Has anyone wanted to stop self-harming, but not fully for themself?

[Ahimsa]

I'm nearly 10 months free, and not one of those was for me, it was for my best friend. Knowing she was proud of me, was what made me keep going, and the fact that I was (and still am) scared to lose her

[Cassee]

I'm doing the same thing! Most of the reason I'm trying to stop is for my boyfriend. Sometimes that's good because it makes me try harder, but at other times i feel resentful that he won't "let me" cut, and i feel like I don't have my freedom. Maybe stopping SH for your boyfriend may not be the best reason, at least it's a reason and if it helps, then good. That's just my opinion. Your therapist would know better than I would. Maybe you should try to find good reasons to stop that don't involve your boyfriend. I hope that helps. Good luck with stopping

[Pamelici0uss]

I have stopped for my family. I haven't done it for over 3 years now (with 1 f.ck up...) because I don't want to hurt them (or my boyfriend) and let them down.

It's hard though. It's best to stop because YOU want to, not because you've GOT to. And if you have to do it for someone else, make sure it means a huge deal to you to see the other person who you're stopping for happy.

[BelleRaven]

everyone is different but personally when I tried to stop but it wasn't entirely for me it did't really work. I found that it that quitting helped much more when I fully and entirely did it for me. sounds selfish but its true for me! and of course I knew that stopping would make alot of people who loved and care about me happy but I really did stop because I felt at some point I really needed to.

[TeenSeen]

I've had it fifty fiftty, where I just want to stop for my friends and family. but I know one of my close friends refused to harm (She didn't want to quite totally) for three weeks during christmas because her family was all around and she didn't want to cause stress.