A couple of years ago I ventured into chat, didn't have a problem speaking to members or anything. One member was being rather woeful, she was getting support but she abruptly left in the middle of a conversation but before leaving she left the message "brb, going to cut myself", thus came an influx of concerned messages, she returned, igorned everyone but her friends and began joking around.
After, I thought **** that ****, I'm going home, well off chat.
I never returned, actually, I did to play chat bingo. Sweet Jesus, I loved chat bingo.
I prefer forums, I know a lot of members here; I'm more comfortable here.
Often I would speak and got completely ignored, everyone seemed to know everyone else and the people who werent known werent acknowledged.
To be fair, everyone gets ignored from time to time as people are busy looking at porn/reading/ have wandered off to make tea etc etc.
Also, people say hi to people by saying their names but if we don't know your name then we wont say hello. If you say hi when you come into chat normally people will say hello back unless they are wanking/reading news/wandered off to make tea etc etc :P
I rarely use the forums because I find them boring and slow, mostly.
Never forget what you are for the rest of the world will not.
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No,it may feel that way to you but chat isnt at all exclusive.Maybe give it another try before you bad mouth it :)
This.
Also, almost any place in the world will appear cliquey when you don't know anyone, nobody really knows you, people are shy, people are mentally ill and people know you hate chat because you think it's dramatic and cliquey. (we're really not for the large majority and it's slightly offensive to be so strongly thought of that way.) :p The trick to chat and many other chatrooms for that matter is to come in regularly so people get to know you, get comfortable with you and you with them. I didn't know people's names when first I came in. So I asked. People told me. I learned them. I still forget them! So I ask again. It's like anywhere... you go to a new school, chances are all the students aren't gonna flock you to talk to you right away. It's not right or wrong but it's comfort, discomfort, shyness, distrust, something. Sometimes you have to speak up and get to know people.
I only ever used chat in the beginning but found it extremely cliquey and exclusive and it made me feel terrible.
Often I would speak and got completely ignored, everyone seemed to know everyone else and the people who werent known werent acknowledged. When I tried to bring this up, someone who I am not going to name started basically making fun of me.
So I gave up and didnt come on for a few years - id still drop in to chat but not often.
Then I went on my first meet and realised the forums were a MUCH more inclusive environment so I stayed there.
I'm putting my neck out here but I agree with some of this.
Back in my day when I used chat it was really cliquey (In my opinion more so than the forums and a lot worse) and yes, sometimes people got ignored and I understand how easy that was, chat moves fast, sometimes people are away doing other things so it can happen.
personally I just find the forums a lot more friendly and awesome.
Of course i'm talking about what it was like a year a go or so, so it could all be different now.
I have to disagree with both of these posts but that's my opinion.
Yes but youre basing your opinion on what chat was like a year ago....I dont have a problem with you having that opinion but chat changes a lot, its so fast paced not only in discussion but also who is in chat/what the group dynamic is.x
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
Yes but youre basing your opinion on what chat was like a year ago....I dont have a problem with you having that opinion but chat changes a lot, its so fast paced not only in discussion but also who is in chat/what the group dynamic is.x
yes, I am basing it on something a year ago and I did say it could be different now.
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Hello hope you don't mind me commenting. I use both I have got some really good support in chat and the threads. I also hope I give useful advice in both. Chat can sometimes feel scary but honestly when you get chatting away it's a good atmosphere and people are lovely in there as well as the threads . X
I've been in chat a few times and I've found everyone to be lovely. I have friends ive made here who only really use chat and not forums and im usually welcomed by them if i go on. I just have issues with instant messaging in general which is why I don't really go in there!
Chat bingo was awesome though! :)
I'm fine! Totally fine. I don't know why it's coming out all loud and squeaky, 'cause really, I'm fine!
We may do something as a late easter thing in chat, or a random weekend thing as theyre always popular. I will speak to alex and see if he has any ideas.x
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
We may do something as a late easter thing in chat, or a random weekend thing as theyre always popular. I will speak to alex and see if he has any ideas.x
Ohh that's a good idea, chat events always seem to go down well.
Group support will be back and we should do something fun as we havent since christmas.The only problem is the organisation takes forever and its taxing and takes the mods away from modding.But yes we will sort something out.x
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
I don't use chat because I like to have time to think before typing. I get worried about offending people or saying something stupid. I also get anxious at the thought of it. I don't really have any desire to use chat because it's not for me, but since I've never used it then it's hard to comment on it. I like using the forums or PMing and I'm happy with that. I feel I can be more helpful with using forums, as well as keeping myself safe mentally (eg. not getting scared, anxious etc).
People in chat are pretty hardy offence wise,if that makes you feel better!x
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
Well if you ever fancy it give me a PM and I'll hold your hand and can talk you through it so youre not so anxious.x
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
