Em, hun, don't feel pressurised at all. I can sort of understand the feeling of being like, the last virgin, but at least I'm in a better position than most. I'm waiting for the right person, and to lose it under the right reasons. I'd like to hope you'd do the same, and not just lose it under a bit of peer pressure. I really don't think it would be worth it.
Don't have sex at uni. People will hear!
I heard the guy next door to me have sex a fair amount of times.
It's not a nice thing to be woken up by! I'd rather be woken up by a fire alarm (that happened toooo!)
^ yes! the guy above me used to have a rather noisy girlfiend - it wasn't pleasant, it was either that or my room vibrating cause he had his music turned up that loud it kept everyone in the block awake. Halls were such fun!
I was 17 and had been in a relationship for 5 months, we were together a year in the end and I have no regrets at all, he was the right one for me to loose my virginity to, even if we didnt make it for life.
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Cheers guys, it's really useful to hear your input!! Part of me just wants the first time 'out of the way' so to speak but I'm well aware that that bit of me vanishes as soon as anyone actually suggests it as a good idea (stuff from the past gives me a tendency to panic in that kind of situation) so I guess I will probably end up waiting for something 'special' if you will! It just seemed like I was quite old to be still waiting because I'm already 19!
It's funny because the guys at work joke about sex and how I need to behave myself during freshers week etc all the time! Ah if only they knew..
I had wanted to get my first time done with and taken care of. I don't regret my choices but that's because I have very few true regrets in my life. I do wish it had been to someone that truly cared about me and thought of me as more than what he did, though.
Don't just get it out of the way. With him it was just sex. With a person I really do deep down care about it's sex but more at the same time. It's a closeness to him that I really enjoy. I would have loved to have had that closeness the first time I had sex along with the funny awkwardness, even though I wasn't oblivious as to what I was doing.
Em, I was 20 when I love my virginity. It was a drunken thing and hurt like hell but at that moment in time it felt right. No regrets. Then he finished with me like 4 days later. But yeh I still don't regret it.
I wouldn't worry about it to much. I know a few people my age still are virgins. It's nothing to be ashamed off. Be proud that your waiting. I was glad I waited until that time (ok maybe I should have waited longer) but yeh.
Chin up.
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Step back, breathe and take it in
I was 15 (just, it was the day after my birthday) and it wasn't special at all. I don't even remember most of it I was so drunk. The guy was a total creep and I never saw him again. I can't change it but it did put me in a really bad place for a while cos I felt so used and cheap and stuff. So I guess I do regret it a little bit.
I'm 17 atm though and lots of my friends haven't lost their virginity! So I don't think you should really worry =] Have fun at uni!
I'm 20 and still a virgin. It doesn't bother me too much, and although people at uni seem to be sex mad it's actually not the case. You'll find that there are a lot of different people there and they are usually very accepting of people as a whole.
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
I'm 20 and still a virgin, not too happy about it but there you go! I'm at uni and ther are quite a few people there who are still virgins. Uni isn't all about sex- but then again the course I'm on/ the college I'm in has around 86% girls anyway so its a bit different.
i was 14 to a guy who was my bf at the time!! it was awkward but not painful!! i dont regret it!! dont worry about uni, lots of people are virgins when they start uni! just do it when your ready! x x x
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Uni isn't all about sex- but then again the course I'm on/ the college I'm in has around 86% girls anyway so its a bit different.
My course is about 25% girls but I see where you're coming from - I was (/am) just a bit nervous, you know? Part of me wants it over and done with so that it's not such a big deal and the other half thinks that I should wait like a sensible person! But thank you so much for all your inputs - it's really interesting and good to know I'm not alone!
18. and it was a one night stand... but then all the times i have have only been one nighters.... way overrated i think.... well the 1st time definitly was. i always knew id lose mine in a one nighter though... i wanted to get the embarassing 1st time out of the way with someone i never had to see again. each to their own though, anyone who looks down on someone for being a virgin is just a ****. =]
Don't have sex at uni. People will hear!
I heard the guy next door to me have sex a fair amount of times.
It's not a nice thing to be woken up by! I'd rather be woken up by a fire alarm (that happened toooo!)
This is very true actually they seem to make the walls in halls out of paper, guess they are going for the japanes look. Yes I used to able to hear everyone and i guess they could all hear me.
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