ok well congrats on the not cutting. but 14? my sister is fourteen and pregnent and its turned our whole family upside down. and after the death of our father last year its tough and maby adoption but hey its you life and hope you do well .
congrats.
Namaste
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You must know it's controversial because in your first post you asked people to comment because you wanted to know what they think about it. I'm glad you're happy but I think it's silly for you to want to be in this situation though god knows I know many others who have done similar.
I'm 18 and people my age are having kids here there and everywhere, on the plus side they all happy with their lives, on the downside they don't have a proper life - it's all about a baby that they can't support properly.
I'm sure nobody wants to bring you down people are just trying to get you to see what one day you will know.
Good Luck
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thanks everyone i have but all your thoughts into serious thoughts even the ones i dont agree with, in truth im scared and happy and crazy with emotions i HAVE thought about adoption and theres no way i could give up a part of me! im young yes but i have dreams and just because i have a baby doesnt mean i cant still live out my dreams, it will be hard im not saying it wont be but whatever happens the baby and whats best for the baby come first! Im going to be a mother no one has to agree on that but its my child the fathers still here and even if he wasnt im still a mother some little life depends on me and it gives me a reason not to cut to keep on living to be happy and exscpect what life will give me.
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Okay, I understand how you're feeling at the moment and that you are excited about the pregnancy, and perhaps (I don't know so please don't take this the wrong way) maybe defensive as you are in a controversial position. I'm not going to say you should/shouldn't keep the baby as ultimately this is your decision. But is there anyone you can talk to, professionally, to go through the choices to make sure that you are fully aware of what you're doing and to make sure you've got support? I'm not trying to be patronising here, I promise you, but many people (of whatever age) can struggle to truly understand what having and bringing up a child means and I think it's important that both you and the dad are clear on what it all means and what this situation involves.
You're right in saying that "what's best for the baby comes first." But what's best for the baby is not a 14-year-old mother. At your age, there is no way you're responsible enough to look after this child properly. If you want to give your baby the life it deserves, you should give it up for adoption.
no matter what this is still her choice. no i don't think it's wise for a 14 year old to get pregnant. but she already is pregnant and so long as she has adults in her life to help her and hopefully psychological support, it will work out. families usually aren't perfect and saying that a 14 year old mother will for sure be bad for her child isn't really right imo. and yes you can have a child and still study. it's not easy, but it is possible. i mean there's plenty of mothers who are in their twenties or even older who neglect/abuse their kids much worse than someone who actually wants the child probably would, regardless of the unfortunately young age of the mother. I agree having a child this young isn't ideal but it doesn't seem right to put her down and predict that she will for sure be hurting the child by keeping it. It will take a lot of work and support but it is possible. all families have problems, it's not even for sure that an adoptive parent would be "better".
Do you have the support of your parents and such? Definitely talk to a counselor as well cause even adults really need help raising a child. So while I definitely think you should put off having any more kids until you are older, I do believe it can work out if you really want it to and really work at it.
Yes she'll get benefits and she may well get a house, all I'm saying it is that it won't happen just like that and it's not the cushty number people think it is.
benefits are never cushy. i'm getting benefits and i barely make my bills and i don't have that many bills! and i've seen government housing, it's livable but it's nothing fancy. no one in their right mind would have a kid just to get benefits if they really know what they entail. at least here anyway.
7 months without self harm is amazing well done!
I have just had my first child and I am 23 and I couldn't even imagine before how much work, energy and money a baby takes. I really wish you the best of luck if you decide to keep the baby, but it will be a lot of hard work and a lot of sacrifices. x
"Where ever I am I always find myself looking out the window wishing I was somewhere else." - Angelina Jolie
okay okay, my parents love and support me and already love their grandchild to be im not doing this for benifits... like a said it will be hard this wasnt planned and i take responsiblty for that my sister had her baby a year younger then i am shes 32 now with four kids she made it just fine! im not saying its right but couldnt you be happy for me?!? im going to try to give it a perfect and happy life if theres a such thing ill do it! Yes i have a counsiler and ive gone over every oppition and nothing seems more right then keeping MY BABY taking the responsilty for it its not a cures like you all make it! its very specil knowing im caring something so grand and new someone who depends souly on me right now.... I WILL NOT GIVE UP MY DREAMS ITS GOING TO BE HARD BUT MAKING IT THROUGH SI GIVES ME THE HOPE I NEED TO DO THIS! i understand everyones point of view you dont have to agree with me but you must understand my baby is not a mistake the mistake was having sex and a gift from god came from it! I WILL KEEP MY BABY no matter what, i was told i would be able to have a child or cary one but here it is healty and growing inside me.
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Well done on the 7 months free, and good luck with becoming a parent; if you want to keep your baby, then that's your choice; the fact you yourself have supportive parents will help a lot. No, this isn't going to be easy, but the little thing hasn't even be born yet, so I dont think any of us have the right to write you/this situation off. You obviously care a lot about this life you've created, which is more than can be said for a lot fo older parents
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Well done on the 7 months free, and good luck with becoming a parent; if you want to keep your baby, then that's your choice; the fact you yourself have supportive parents will help a lot. No, this isn't going to be easy, but the little thing hasn't even be born yet, so I dont think any of us have the right to write you/this situation off. You obviously care a lot about this life you've created, which is more than can be said for a lot fo older parents
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