There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
The thing is we dont all get on, we are not made to all get on with each other. We all make mistakes but we try our best to learn from them. I would never say i hate ryl because i dont its just very annoying when you are promised things and it all goes down the drain. The best way to say it is that i feel ryl has lost a little of its sparkle and i know im probably not alone.
I know alot of the time it is up to us to improve ryl but i believe the staff have tried there best as have all the other people such as the supporters first aid and chat and there is only so much you can do at this present time with the way things are. Its such a shame that there is so much rudeness because you are only trying to help and do your best.
Well, RYL is going to the dogs, you might as well make me a mod, see what happens ;) Could be hilarious!
Nah, seriously though, sucks that there are ridiculously few members who could/do make good mods, we don't have enough because there aren't enough people here who can be trusted/would do the job well/are stable enough to even consider/aren't here enough, the list is endless.
How this site has not broken and exploded in a big, fiery ball of destruction and despair I do not have a clue. But bravo to the mods for what you guys do/have done/will continue to do. :)
I'm gonna tap him like a maple tree. I'm gonna search him for some syrups. I'm gonna be having sex with him.
i have kind of heard about a few of the things that go on and im like,' really? omg people should really listen to themselves' genuinely shocked at some people.
the mods do a great job. no doubt.
if it wasn't for the fact that i would be a **** mod because i'd probably randomly ban people if i was having a bad day and they pissed me off, i would love to be a mod to give something back to this site, which has really helped me through some stuff over the years.
I'm fine! Totally fine. I don't know why it's coming out all loud and squeaky, 'cause really, I'm fine!
And I agree with Beckie; I'm genuinely shocked at how rude some people can be to the mods! Like, seriously. These people make me look like a pleasant, friendly and well-adjusted chap.
Modding a site like this is hard. Some are good at it and some are awful. Most get burned out by it though. Modding should be like military service - do your time and move on. I modded a forum (and easy one) here for 16 months and that was enough. Being a mod means being removed from the general population - they represent the site and are like police. My advice to people has always been that if they like being a member a lot then dont be a mod. It also hurts the site when popular members get made into mods. Its like having lively guests at a wedding reception and then making them service people. I saw lots of good members fall into Mod Oblivion lol
I have to admit it saddens me to see so many people having negative experiences of RYL, despite ups downs lefts and rights I still love the site and a lot of it's members and would be devastated if it were to disappear.
Also I have witnessed getting on for 7 years worth of people moaning about the good old days. Every generation seems to look back a year or so and moan about the demise of the good old days. Seems to be human nature to be honest.
'Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.'
['There is only one thing we say to death. Not today'.']
'We are each our own devil, and we make this world our hell. Oscar Wilde
Its hard to dance with the devil on your back. Sydney Carter
Also I have witnessed getting on for 7 years worth of people moaning about the good old days. Every generation seems to look back a year or so and moan about the demise of the good old days. Seems to be human nature to be honest.
This thread makes me very reminiscent. I came onto the site as a moody early teen. I learned a lot from the site, both positive and negative, and then was able to contribute something back through moderating.
Moderating taught me a lot of incredibly valuable life lessons (in fact, I still bring it up in interviews every so often). It's a thankless task, but you're constantly learning, forced to be hyper-aware and it really challenges you. This site is an odd one for moderating too, because those who are moderators are nearly always also people who have come to site for their own purposes. Being a moderator and being unwell simultaneously are incredibly difficult things to balance. Everybody I've seen and been fortunate enough to work with have been utterly outstanding, and have been a force for good... But that doesn't make you happier, often.
The other thing is, there used to be a fairly high turnover, when there was still excitement in the site and a hope to drive things forward. That's not always a good thing, but I think that having the flexibility to move on with your life knowing that there is a fantastic set of current moderators to fill your space makes it a lot easier to move on. Esther was a good example of this. It's not that positive things aren't happening on the site, but the urgent want to make the website a more productive place seems to have been lost. Which is sad.
Waffle waffle waffle. I don't know what my conclusion is. MODS WE LOVE YOU.
As someone who has been an enormous pain in the arse for many a mod in the past, I don't blame any of you for packing it in. Dealing with dicks like I was and worse is naaaaaat worth it.
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
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