I don't imagine that I will be around as much, if at all, when I resign from modding. I've seen too many things on here to really trust a whole lot of people. The "behind-the scenes bit" on this website can destroy your faith in humanity, or at least erode it over time.
Gosh, I was totally not aware of any of this! I guess I never really payed that much attention to how modding would really be.
This makes Holly sad. :(
You should all have a kitten.
Also, I personally don't mind the design of the main site. I guess I'm not too fussy though as long as it has the essentials. The news rarely gets updated though, and I'd like to see the polls get updated more often too. Perhaps every week or so? There are a lot of sections that don't have anything written in them, too. I was under the impression that any member of the community could write articles for the first few months I was here but I can't seem to find how you'd go about doing that, so maybe not.
EDIT: Okay, so maybe I was right! I've found where to submit an article in sections that already HAVE articles, but I have no idea where to go in sections that don't yet have any.
Additionally, I'm sad to read about how seeing behind the scenes decreases your faith in humanity. I've not been behind the scenes, but from front of house, yes, I've seen some betrayal and rudeness and downright unpleasantness, but I've also seen such bravery, inspiration and great kindness and I consider myself privileged to be a member of this site.
I'm not disputing anything that the mods have said, at all. Just commenting that I'm saddened that you've had such negative experiences, and that perhaps RYL is not quite as rainbows and cupcakes on the underneath, as it appears to me on the surface.
And it can never be an inappropriate time to chip in and say I'm infinitely grateful to the mods for ALL the hard work they put in :)
Edit: my kitten jpg is not showing up for me :'( I hope it's working on other folks' computers!
^ I second the gratefulness! I appreciate all the work the mods have done even if I might not have openly expressed it until now. They all seemed such friendly cupcakes right from the start and were the only ones I dared to PM on my old account!
Your kitten jpg isn't showing for me either :( Noooooo!
Totally not sliding off topic on my own thread or anything, but I do believe you owe me a PM, Jenna!
I've never had a problem/issue with the mods and they've always been fab with things I've asked/etc about! Therefore, YAY MODS - you guys are awesome. You really don't get thanked enough!
DILLIGAF
"it’s when you’re acting selflessly, that you are at your bravest"
- Four.
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I'm sorry things have been tough and some people can be rude and unappreciative. I just want to say thank you to all mods, both past and present. I think it's brilliant that you have volunteered to do this, and I hope people can see you also need support and kindness too. You have all done so much for this site, for which I am grateful, as I have benefited from this site and really needed it at times. Thanks again.:hug:
I read this and felt i really needed to comment. The mods do a great job they really do. As members we dont know what its like at all. I really appreciate all that the mods do. It also takes alot to be honest about why you decided to stand down and i dont mean to sound patronising at all i really dont. I used to be around ryl everyday and i used to post in the introduction section everyday to. I quit as i was fed up and even just being a member it can get quite annoying with rudeness and having very little thanks.
I also decided to leave ryl because i wanted to move on and because i felt ryl had changed, and i dont mean to be nasty at all but ryl seems to have gone down hill with all the changes we were promised that never happened. Dont get me wrong Harley is great for all what he has done but for a long time ryl hasnt been the same to me. Only i came back but im hardly ever around. I know that ryl is surviving ok its not like about to be shut down but its just my opinion and i am being honest in the most polite way i can with out being horrible. The mods do a great job and im very greatful for all the help iv had from some of them over the years i have been here and for what they do, its a very difficult job. I know that i went off of the point of the thread but i just wanted to be honest and also show my appreciation. Some of the mods have been mods for a very long time and have also been on the site alot longer than myself and the rest of us members. If you remember the lovely typsee she was a mod for six or seven years before she resigned, i also remember sam (Mrs Sam) Sarah (Control Freak) Jo, Shannon (Day tripper) i cant remember any others but if i do il mention them as they all did a great job.
It is very hard to be a mod, you do see the worst of people. There is very very little reward when it comes to being a mod, yes the reward should be that RYL runs smoothly, but because we arent in control solely when it comes to the running of the site whatever we do is just pushing sand up a hill.
The novelty of having new powers and responsibility soon fades, you go through the faze of everything being ok, being able to handle modding and then inevitably it gets to the stage where you just cant/dont want to handle it anymore. When you become irritable at everyone and no one seems to be taking it on board that maybe youre upset or frightened or depressed or any of the reasons why you turned up to the site in the first place.
There is a reason why we always say were human.....we more than anyone else need people to understand that we are facing the same issues as other people on this site. I think the vast majority of people would understand that most of us dont like to be shouted at or abused online and yet we as mods put up with it everyday. I can say that I get abuse every single time I come onto RYL from some port of call and being both a forum mod and head of chat means I get double the flack.
But.....I signed up to be a moderator because I wanted to give something back to the site. I took over being head chat mod because I wanted to make chat better, that has always been my goal. We choose to be mods because we genuinely want to be there for people, we want to help and we want to make RYL the best it can be.
The stuff about the main site doesnt really concern the mods and it never should have, if Im really blunt about it....we are here to moderate and we can only do what we can with the tools were given.
It seems that as soon as one problem is solved another one pops up and another and another until its all caving in around you and I dread the day when mods come and tell me that they dont want to be moderators anymore.....Ive seen some of the best mods come and go and its sad to lose a member of a team who are your biggest allies and supporters.
We may seem like we are a slightly different entity and that we perhaps dont mix as well as maybe we should, but we dont want to show the rest of RYL that were sad or frightened, because that has been used against us in the past and the only people that really understand are other moderators.
So yes....not a very cheery post but hopefully an insight into the reality of being a mod, especially on a site like RYL where emotions are at a constant high.
From a very weary mod :P
xx
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
It gets a bit sad when people are quoting your rants back at you to use against you. my favourite of late.
'Dont you think you should be taking care of your child, not having a go at me over something petty in chat. You're right, you probably are a terrible mother'
-_-
It also gets a bit sad that when someone posts and says they are in hospital/someone has died/something tragic has happened your first instinct is 'better investigate that as its probably bullshit'.
Once someone used my past drug addiction to say that I wasnt able to make decisions on whats right and wrong!
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
'Dont you think you should be taking care of your child, not having a go at me over something petty in chat. You're right, you probably are a terrible mother'.
Wtf? Seriously? That's ****ed up.
I came here to share the mod love. Mods, I owe you all a beer.
Vi Veri Veniversum Vivus Vici.
By the power of truth, I, while living, have conquered the universe.
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