So, like, yesterday was your two year RYL anniversary. And it got me thinking, how different many many people's lives would be if they hadn't got to know you. You don't need me to go into examples and specifics, but I'm going to mention myself and Erin to get you started - you can do the rest
Throughout the last two years, you have been like the backbone of Vets. Just because you don't post as much as you do now, just because the site [I just wrote s h i t by mistake, haha] has changed and evolved [for better or for worse], just because you might not feel like you fit in as much as you used to, well, it all means nothing. At the end of the day, even if you hadn't been the person that would spend all day writing replies to every single thread in the VC, you would still be a member and still be welcome with arms wide open. But you were, and that makes you even more special.
When I used to notice that people wern't around as much as they used to be, I was always glad you were there. And now you've gone and that makes me even sadder.
Don't go because you feel you should. Because you shouldn't. There is no reason big enough for you to leave [crude joke about you being pregnant for 3 months goes here].
Just, like, look after yourself. And know that you will always be missed around this parts. And even if you just pop in and go "yeah, im still alive", I know people will be glad to know you're okay.
I have nothing constructive to say really. By now I hope you know how I feel, but just to highlight it a bit further, I miss you.
As Chels said, you have helped so many people around here, me included. Now please try to accept some of that help back.
I was just flicking through my old hard drive and guess what I cam accross.
The compulsive masterbation thread
You know, I could always be bribed(sp) into emailing you it.
Willing to accept any offers which might include tempting you back
Location: Denial Tent, Virtual Psych Ward Campsite, MA, USA
I am currently:
just so you know, you probably don't remember, but when i joined ryl and posted my first ever angsty threads asking for advice and such, you gave me this really awesome advice and you were really nice and i have never forgotten it
the advice that you gave me was really great and really smart and super helpful and i still remember it to this day and it meant a lot to me
you don't have to like earn the right to come on here and be on ryl (and even if you did i think you would have earned the right ages and ages ago!)
it matters absolutely nothing that you aren't able to come on as much as you used to and post as much as you used to
BUT, that being said...
if you WANT to leave ryl, not because you feel like you should but because you REALLY WANT TO and think that you would be healthier and happier without it, please do go because your well-being is most important even though everybody will really miss you but maybe like chelsea said you can pop in once in a while and say "hi" and "i'm still alive"
although, if you have decided to leave because it is the illness making you isolate yourself, and your way of sabotaging your happiness and hiding yourself from your friends and punishing yourself, then that is total crap and you need to fight it and come back right now please
i don't really know you at all but i have read a lot of your posts, even the few you have made lately, and you have a great sense of humor and i think that you have a gift for helping people distract themselves and making people laugh and smile and that is especially treasured on a site like ryl so i hope you stick around matthew
hey mattiness Im noteven here much and I miss your prescence.... btw i contribute sweet FA and I still come and go... its fine to take a break but dont feel you ahve to leave forever big hugs to ya wherever you are xxx
RYL really will not be the same without you.
Come back...
And I hope you're leaving for the RIGHT reasons... but I dont think you should leave at all. RYL isnt just about contribution....
You have always been supportive towards me and replied to my posts, and you always make me laugh. You are a massive part of RYL... and really will be missed.
Matthewwww come back. Now. :(
I scream for the sunlight, or a car to take me anywhere, just get me past this Dead and Eternal snow.
And if the perfect spring is waiting somewhere, just take me there, and lie to me and tell me it’s gonna be Alright.
- Conor Oberst
Ah what don't leave Mathew. Your awesome.
I remember at Oxford when we were talking about how awesome you were and how we wanted to meet you and ca bam who showed up, you did and it was such a cool day. I always rememeber that meet.
but I guess if you think thats what you need to do for positive reasons then I can accept that but please leave some penguin footprints from time to time.
I'll miss seeing your penguinness around.
Life can be beautiful if you let it.
Step back, breathe and take it in
oh my- i haven't been on RYL in ages, but you know what? you were the VERY first person i went to look for when i came on tonight! you *can't* go- you are the grounding for so many of us. and who else will make the 80's pop references i need so desperately?
Pengy! What do you mean you make no contribution?? Is making someone smile when they're in the depths of despair not a contribution? Is giving someone some well thought out words of care and advice not making a contribution??
Does having people here to do their best to help you not show you how much you are cared for here??
Get your arse back here, Babe.
Take care
Lozza xx
You don't have to be a monkey to recognize a banana!
