I dont think i will ever be free. It seems to be the only thing thats helped ever. It doesnt bother me though. Ive learned to live with this imperfection.
I think that it's all up to a persons basic personality. Some might be able to say they've stopped, some, like me, won't. I've selfharmed in one way or an other, for as long as I can remember, and when I've tried to stop I just end up wioth more serious SH. So pauses is the thing for me, and I believe there will come a day that one of my "SH-pauses" might last for years, but I don't think I will ever be able to say for sure I've stopped for good.
I'm really glad for those of you who say you have stopped, and have that "never again" feeling in you though :)
She's lying there dead, but she's still breathing -- Lisa Loeb
i think that I have.
Its been a year and a half now, and I had one really tough time where I would typically turn to si, and i havent. I dont think about it as the cure all solution it used to be for me. And I sort of feel disgusted if I even think of it as an option for me?
i dont even come to ryl anymore really, only if im bored.
i think i have quit for good as well coz i dnt seem to get the urges anymore i havent cut for 22 days i know thts not long but the last time i did it didnt seem to do anything it didnt release and i haven't had any urges since so i really do believe tht i quit for good
I feel like maybe I have, because I'm approaching 6 months free (27th this month!) and I feel like I've changed from who I was when I was self-injuring ... I'm not that same person and I'm not in that same place that I might be driven to do it again.
Then again, I'd never say never.
It's been 18 months (with 1 slip) but I still don't feel like I can say that's it for good. I just can't bear to set myself up for failure like that. I know how close I've come to breaking; I just can't say for certain that I'll never do it again.
This is such a good thread, it's really positive. It's been 6 days since my last cut. But yesterday I just decided that I've had enough. Yeah, I like the blood and the scars and I dont feel guilty when I cut. But that's when something takes over and I have no control over it. But I want to take back that control. I dont want to be SI'ing for the rest of my life, so I figure I have to quit at some stage. With my thinking being so clear at the moment it seems like a good time to try to quit. Any words of advice from those that have quit would be great thanks.
Today I'll try to become more aware of alternatives that I haven't yet realised.
Although I have no control over other people's reactions or thoughts, I can change the way I react.
i like to think i wont ever go back to self harming but i still get urges but i know giving in will just make me unhappy.
for me cutting help anymore and stopping cutting has helped me find better ways to cope.Only a few slip ups in 8 months,i am getting close to never feeling the need to again.
I'm sure some day I will go back to it, but I try not to think of it and just keep a good frame of mind. Though, I think it'll be hard to shake forever.
I can honestly say that I have no idea if I've stopped for good or not. And that's after more than 2 years of not doing anything. It's always in the back of my mind when I'm upset, especially recently as literally everything I thought was secure and unmoveable has been shattered. I've still not done anything but I've been very tempted. So I really don't know that I am 'free' from it.
Sorry for the long reply, I go off on one sometimes :)
I haven't in nearly two years now, and not really seriously repetitively in the last seven years. I do get tempted, when nothing else seems to help I do tend to lapse slightly, but generally I've got good at resisting.
I'm not sure I'd call myself free tho, it still has a weird kinda hold over me. I think theres still a part of me that likes to see myself suffer.
i can honestly say that i will never do it again, it nearly cost me the best thing i have in my life and i know that if i did it again i would lose that and i just wouldnt be able to do that to myself or to him. ive been free now for 8 months, not long but i do consider myself completly free. :)
You know Ive been thinking about leaving RYL for good for a while now and I couldnt figure out why, and then tonight it hit me. Its because I really feel so alone here at RYL. I couldnt seem to find anyone who has stopped and stopped for good like me. Im so happy I stumbled on to this thread best I DO KNOW that I have stopped Self-harming and I have stopped for good. I have no desire to do it EVER again and I never ever think about it anymore. So Im really pleased to find that I am not alone in this. Thank you ♥
Honestly, I cannot say that I stopped for good and will never ever again cut myself.
There are still sooo many doubts and sooo many thoughts about it and I am not sure if I really wanted to stop or if I just stopped to do other people a favour.
Moreover, there would be too much pressure if I said that I stopped for good.
The last slip up is three months ago but I am afraid that I will relapse again- like the other times before when I tried to stop SI.
I can't control my destiny.
I trust my soul. My only goal is just to be. (Rent)
I'm selfish, inpatient and a little insecure.
I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle but if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. (Marilyn Monroe)
I have felt like that before, but then something majorly triggering usually happens. But I suppose that you are feeling something totally different. Good luck with everything! Take care. xxx
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
I'm just curious because I know, somehow I just know for a fact, that I will never ever go back to self harming. No question about it.
Does anyone else feel like this?
I once felt like that, but it goes to prove that you think you'll never do it again but sometimes you may fall & do it again. Anyway best of luck & I hope you coutinue to have success, my best was ALMOST two years! I was thinking I'd never ever sh again but I did, but I'm back & fighting once again.....
I know I won't. I'm not the same person. I still get urges, but every time I just know inside that I won't give in. It's great that others feel the same.
i thought id update on my previous post where i said i thought id given up for good coz i wasn't getting urges well i dunno about that anymore coz although i still haven cut i am getting the urges again and finding it really hard to resist but i have resisted so far and its been nearly 2 mnths now
Thank you ♥
