they are nothing to worry about. as said they will get support in place if you feel you need it. its all about making things easier for you to avoid you from feeling alone etc and unableto cope. xx
There are, it has been said, two types of people in the world. There are those who, when presented with a glass that is exactly half full, say: 'This glass is half full'. And then there are those who say: 'This glass is half empty'.
The world belongs, however, to those who can look at the glass and say: 'What's up with this glass? Excuse me? Excuse me? This is my glass? I don't think so. My glass was full! And it was a bigger glass!
thanks for the support, its just scary. my partner has work tomorrow morning so he wont even be here for the assesment so ill be alone. the women sounds nice enough though.
mikey, why do you want a baby so much? what is it you want about a baby?
yes i will definatly take it because i dont want to seem uncooperative and also any help is good.
thats great he is moving about a lot
i havent felt mine move for a few days now, i was feeling him very strongly a few weeks ago and now i feel him hardly ever, which is disspointing. i havent felt him move strongly since the day before i went to the maternal assesment unit last week but i heard his heart beat then so im sure he is fine. and they said you only have to worried about not feeling them when you get to 28 weeks as you have to feel them move 10 times in 12 hours and before then there movements just might not be strong enough.
i am excited because tomorrow i will be 24 weeks (6 months) but also scared because i was born at 24 weeks and i know the odds of living if you are born now is not very good (i was tripplet and the other two died) my brother was also born at 29 weeks so im really worried my baby will come early. i know its a stupid thing to be worried about because im different to my mother and it probably wont happen its just worrying when its so real to my family.
Well I took another pregnancy test today and it was neg. I never got a true positive. I wont know if I had a miscarriage.. I'm ok about it though. I couldn't financially support a child, because I'm jobless at the moment.
mikey, why do you want a baby so much? what is it you want about a baby?
I want that moment of giving birth when you hold something so tiny and all your own in your arms. I want unconditional love, given and received. I want to invest all my energy and devotion into somebody beautiful. I want a reason to live and stay well, something beyond myself. I want to create and protect and nourish.
Problem is I don't think I can do it. There's no way I'm stable enough to be a good mum. My life is chaos atm and it wouldn't be fair.
But I want one so, so badly that my chest is full of ache just thinking about it.
There are, it has been said, two types of people in the world. There are those who, when presented with a glass that is exactly half full, say: 'This glass is half full'. And then there are those who say: 'This glass is half empty'.
The world belongs, however, to those who can look at the glass and say: 'What's up with this glass? Excuse me? Excuse me? This is my glass? I don't think so. My glass was full! And it was a bigger glass!
i saw the social worker and was honest and me and partner are seeing her again next friday so she can tell us what kind of support she is going to offer us. she mentioned parenting classes which sounds good as i know NOTHING about babies so it should hopefully seem abit less scary.
Mikey, i am in no position to judge you wanting a baby with such a chaotic life because mine is exsactly the same, its good you can see that maybe it isnt the best idea for you but i understand wanting a baby so much and then all you ever see is people with babies and children and its difficult, i obviously dont have any advice to overcome that because i am now pregnant but if you ever want to talk then you can pm me
sorry i haven't posted here for a while but been busy looking after Saul and being back at work
something really frightening happened to us yesterday and i dont want to worry or upset any of you but was just wondering if anyone had any experience of toddelers breath holding
We were in pizza hut having lunch yesterday and saul just started to scream, except he didn't make any noise, he took that big inhale that kids take when they are going to scream and just kept inhaling,then his lips went blue and his whole face... he had been eating a bread stick at the time so i automatically assumed he had choked and pulled him out the highchair turned him upside down and slapped him on the back, as i was doing this he went limp and floppy, i started screaming for help a man from another table came and started trying to help, my friends who i was with had phoned an ambulance, one is a nurse and the other a nursery nurse, both had never seen anything like this before, i was sure he was dead, he was like that for at least a minute before he started to breathe again, they were still on the phone to the ambulance so told them not to come, it was only then i started to think he was not choking as nothing came up before he started to breathe and he did not cough or anything before the big intake of breath.
he cried for about 5 mins then fell asleep on me, but he was still quite pale and clammy and i began to worry about there being permanent damage
so i decided to take him to A&E to get checked over, they gave him a thorough check up and within an a hour of us being there he was back to his normal self, they said that toddlers can do that when they are upset and then when they are a bit older for attention, they seemed to agree that it had been breath holding and not choking. but i'm not sure they believed me that he was unconscious for so long but it was so scary
he has done the big inhale thing twice before but both times just stopped for less than a second then breathed again i'm so scared he will do this again
sorry if this has upset you but just looking for some support
*hugs* That must have been scary for you. I have heard of lil ones holding their breath and turning blue before, but luckily I've never seen it happen. Do you have any idea of what upset the lil guy? I hope that does not happen again.
We had our second ultrasound today. It was mostly to hear the heartbeat because the lil one is too small to hear it through my wife without it. It was more of a checkup appointment than anything. We could sorta see a face on the head, the resolution on those aren't very good. Today we started our second trimester. My wife still has light morning sickness, so we hope that will be over soon.
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Does anyone know of websites that have cool maternity clothes on them? Like shirts with funny sayings on them, or even better, where you can customize ones? My wife saw the "Geek Inside" with the intel logo on it at thinkgeek, and wants to have a "Jedi Inside" made (she's a big starwars fan). She likes one she saw that says "all I wanted was a backrub" but doesn't think that her parents would find the humor in it.
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-brian
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'in the quiet heart is hidden, sorrow that the eye can't see'
Thanks Berni. I searched cafepress, but the US version, and didn't see it there. My wife wants it on black, and the cafepress customize thing only puts the logo on the chest, not the bump. We made up a graphic for it and are planning on seeing if the shop in the mall that makes custom shirts to see if they can do maternity clothes. And my aunt just gave us $50 for maternity clothes shopping!
-brian
'in the quiet heart is hidden, sorrow that the eye can't see'
D-liscious, ella does the breath holding and going blue as part of temper, has done it since the start of the tantruming phase - that how we knew it was temper and not something else coz she started this. but she's never been unconscious. or floppy. usually kicking and fighting but silently. i remember my cousin used to breath hold when she got hurt badly, like falling down half the stairs (they had a corner halfway down the stairs so she only fell down a few) but she was 7 or 8 and held her breath so long my aunt slapped her to make her cry. i have heard of parents spraying water into a child face or what we did with ella, blow directly into her face makes them inhale suddenly. hope you're ok, maybe worth talking it over with your health visitor. mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
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Debbie, that sounds horrible. Hope Saul is okay now. Perhaps try what Mandi said and see how you get on with that, and I would definitely talk to your HV about it. Is he teething still? Could that have been the problem?
he did it again on friday night and it was defiantly temper, he wanted the spoon i was feeding him with, but he only stopped breathing for about 15 seconds, i phoned nhs24 and they said to take him to the out of hours gp, just to get it checked as he had done it 2 days in a row, we were the referred to the paediatricians at the hospital, they checked him over and said they were pretty sure it was breath holding, they checked his blood for anaemia, but that came back normal, we have to go back as out patients for an ecg and then to the clinic, and i have since found out that my uncle did this too when he was a baby, and it seems to run in families
im still quite shaken about Thursday tho, i really thought he had died
eeps that is scary. ive heard of breath holding. its crazy how much they can control stuff like that out of temper and stuff!
i cant believe im 6 months on Friday. the time has just flown by so quickly!!
i really need to get past this tiredness. ive never felt this tired in my life. im having to go to work early to keep my hours up as i cant manage past 4pm otherwise id fall asleep when i was driving home. its ridiculous!
so sorry to hear this berni. i havent posted on here much since my split with jamie in january, and i know its really painful, im just glad that things are amicable between you. things ended very badly between j and i, and it was very hard on freyja, so im glad to see you guys are thinking that way.
hope you are ok xxx
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'in the quiet heart is hidden, sorrow that the eye can't see'
