*huge cuddles* I'm sorry you're so stressed lovely, it sounds very overwhelming. When do you need to decide what you're doing next year? Can you break it down into smaller steps? I can understand some of how overwhelming it is, I'm applying for uni at the moment and I've been really stressed about the application and everything! My CC told me to stop using it as a stick to beat myself with and just do little bits when I can. It helped, and I'm basically ready to submit my application. I absolutely know you can get everything sorted, but I do understand the uncertainty being really hard. I'm glad talking to your mum helped a bit. I am sending so much love your way. Is there anything that would help you unwind a bit at the moment?
Life is okay. Work mostly haha. We have new people starting tomorrow and I am nervous!
"I know you're sad, so I won't tell you to have a good day. Instead, I advise you to simply have a day.
Stay alive, feed yourself well, wear comfortable clothes, and don't give up on yourself just yet.
It'll get better. Until then, have a day."
There are lots of people to talk to to the point I don't really know where to go =/ I'm sure i'll work it out. I think the uni need to know by march but if I want to apply somewhere else I'd have to do it before then. Where are you applying Hannah? Applying is stressful. It took me ages to actually get through it all but you've got till jan until the first deadline haven't you?
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It will work out! Just talk to someone - if they aren't the right person they'll be able to tell you who to speak to. Do you have a tutor/advisor? Or, my uni's student services had academic support advisors, is there anything like that?
Yeah, the deadline's January, but for my course they all advise applying earlier. I'm hoping to get it in within the next couple of weeks so then that part will be done! I just need to get people to read my personal statement and then redraft it, and my manager's doing my reference so it should be sorted soon! I'm applying to Birmingham, Keele, MMU, Wolverhampton and Lancaster. It's rather scary!
"I know you're sad, so I won't tell you to have a good day. Instead, I advise you to simply have a day.
Stay alive, feed yourself well, wear comfortable clothes, and don't give up on yourself just yet.
It'll get better. Until then, have a day."
I applied in march or even April/may haha. I think you should still apply here *nods* lol although I may not be here. If you need someone to read over anything I'm happy to do so if you need. Just drop me a pm.
How is everyone's Wednesdays?
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Sorry to come in and be moany, I'm miserable though. I think it's mostly stuff from therapy the other day, which is a bit silly. Also got a letter today saying I owe HMRC almost £500 as I've not paid enough income tax, which is woeful!
"I know you're sad, so I won't tell you to have a good day. Instead, I advise you to simply have a day.
Stay alive, feed yourself well, wear comfortable clothes, and don't give up on yourself just yet.
It'll get better. Until then, have a day."
*sending hugs and love* hope you're enjoying your holiday now Hannah. The HMRC is woeful, I would be pissed. Maybe ask them how you haven't paid it? Isn't it usually done automatically through Bacs? It's not like your self employed.
Love you all, hope your all having a great weekend xx
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Are you looking after yourself and treating yourself kindly, lovely Leigh? (Oh my gosh, my phone just autocorrected 'lovely Leigh' to 'love belt Leigh'...what on earth?? That could have been embarrassing!
I'm happy and sad and everything all at once. I think I need to work at settling myself. I've been pushing too hard lately.
That is not the sort of letter you want from the tax man Hannah! Can they alter you tax code and reclaim it back that way rather than having to shell out £500 in one go? I hope you are having a good holiday!
Sorry you are anxious Leigh, are there any soothing things you could do that would help a little? How are you doing now?
That sounds confusing Jill, look after yourself. Would it help to write about how you are feeling?
Haha love autocorrect. Be gentler yourself Jill. If you want to talk we're here.
Sarah, how are you?
I just try to quash it down. Probably not the best idea but it's over such stupid things that I can't solve. Although I'm hopefully getting a new phone in a few days which will take some stress away..yes I had a panic attack because my phone isn't working properly and I also cried on the train today because I'm not going home for about a month now and I forgot to say goodbye to my dog. Slightly pathetic
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Do you think maybe "stupid things" are making you anxious because of general anxiety too? One of my first signs of an anxiety episode is irrational responses to mundane things, just because it isn't necessary a thing that you "should" be anxious about doesn't mean you should ignore the anxiety.
*squishes* crying on trains is never fun, I don't think anything that you said makes you pathetic, do you think there is a more self compassionate way of looking at things?
You are right sarah but I don't really know how I can solve it. I feel a less anxious today and have worked out I can get to my course on the weekends. I'm home alone from thurs -Monday and I've not slept in this house on my own yet and I'm feeling rather anxious about that. I know on thurs and most definitely Friday il be freaking about it. I feel like such a baby. I know if my housemate decided not to come home one night for some reason and told me I'd be fine but cause I know it's happening my mind is like zomog. My minds a bit scattered. Going to try and do some mind organising tonight and hope that helps.
How everyone's Tuesdays been?
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Leigh how are you doing lovely? How is it going being there by yourself?
How are you all? I hope you're all doing well. Lots of love for you all x
If I ever say I'm going on holiday with my parents again, please remind me not to! Only two more days to survive!
"I know you're sad, so I won't tell you to have a good day. Instead, I advise you to simply have a day.
Stay alive, feed yourself well, wear comfortable clothes, and don't give up on yourself just yet.
It'll get better. Until then, have a day."
Hi Leigh, how are you doing now? I hope you’re not feeling too anxious lovely.
Hannah, you can do it! I hope the next two days are nice and easy for you.
I’m feeling a bit mixed up but then I have been fielding a couple of other people’s feelings today so that might explain it. I’m back in work tomorrow so that will give me something to focus on.
Hannah, what's going on with your family/holiday? You can get through it. You can go on holiday with me instead next year..girls on tour =p
Eska, I hope tomorrow is a better day and you feel a little more settled. Here if you want to talk.
My other housemate who usually goes home Thursdays has something to do tomorrow so he is still here. I was all prepared to be alone and hoping that tomorrow I'd have done my first night alone but also greatful he is here because it's one less night being home alone.
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Ahh at least you have less time being on your own. Can you plan nice things to do while they're away? How are things generally?
Eska I hope you're managing to take good care of yourself, we're here if it would help to talk about anything. I hope being at work helps.
My dad has been drinking and they have been arguing. As usual. I'm so fed up with it and I just want to get away but it's my own fault, it's always like this and I know that so I shouldn't have come! Haha Leigh we should def go on holiday, somewhere warm this time though :P
"I know you're sad, so I won't tell you to have a good day. Instead, I advise you to simply have a day.
Stay alive, feed yourself well, wear comfortable clothes, and don't give up on yourself just yet.
It'll get better. Until then, have a day."
We should definitely do that. I'm sorry about your dad and parents arguing. Can you leave them too it and listen to music or something if it happens tonight?
I have a football course tomorrow. I have work to do for that tonight and then I have been lent dvds to watch plus Netflix. Sunday I'm going to clean the house and do uni work. I'm so tired though. I don't really know how things are.
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