99.9% of the time I'm on RYL. I don't have accounts on any other sites, although I know I did years ago when I first joined RuinYL.
There are 2 small small forums I keep and eye on for professional reasons (they stole our first aid articles and we told them to take them down, and now I baby sit them to make sure they don't put them back up.)
Occasionally I will poke around other sites just to get an idea of what else is going on out there, especially when I'm doing research for the CT. I want to see what the competition is doing basically.
Well it breaks my heart to see you this way,
The beauty in life, where's it gone?
And somebody told me you were doing okay,
Somehow I guess they were wrong.
The only thing I do now other than RYL is occasionally, when I'm really low and need some sort of satisfaction for the urges is find pictures. I'd never post any of my own though. It seems way to personal for me. In the same breath, I'd be a liar if I said I've never been to pro sites for various things. I just try to avoid them like the plauge now, since they really only hinder my recovery.
Even if RYL tightens the rules, I'd still come here. Maybe it's because I always try to be very careful about how I put things or maybe it's because the community as a whole would be worth it, but I don't think I'd leave. I honestly love it here, it feels like an extension of my family. Yeah, there have been things I didn't like or people I didn't get along with but that would happen no matter where I went.
At the moment I only use RYL. Back-in-the-day I used to go on a Pro-Ed site, but if I visited that right now it would mess me right up.
But I used to do so [and another SI site, with similar rules to RYL] because there was very little I could say on here, and felt I couldn't reach out for support being a Mod and stuff. Rah rah.
I only go on RYL now.
I used to belong to another forum which is MH based and it got to me that members of there seemed to have split personalities in the way they'd post about the one thing on a pro site in a really pro-all-for-it-this-is-great-look-what-i-did *details details* kind of way and on the one I was on post about the same incident in a i'm-so-sad-and-in-need-of-support-i-did-such-and-such kind of way. Those members completely lost my respect because they were milking it for attention in every way possible whatever it took. I never knew how they really felt about what they'd done.
I only really come to RYL for the people I know these days, I'd never consider posting about how I actually feel or anything because I feel like every word is scrutinised, and people are just too quick to jump at you here, I don't like the rules and changes in them have made me feel like this is not a place I can express myself anymore. So I come here and speak to people I like but on the whole I don't try and be a member like I used to.
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How could you become as awesome as you are and still feel like a loser?
I'm glad I made this thread, though when I first posted it I was kind of worried I'd get flamed to death!
But there's been some interesting responses and it's definately made me consider the reasons behind me using both kinds of site. And what's weird is that I'll look at really triggering and graphic things on other sites, but I wouldn't want them on RYL, I guess I feel a bit protective of other people getting triggered (and I know it's hypocritical for me to look at them myself). Overall I think RYL has a good balance of rules at the moment but I do worry about if it gets too much stricter that those not actively in recovery would become hesitant about posting here for support. I don't think there's any danger of RYL dying out as a community, no other sites I've been on have even come close to the level of that that RYL has.
Which rules and changes have made you feel like that?
Well it breaks my heart to see you this way,
The beauty in life, where's it gone?
And somebody told me you were doing okay,
Somehow I guess they were wrong.
i have to admit i go on other self harm sites but i use them when i feel like i cant get help here or want a diffrent view on the situation . i go to pro sef harm sites but i dnt do it often i like ryl of all of them
Sherlock: Oh, please. Killing me. That's so two years ago.
I only have a membership on ryl. I use to visit pro sites but the ones with all the pictures up just started making me gag (some of the pictures were... over the top) so I stopped. But that's pretty much it. I've got a decend friend base on ryl so I don't stray :P
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
I only really come to RYL for the people I know these days, I'd never consider posting about how I actually feel or anything because I feel like every word is scrutinised, and people are just too quick to jump at you here, I don't like the rules and changes in them have made me feel like this is not a place I can express myself anymore. So I come here and speak to people I like but on the whole I don't try and be a member like I used to.
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I use one other site apart from this one, but i always feel more 'at home' here.
I guess its cos i know whats accepted there, and i know whats accepted here. Someone could post a really graphic picture there, and i wouldnt bat an eyelid, where as if someone did it here, id be like 'wtf'
its like, when you go to another country, you dont get all horrified and shocked because they smoke in pubs even though its illegal here, you kind of expect it. wow, that was a bad comparison.
Mmm when I'm 'worse' ED-wise I go on a whole herd of pro-ed sites, although I do partly for thinspo pictures a lot of it is that (probally a bit weirdly) I have a bit of an obsession with other people with EDs and their EDs, and discussing - not even tips but just like, life, having an ed, all the horrible bits, and really just making light of having an ED as well. Yeah alright it's not a good thing but I find it makes it easier for me to cope with it.
In past times I've done a similar thing with self harm, and pro-SH sites. I generally don't atm because I don't really self harm all that much and when I do it's nothing like...weird, haha... but yeah sometimes I do the same with self harm
But I don't really post in support and stuff around here, I just read stuff here out of bordom I guess.
Hunger only for a taste of justice, hunger only for a world of truth, for all that you have is your soul.
because i found the other one first, then came here.
they both have really different atmospheres, the other one being much smaller, i feel less vulnerable, but i prefer the advice and speed of help i get on this site.
Well. At the moment I only use RYL and then it's only because it's weirdly addictive. But, when I was still self-harming, especially during really bad patches where I was really self destructive, I used a couple of other sites, including a (sort of) pro one. Mainly because I wanted to be more open than I could here and (yes, I'll say it), I'm horribly competitive and I wanted to know that I was capable of hurting myself as badly as the pictures people put up. Which was pretty messed up and a really bad idea, really. But I always stuck around RYL because it was safe and I knew people here and I could always get support.
i was on one site before here, which was very similarly run, with same ish rules regarding pro sh stuff but i found it very clickey and i know on here some of us have made good friends with each other and yes if i see one of my friends post i will reply even if just to tell them im thinking of them...but that doesnt mean i dont reply to others. i reply to ones that i think i can comment on or offer some support etc
ANYWAY.....i have tried to look for pro sh sites but failed miserably, i cant be searching for the right things! but i do this when i really bad sh moods to yeh i guess trigger myself or at least give me some ideas of how i can make the sh worse....but at the end of the day pro-sh sites arent gonna help me. cos they are encouraging sh rather than try ing to get through the sh xxxx
this pic is so i can always remember jen who was my l'il sock monkey friend who has left ryl and i miss her!!!
Only ever been on RYL, never even thought about the idea of pro SI sites at all. I know pro ED sites exist, but hadn't considered the same for SI. The idea of a pro SI site actually frightens me a little!
Apologies for quoting myself but..
I actually came across a pro SI site last night and I have to admit, some of the stuff on there REALLY scared me and freaked me out. It was not a nice place. I will not be going back.
As for RYL being cliquey, I have noticed at times that it can get very cliquey around here and it does put me off some threads (usually on General Forums) when I have no idea what people are going on about. However, every forum I have ever been on is like this, so it isn't going to stop me posting and feeling like a part of the community here.
this pic is so i can always remember jen who was my l'il sock monkey friend who has left ryl and i miss her!!! 
