Originally Posted by
Ram.
We're all equal, just dealing with different ****.
Quoted because it's so very true :)
I don't think the frustration stems from people making mistakes. Everyone does - as you said Charlie, people are going to mess up occasionally. It can become tiresome, though, when people mess up and don't want to accept that the consequences may be their fault, or when they don't want to see that they have to work to make things better.
Like.. to use a ridiculous example - if I take all of my clothes now and put them in a pile and burn them, that's my business. But if I then turn around and complain about the fact that I have nothing to wear... could I expect sympathy and an "aww, that's so unfair"? I should hope not. :P
I'm all for tact when posting on here, but being gentle at all times isn't going to work. As some have said, when you're seriously ill as most of us here are or were at some point, it's
not okay. And if I made a thread in that mindset, I'd prefer people to be honest with me, rather than giving me hugs and telling me it's alright.
Maybe it would be good to turn this into a collection of acceptable things to say? You know, examples of tough love without being offensive - that might bring us on the same page as far as the definition is concerned, anyway.
