Oh, I got my wrap from treehuggermums.co.uk but there are loads of places that sell them - they just happened to be the cheapest at the time. Mine is an ellaroo, but if you know which make you want (assuming you want a wrap) just google it and there should be plenty of options.
And while I'm here, I'm fed up of having to justify my parenting choices to everybody. If I choose to carry him instead of using a pram, not feed him chocolate and chips at 7 months, breastfeed him until he self-weans and let him sleep in my bed then it's nobody else's business but mine and Graham's. I've spent all day listening to various family members (although I get it from strangers too, which is even worse) how I'm cruel for not letting him try my chocolate cake/ice cream/chips, how he needs to 'get used' to crying, how I should put him in a pram instead of having him where I can talk to him/kiss his head/cuddle him whenever I like.. since when did it become such a bad thing to be close to your baby?? I don't comment on people using prams (which I have no problem with, it's just an example) and tell them they should be carrying their babies so why is it ok the other way round?!
And also while I'm here, I'm fed up of people using Oliver to criticise me in a roundabout way despite the fact that he is clearly perfectly happy. I actually told a woman the other day that she'd be there a long time if she was waiting for him to answer (she said something like 'aw, isn't mummy mean keeping you all tied up in there, I bet you'd prefer to be down wouldn't you?') which seemed to work, she left me alone after that anyway!
It makes me laugh (in a slightly bitter and annoyed way!) when people tell me that I'm 'spoiling' him by holding him too much and actually responding when he cries, and then in the same breath saying how happy/content/laid back/well-behaved he is. Is it so hard to link the two?! I'll go now, because I can feel my blood pressure rising, haha.
haha, I wasn't that polite I have to admit, I said it in a kind of snotty way - 'he's 6 months old, are you expecting him to reply? oh sorry, you were actually talking to me?' I find that calling people out like that is a good way of getting them to leave you alone :P
But yeah, get ready to feel like you're constantly defending yourself! Although I don't even bother anymore, I tend to just smile and nod, and get on with bringing him up however I choose. Or just ignore them if I'm not feeling friendly! It is hard to let it slide when you know that people are thinking you're doing something wrong and you feel like you want to justify your methods, but it's not even worth the stress most of the time.
maybe they're worried he will become dependant and have a lot of trouble when eventually he goes to school and stuff? I do know a couple young kids who have separation anxiety now becasue their parents did what you're doing. ON the other hand, i know kids who are fine and well rounded because their parents did what you're doing! So... stuff the lot of them :P
Come onnnnnn berni... can't you talk to you baby? :P
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
Kelly, from what I understand, carrying around babies in a wrap/sling/whatever has been the only option available to mothers for millennia. So if anything you're being the "traditional" one and everyone else can go **** themselves.
As long as you're providing a child the care and love that it needs, who gives a **** how you do it?
This is just the view of an ignorant 19 year old but stick with what you want and **** the rest of them.
and kelly, i agree, you should bring your child up the way you want to.
i find it amazing how many people dig at the mother while talking to babies. how many times do i have to hear 'aw is mummy cruel to you?' 'aw you love me lots dont you, you can come live with me instead' 'shes good when shes with me, i just dont put up with her crap like you do' or when she starts crying saying 'oi, less of that, doesnt work in this house!!!'
i keep thinking let it pass, they do not mean to be like that. then other times im like grrr!
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
scones are easier than i thought berni! i have made them with self raising flour, butter, salt, sugar and milk....some of them have chocolate chips in !!
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
the nesting thing is good. i started nesting at around 5 months. but i stopped at about 39 weeks as i didnt have the energy anymore. i do remember cleaning my toilet with cotton buds at 2am once though lol
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
Dex - the first trimester is a bit of a rollercoaster, but it does settle down when you hit 12/13 weeks. Honest!
Kelly - Oliver is one of the most content babies I've met, and you've definitely enforced my idea of buying a sling. People should mind their own business... with the behaviour of a lot of kids today, perhaps people should try concentrating on raising their own kids before they start criticising you for being an attentive mother.
lol yeah be glad... i had little blips when i just went mad.
one night my mum was over and i was really agitated about the way my house looked. jamie had some posters up and a flag and that and i ripped them all down and hung pictures up and demanded he hang a big mirror in the living room. i cleaned and cleaned and always had water in the sink to wash any dish that got dirty. spent my days cleaning, before i went anywhere i cleaned as i couldnt relax if i didnt.
cleaning the toilet at 2am was weird...i had been cleaning the bathroom and started cleaning the bog vigorously then thought i would get the cotton buds out the clean the nooks and crannies.
jamie would say oh god you're getting weird again... and once told me to stop cleaning when he found me sitting on the kitchen floor cleaning the cupboard doors at midnight once.
i did the baby clothes thing too, i washed and ironed them all then laid them neatly in the drawers. now, i wish i could iron them but i ****ing hate ironing and i just dont have the time as she gets through so much clothes, especially with her reflux as shes sick a lot. i try to catch it with bibs and sick cloths but doesnt always work. plus she has a bad habit of pooing out the side of her nappies!!!
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
