I dont know if i am for or against it. I can see the points for but i can see the ones from against.
what has frustrated me is that people that are very for the idea of ta sub forum say that those that are against it do NOT understand. For me personally i have been a opposite ends of ED's...
I dont fit any of these groups you are putting people into, i wish i did but i know if these changes do happen i would find it harder to work out where i should post or where i even belong...
My problem is that I don't fit either criteria completely. I have problems on both ends.
And really, splitting the boards would lead to more confusion and more people getting left out. And it seems very contradictory. We're supposedly focusing on emotions rather than behaviors and splitting the boards on behavior alone seems very... odd.
My problem is that I don't fit either criteria completely. I have problems on both ends.
And really, splitting the boards would lead to more confusion and more people getting left out. And it seems very contradictory. We're supposedly focusing on emotions rather than behaviors and splitting the boards on behavior alone seems very... odd.
*hugs* I'm feel EXCATLY the same having the excat same issue/problem
i think the boards should be split. people who suffer from each of the eating disorders are more likely to understand each other better... also i kno that there are people on the boards at the other end of the spectrum that dont feel comfortable posting in the ED section cause they feel like they are "the odd one out"
My problem is that I don't fit either criteria completely. I have problems on both ends.
And really, splitting the boards would lead to more confusion and more people getting left out. And it seems very contradictory. We're supposedly focusing on emotions rather than behaviors and splitting the boards on behavior alone seems very... odd.
Ditto on this on both counts. I go through periods of both restricting and overeating so where would I post when I needed help? I don't want to be jumping between forums...
I think splitting the board into two would just widen the 'gap' every seems to think exists between the two areas of disorder.
I don't really think there is such a big gap between disorders other than the weight issue (and we aren't using numbers any more). I think what we need to concentrate on is looking at WHY people feel like they can't post and why the ED board is viewed as it seems to be.
I think *something* needs to be done whether a sub forum is a good idea or not depends on the finer details of the sub forum. I think it has great potential to improve the ED board and to divide it.
I think *something* needs to be done whether a sub forum is a good idea or not depends on the finer details of the sub forum. I think it has great potential to improve the ED board and to divide it.
This.
And this isn't intended as patronising or insulting - but if you look at the results, the vast majority of votes are from people who say 'yes and don't suffer' - now, this is all well and good, and I'm not saying this is necessarily the case - but if you don't understand EDs, or don't understand the ED board, but have seen people say 'we want this, give us this', they're more inclined to say yes without knowing necessarily what the resulting outcome will be.
My concerns lie with the division of the board - which actually can benefit people greatly in support and help, especially having an outsider opinion, where it leaves a lot of members now, and the elitist attitude that may come as a result, from both camps.
These have come from years on the ED board, having experienced eating disorders in question, and from my year or so as a mod. I don't jump into rash decisions, I weigh up every option and draw the conclusion I feel best from it.
i agree. COE/BED etc. are eating disorders just as much as Anorexia and Bulimia and they should all be treated as eating disorders in the same right, i think. i understand that the current ED board feels uncomfortable for people with other-end-of-the-spectrum EDs and i think that's a shame and wonder why this is the case and how the ED board as a whole could change to feel more accommodating of everyone together.
there again, it might be well-and-good for me to say that as i don't have COE/BED.
I wouldnt want it to happen - the spectrum isn't fixed or even that clear cut. People feel like they can't post now, but that can be changed. Make lots of different subforums and people wont know where to post/will be more excluded.
I've voted that it would be good for there to be a split though I don't have an ED. This is mainly because there are a lot of people who suffer from a non-restrictive ED who feel unable to speak out, I've heard people say it, whereas those with Ana/ Bulimia feel somewhat more normal here. When you go into ED the large majority of threads are based on people struggling with restrictive EDs. For people who are struggling at the opposite end of the spectrum they need help to lose weight. And yes, for some the emotions may be similar but for others they may be totally different but that is the case with anyone with an ED; it doesn't mean if you've got 1 problem you feel identical to everyone with this. Though, people do feel it is harder to talk to people who are having a problem which is different in their eyes. If you were morbidly obese and you read a post saying "I'm so fat" from a very small anorexic for instance, it crushes their confidence and makes them feel intimidated because they start to wonder now what people will think when they post which is a bit of a problem and when one person gets the courage to post and several others come up who you've not really seen in the ED forum before identifying with them then you do start to wonder how many this is affecting.
However, I don't think the rules on this should be tight. People can choose which one to use and if you have both ends of the spectrum then maybe if you have one bit you are more comfortable in then speak out there, or in both. It really should depend on the individual where they post because at the end of the day they've got to feel confident about where they post and that they'll get as much help as possible and if they post in a bit where they feel less comfortable it could cause more problems because even if everyone gives them supportive advice they may feel they aren't sure if they belong there for whatever reason.
Speaking of the subtance abuse forum.
That HARDLY gets used.
But it's there.. for hardly any people. This subforum would be used muuuuch rmoe foten by maaaaany more people.
I just feel the need to state that some people have got completely the wrong idea about Bullimia and Anorexia..... You do NOT have control.... It begins by the wanting control, yes, but once you are in it, you have no control at all - the Anorexia controls you..... If we had loads of control then we would be able to carry out what we wanted, and we would be fine wouldn't we, but we aren't. Recovery is based doing just that, fighting against the control of the Eating Disorder and regaining OUR control..... So please don't assume we have control, we don't, and it's rubbish.
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