Y'all need to chill out, if you're not getting support in chat then go the forums or go to Live Help if it's online. Or email the supporters. In don't know why people are shitting all over chat, it's not the only place that you can get support. IT's not the onlny plave in RYL with problems. On the whole chat is pretty good, and the prefect place on RYL if you're looking for a distraction, so you might not get direct support, but there are plenty other options. If you don't like something then report it if it's against the rules, and if it's not stop being so uptight, RYL has thousands of members, it's not ehre to please you, and you alone. What one person finds supportive someone else might not, I for one favour distracting conversation over direct support, as that usually cheers me up, and if not I'm usually awake long enough to be too tired to do anyhitng anyway.
Leave the chat regulars alone, ebcause we may go there msot often but anyone who's ever entered chat, including the people complaining, are part of this problem.
In my opinion, there isn't a problem chat. I think the biggest problem chat has is the hoards of people who complaining about it, and the regulars unfairly, so people will come to its defence and pointless arguing will ensue :/
Dont take this the wrong way but, what is this? Attack chat regulars month?
Chat moves very fast, and yes, people get missed when saying hello. So as people have said, join in in coversations. How do you think people get known in the first place? It's not by sitting on the list and reading everything.
Ive found a lot of people use the excuse that they are shy, have social anxiety, or whatever. Everyone man and his dog have this, its old.
Basically what im saying is, everyone started off right where you are. Then they got over themselves and talked to people, joined in in conversations, Chatted to people, sent some pms. that kind of thing.
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Originally Posted by Crumple...
Y'all need to chill out, if you're not getting support in chat then go the forums or go to Live Help if it's online. Or email the supporters. In don't know why people are shitting all over chat, it's not the only place that you can get support. IT's not the onlny plave in RYL with problems. On the whole chat is pretty good, and the prefect place on RYL if you're looking for a distraction, so you might not get direct support, but there are plenty other options. If you don't like something then report it if it's against the rules, and if it's not stop being so uptight, RYL has thousands of members, it's not ehre to please you, and you alone. What one person finds supportive someone else might not, I for one favour distracting conversation over direct support, as that usually cheers me up, and if not I'm usually awake long enough to be too tired to do anyhitng anyway.
Leave the chat regulars alone, ebcause we may go there msot often but anyone who's ever entered chat, including the people complaining, are part of this problem.
In my opinion, there isn't a problem chat. I think the biggest problem chat has is the hoards of people who complaining about it, and the regulars unfairly, so people will come to its defence and pointless arguing will ensue :/
Couldnt put it much better than you guys. Im not a regular anymore but I just cant stand these threads anymore..
I WILL FORGET THOSE THAT HAVE HURT ME
BUT I WILL NEVER FORGET THOSE WHO ARE ALWAYS THERE TO HELP ME
I have been on chat and needed support and asked more than once in a session and been ignored. It was rough and almost pushed me over the edge. I did post but I was scared to go into chat for a long time. I saw some of these same type threads and decided I did not give chat a chance. I went into general chat when i was in a good space and talked about whatever. But eventually it seemed like i was pushed out of the conversation because people that others knew were in the room and I think i am done with chat for a while now. I also greeted people as they came in so that maybe i could start up a conversation with someone who was not already involved with a conversation. i ended up feeling like chat was not for me.
i can understand chat regulars feeling attacked. there have been alot of these threads. but i think that people are voicing a concern about the tone of ryl and chat seems to be the focus. there are other threads that also talk about replies to threads and that sort of thing. I think that these threads are more about a feeling of unwelcome that people are having and not an attack on chat.
it is true that this will go aroung in circles. regulars tell new people to post in introductions and reply to more posts and introduce themselves in chat and not give up everyone was new once. new people talk about feeling disconnected and isolated and unsupported. i think that the suggestion of people picking one day a week and replying to 3 different threads in two different rooms of people you do not know is a good one. i think it is a suggestion that is helpful for new members to get known and regulars to make sure they are not isolating themselves in a clique.
have a nice day
listen and learn
the universe speaks
as we crawl and crave
as we love and weep
there is no fate
there is only what we make
I have been on chat and needed support and asked more than once in a session and been ignored. It was rough and almost pushed me over the edge. I did post but I was scared to go into chat for a long time. I saw some of these same type threads and decided I did not give chat a chance. I went into general chat when i was in a good space and talked about whatever. But eventually it seemed like i was pushed out of the conversation because people that others knew were in the room and I think i am done with chat for a while now. I also greeted people as they came in so that maybe i could start up a conversation with someone who was not already involved with a conversation. i ended up feeling like chat was not for me.
i can understand chat regulars feeling attacked. there have been alot of these threads. but i think that people are voicing a concern about the tone of ryl and chat seems to be the focus. there are other threads that also talk about replies to threads and that sort of thing. I think that these threads are more about a feeling of unwelcome that people are having and not an attack on chat.
it is true that this will go aroung in circles. regulars tell new people to post in introductions and reply to more posts and introduce themselves in chat and not give up everyone was new once. new people talk about feeling disconnected and isolated and unsupported. i think that the suggestion of people picking one day a week and replying to 3 different threads in two different rooms of people you do not know is a good one. i think it is a suggestion that is helpful for new members to get known and regulars to make sure they are not isolating themselves in a clique.
have a nice day
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We are not responsible for you being 'almost pushed over the edge' we are not a crisis support or therapists. If things are that bad get off your computer and go DO something about it.
Last edited by typsee : 17-03-2009 at 10:23 PM.
Reason: totally unnecessary and rude comment
Waa for you?
We are not responsible for you being 'almost pushed over the edge' we are not a crisis support or therapists. If things are that bad get off your computer and go DO something about it.
I have sought help. I was in need of some support. This post was unnecessary and hurtful. If you read my entire post I also defended the chat regulars and offered a possible route that regulars and newbies could use in order to more fully integrate themselves into the ryl community.
I also find it disconcerting that people encouraged this type of response to my post
Last edited by teenytineytori : 14-03-2009 at 11:41 PM.
Reason: added something
listen and learn
the universe speaks
as we crawl and crave
as we love and weep
there is no fate
there is only what we make
I think it's very true, though, that RYL can only do so much. It's supposed to be an emotional crutch, not a support. You can't begin to rely on it, and if things that happen on here do almost push you over the edge, to coin that phrase, then perhaps RYL isn't the place for you.
When something, anything, begins to damage you, it's not going to be a helpful place. RYL is supposed to be here for like-minded people, with similar issues, to talk about their issues, to find support - but to expect that within a crisis is unreasonable and, I think, expecting far too much from the service and its' users.
Couldnt put it much better than you guys. Im not a regular anymore but I just cant stand these threads anymore..
