hey everyone, i had my scan and baby is doing really well get big and everything is healthy so thats good but they wouldn't tell me what im having, i dont know why they didn't tell me but im just going to have to wait until baby comes along, today im 23 weeks and 5 days :)
no i had to ask them and they said they werent aloud to tell people that they were just checking the baby was growing well and all organs were working and the right size
its because they can't 100% guarantee it, and in some cases can't tell at all. with ella, i was 31 weeks and in early labour before she let anyone look!
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
they couldn't tell with my neice, usually if they can't tell it's a girl but not always... otherwise they'd be able to work out. i've got my 20 week scan this month. will be nice to see him/her wiggling about. i've started to feel movement and it's so odd. And today i got my blood results back saying i'm low risk for downs and neural tube defects :)
i'd like to but constantly working or sleeping... plus my bump doesn't look like a bump, i just look more fat.
anyway i'd like to say i started reading this whole thread from the beginning, i'm now on page 61 and it's made me feel a bit more settled and comfortated about things. i've been reading pregnancy magazines and websites but the ones i've read so far seem less supportive and more talking about themselves. and well... you guys are great... berni i hope to dear god my labour isn't as long as yours!!! and the recommendations you guys are making is great.
it's really helpful to see how other women get on with things day to day alongside a history of mental health problems. My parents are really scared about how this baby will affect my mental health too scared to admit that i've been feeling old feelings again to them. i've got a holiday on thursday to be with them for 10 days. i'm hoping being with family and away from work and day to day stresses will help. Then the day after i return i will be having my 20 week scan which should be exciting. I'm sure i'm going to have lots of questions and worries when i've finished with the next 180 pages. hope all mummies and daddies and mummies and daddies to be and bubbies and bumps are doing well :)
Ohh wonderful news kelly! I'm hopefully finding out next monday and mum is rooting for a girl. have you got any names in mind?
I have some wonderful news too. mum says i can move back home and they're going to convert the top floor of the garage for me and bubs for when they have guests in but the rest of the time we can be in the main house with them. this is wonderful news after the "you're not moving back home and you're going to be homeless and alone" from a few months ago. mum's currently knitting a cardigan for baby too. and she likes the idea of my finishing my piano grades and starting to teach piano when we've got a routine after my maternity leave.
only problem now is the baby's dad... but on account of he's not been exactly supportive since he got back with his ex (again) and had a complete go at me when i told him how i was feeling (AFTER HE ASKED) and that i'm always crying and i just do it to tug at his heartstrings. he was generally being a complete prick. He apologised for being "blunt" (i was thinking "****") the next day... when i was flying away to my parents' place. He knows that i want to be here rather than alone over there. I know i'm putting him in a difficult position but I know I need to do what's best for me and bub and this whole situation hasn't put me in an easy place either. Originally he said if i moved he'd move too but i know there's infrequently action behind his words. I just don't know what to do about him anymore.
sorry for the rant. but the good news thing is what i'm happy about.
We'll probably stick with Erin, it's what Oliver's name would have been had he been a girl. Other than that I love Rowan (it was my second choice for a boy as well) but my OH isn't having it!
hey guys im 26 weeks pregnant and i starting to get scared about the labor and how long and sore its going to be can any one make me feel any better im going to give birth alone as i have no family close that could come and my best friend said she will be there but not at the birth
can you hire a doula? someone who can be with you?
other than that - gas and air - makes you feel high in the sky, it still hurts but it makes you forget the pain. and if you're really scared, plump for an epidural.
my first labour i decided i'd go in and see how much i could tolerate before getting the epidural, in the end i had the epi but had i waited 10mins would have been giving birth, instead i had to wait an hour for it to wear off before i was allowed to push.
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
well the midwife said they would be around if i needed support. yeah i was thinking about gas and air but i think it could go out the window depending on the pain but it will just be a wait and see i think, i really worried about the weather too cause i have to travel 27 miles to the hosp and if the weather is really bad i might end up having a home birth
Just try and relax and not worry about it as much as possible.. your body is designed to do this, and if you can just listen to it and go with the flow you'll be fine. I had Oliver in 3 and a half hours with gas and air (a water birth) and I'm not scared at all about doing it again, so it isn't always that bad! He was over 9lbs too, and it wasn't easy but it was definitely doable.
I'll be having a home birth this time, and I'm doing hypnobirthing - it might be worth looking into to put some of your fears to rest. I have the book I could lend you actually, just PM me if you're interested.
Giving birth doesn't have to hurt, several of my friends have had painfree births and I'm aiming for that this time.. doesn't hurt to be optimistic ;) Keep a positive outlook about it, it's going to be the most emotional and powerful experience of your life, and chances are you'll get a week or two past birth and wish you could go back and do it again, as crazy as that might sound now!
