to the male nurse for making it look like i didnt trust him/couldnt do his job, but he wasnt even bothered. :P
regards to the rest of your birth plan, have you thought about delayed cord cutting and such?
Deb, i really wish i had some advice but i have zero experience.
My sister has just started toilet training her little boy who is 2 years and 3 months. and she has a toilet seat thing that goes over the proper toilet and a step up. Cos hes quite tall, she said he had said he was uncomfortable on a potty.
we have a seat for the toilet, but he wont sit on it, he knows its sauls special seat but he doesent want to sit on it
honestly, i just want to cry! i want to walk out the door alone and never come back,
I dont love rebecca, I hate her name i dont want her i dont want to be woken every night i dont want lis life ruled by nappies and bottles and i cant see the point in anything i really have had enough, i dont want my kids to have the messed up life that i have had
The fact that you don't want your kids to have a messed up life means you must feel some love towards them.
Has anything in particular brought this on Deb?
I'm fine! Totally fine. I don't know why it's coming out all loud and squeaky, 'cause really, I'm fine!
What about distractions when he's on the potty? Like bubbles or books or even phone apps. So he doesn't really notice he is on. Also I read in the early days confining yourself and him to a room for a day with lots of toys the potty and no underwear. As soon as you notice the signs plonk him on. Eventually apparently you and him both learn to pick up the signs.
Jasmine is really clingy at the moment.
She has been a bit ill for the last couple of days. probably because she's nearly got a tooth through. she was quite lethargic yesterday, and quite tired today.
She's still a happy little girly though!
3 days ago, i left her with the contact worker so i could go to the toilet, and when i came back she was crying! its weird because most of the workers have never seen her cry, because she very rarely does!
it seems to be getting worse, today, i didn't even leave the room, all it took was me handing her to the contact worker (who Jasmine does know quite well) and she burst into tears, then stopped immediately when i took her back.
and when she was sat on the floor so i could clear up, she didn't want her toys, she was just worried about where i was and followed my every move!
not gonna lie, im pretty happy that she wants me and misses me when im not there, but im a little worried that she's just getting really clingy?
oh, and she fed herself with a spoon as well! she took the spoon off me at lunch and put it straight in her mouth. so proud!
this was her today, happy despite teething and blocked nose and general un-wellness!
I'm fine! Totally fine. I don't know why it's coming out all loud and squeaky, 'cause really, I'm fine!
Ella's having accidents daily again, damn half term ruining the routine. She's coming home from nursery wet because she doesn't get to the toilet in time and she doesn't say if she's wet.
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Debbie, what is stopping you from speaking to your doctor?
Glad to hear you had a breakthrough though! :)
Charlie, I do like the idea of delayed cord clamping but I am not sure if I can have that if I have the injection? I will ask the midwife on Sunday.
I worked out yesterday I have 5 weeks to write my entire dissertation, 2 assignments and do a presentation whilst also keeping the business running. I think I am going to have to defer my final deadlines and submit in August which means I can't graduate till next summer which is really ****.
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Hey guys i just need to vent somewhere so im gonna put it in a hide box n its up to you guys if you have any suggestions on how i don't be waiting for my husband with some kind of inventive torture device tonight lol
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So i've been sleeping on the couch (or the floor as baby demands attention) for the last three days so my hubby doesn't need to wake everytime gideon decides he needs holding/feeding/changing. Since he's been going through a growth spurt he's been feeding every hour, and is inconsolable in between feedings, he will NOT sleep unless i am holding him, if i'm lucky i can sneak him into the bassinet and get 20 mins before he realises and wakes up.
So right now i'm working on about 6 hours sleep in the last three days, and i love my son and totally get his tummy hurts when he eats a lot and holding makes him feel better, so i don't mind doing that, i don't mind that he FREAKED out about me putting his diaper on last night, so i held him and got pee'd and pooped on until he calmed down enough to wash him up and put on a diaper.
Now i get that yes my hubby is working, and choosing to work ten hour days, but yesterday Gideon was screaming and hubby asks 'well do you even burp him after feeding?' uh yes, for like half an hour, many different ways, all with minimal success. He says 'i know when you're lying to me, you hesitate' no dear, i hesitated because i haven't slept and took a moment to process what you said!
Then this morning i wake him up at 6, because he gets up at 6, has done for the last 8 months even though he doesnt start work till 8:30 he chooses to go in at 6:30. He freaked out on me about how i wake him up when he was just passing out and he has to go work a 10 hour day and i can nap (not whilst the baby needs holding 24/7) and all i do for my 'job' is, and i quote 'stick my tit in his mouth and change him'
I am seething right now, i drive his ass to work in the mornings even when Gideon just got to sleep, because his lazy ass cant even get a learners licence! He was so good for the first week and a half we had the baby, now hes barely even holding him, i get that he's fussing and its mostly me that can comfort him, but he's not going to feel more comfy if my hubby just looks over and says hi to him for 5 mins in a day :(
I can't believe how big Jasmine is now, she's so pretty too!
Katy i went in with no birth plan at all lol, i vaguely knew i wanted the delayed cord clamping but with everything totally forgot to mention it. All i really knew was nobody was taking my baby out of my sight for even a second XD I was totally paranoid about babys being switched at birth for some reason, the amount of tags me and him had though it would have been very hard to do, but still!
Deb that's awesome that you're feeling a little better about the potty training, hopefully he keeps using it!! Is it just a culmination of all the stress making you feel that way about rebecca maybe? How old is she (sorry i don't know!)
Just be persistent with the potty training, its great you've finally had a break through and he's used it. Put him on there every half hour, and if its in the bathroom, run the taps, If he's a bit funny about sitting on there, use bubbles, or books to distract him. He will get there. Some children just take longer then others. And remember lots and lots of praise, stickers, high fives!
It's so easy to get lost in constantly having to present
whatever face you believe a person wants to see rather than your own
It sounds like he has got colic if he is crying because his tummy hurts. Have you tried gripe water or infacol they are meant to help. Lucas was never that bad so we didn't use it that much but I was told by the health visitor it's meant to be good.
We had gripe water for Oliver, and it produced some splendid burps. If you cant get it over ther, let me know, i'll post some to you.
re: the crying, trust me, it does pass. Oliver was such a little **** the first few months we had him (i think probs if you scroll back a few pages you'll see), but honestly it does pass.
I strongly believe that the routines and roles you put in place now will stick as being 'the way its done'.
Perhaps if you get time it would be worth working out some kind of schedule, or trying to involve him when youre calming
the baby down. It must be hard for the men.. we have this amazing tool at our disposal and they dont.
I found the most important thing was to not let the babys mood dictte the mood of the house. we're lucky that we live with two oher people that kept us distracted, but its easy for everyone because emotionally strung out. I think babies sense that too.
I tried gripe water and it worked for about 5 mins, then nada x-X I've been using Ovol drops today (it says not to use without advice of a dr but its not prescription so screw them it'll take me a week to get an appt) and he seems a million times better today, hes still not burping great after feeding but he seems to be getting it up himself when he's hanging out. I hope it passes sooner rather than later, it breaks my heart seeing him like that!
The main issue is Gideon starts crying and Patrick just passes him to me with 'he only wants you anyway' so im trying really hard to pass him to daddy when he's alert and happy. Me and Patrick are both complete a-holes when we're tired so its not so much Gideons mood as us grating on each other, plus i hold a grudge when he hurts my feelings even though i know i shouldn't. He just makes me feel crappy and has implied multiple times that its my fault Gideons in pain (like the saying i dont burp him), and when i was letting him comfort nurse he's all oh great so let him eat more so he can puke again x-X
