Contains sexual abuse - can i have some hugs?

[Darkwings44]

I’ll have to get my Pap test next month and I talked to my therapist today about it and she didn’t help me at all!!! she basically said that it’s a medically mandatory and that to talk to my mother and the boss of the group home about it!!!!!☹️

[Pi.R^2]

I'd be surprised if a pap test was medically mandatory! Did she give you any explanation? If not, then maybe talking to your mum or the group home would be a good idea and you could ask them if you 'have capacity', which means a doctor has decided that you are able to make decisions for yourself.

To be clear, even if I'm right and you don't have to have it, I'll be strongly encouraging you to have it, but I also think it's important that you get your right to choose, if that is possible.

[Darkwings44]

I don’t know

Yesterday I sent my mom a email about the Pap test but she did not answer it so Today I have a meeting with the boss of the group home and my mom about how I’m doing and stuff like that and I’m going to try to talk about the Pap test

[Darkwings44]

Just found out that the Pap test is going to be done on the 27th of October at 9:00 am and that my mom is going to be there with me but I don’t know if I can do it or not…….

[Pi.R^2]

Did the meeting go ahead? I hope they were able to explain things to you.

[Darkwings44]

yeah...... they kinda was but i still feel scared.....

[Pi.R^2]

What did they say?

I've had two pap tests, would it help if I talked about what happens?

[Darkwings44]

that i would be asleep when it happens

ok...

[Iamcatbug]

I’ve been asleep for some invasive procedures when I’ve felt like I couldn’t be awake for them. For me it helped make the whole experience a lot less stressful. Especially as I knew that they people who were doing the procedure were experts and were taking care of me.

It does sound like they are trying to do this in the least invasive way for you, I hope that it helps.

[Darkwings44]

Thank you for your help! ��

[Darkwings44]

its litterly 7 days away im scared!!!

[Pi.R^2]

Good luck. I'm glad you're going to be asleep. I've always found the staff doing my test to be very pleasant and good at putting me at ease. Since you'll be asleep, you won't feel the discomfort of them taking the sample, so that's good. I normally feel a bit awkward about the fact that someone can see my parts, but I remind myself that they will have done this so many times before, they're not even going to take any notice of it. I've got some quite noticeable and odd self-harm scars on my thighs and the nurse has never shown any signs of even noticing them!

I hope the experience is a stress-free as possible. The relief afterwards that it's done should be good! Can you plan something nice to do afterwards as a treat?

[Darkwings44]

wow thats awesome!!

i hope so too.....

i'll try...

[Pi.R^2]

Have you had it now? How was it?

[Darkwings44]

yes.........

it hurted alot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lucky my mom took me out and we did stuff afterwards....but i dont want to do that ever again!!!!!!!

[Pi.R^2]

I'm glad your mum took you out afterwards :)

Do you mean that it hurt afterwards?

[Darkwings44]

yes and it hurt during the test too..... the stuff that the doctor used hurted.... one felt huge and the other one felt like spikely metal it hurt alot!!!!!!!!!

[Iamcatbug]

What happened to you being asleep for it?

[Darkwings44]

they couldnt do it because of a problem with the sedetive so i had to do it awake......

[Pi.R^2]

Oh gosh! That’s not ideal that you didn’t know until the day that you wouldn’t be asleep.

Really well done for getting it over with. I know it’s not nice but it’s brilliant that you were able to do it, for the good of your health.