I'm glad you're proud of it, because well, it does make you who you are and help shape you as a person, and there's no reason to be badly ashamed of yourself. I'm glad you accept it. You're a lot more mature and reasonable than me.
I was diagnosed with some form of Autism a couple of years ago, and I have to admit I'm quite ashamed of it and try to brush it under the carpet. In fact, I don't really believe I even have it (only certain aspects). I think the way I am is down to me being depressed and having social anxiety, which both have root causes (bullying and trauma). I admit I have sensory issues in regards to clothing (I hate tight clothing, it makes me feel uncomfortable) and erm I had trouble until my teens about tying a tie and doing my shoelaces. But my social skills were normal as a child, I was never popular, but I had a good few friends on the street and at school, I could approach anyone and speak to them, I was rarely shy, etc. The reason I've felt ashamed is really the whole 'learning disorder' side of it and the fact that we all know what happens to 'retards' in school.. despite the fact I never ever required special needs ever in my school life, and finished school with 8 decent GCSE's (B's and C's mainly). According to the average chavvy joe, I'd have to have an IQ of -100 with a diagnosis of autism, and while I think my viewpoint in regard to the issue is quite wrong.. I'm really just talking from experience. The only other known 'autistic' kid at my secondary school was branded as a psycho nutjob because he'd attack people and kick tables over if people wronged him.
Yes, he does probably enjoy your company, even if he has difficulty expressing it in the way you might know it.
I'm on the autistic spectrum, and while I need more alone time than most and don't enjoy crowds, I do like people. We on the spectrum need companionship just as much as any neurotypical, you just won't see us being the life of the party.
Thanks. Just realised that question was phrased really badly and sounded quite patronising. It wasn't intended to be. Was just tired when I asked I think. Lost boys said it better, I wish I knew what was going on in his world sometimes. Its hard when I don't see a response to know if he appreciates me being there or would rather be alone.
If you have problems with social skills, do you still enjoy company?
Just my brother really struggles with interaction with anybody, even family. And I sometimes go and see him and just watch TV with him in his flat and not really talk. But I worry that I'm interfering and maybe he'd rather be on his own?
Do you think he still likes me to go and see him, even if he doesn't show it?
I enjoy a bit of company every day, but I get overwhelmed easily by company and need a lot of time alone. It also depends on who it is. My Dad and my best friend can stay with me and I'm fine with it, but if I have someone else I soon become anxious and overwhelmed
I think he likes to see you though. I like seeing my Dad but not all day
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
Thank you for the replies everyone, I really appreciate your input
I don't like my sensory sensitivites that much tbh. I have to have dim lighting and the curtains closed during the day in my room. I get overwhelmed if I don't have sunglasses on during the day outside. I can't go on public transport without ear plugs or headphones. I can't wear tight clothes (I like that bit though as I think tight clothes are silly). I can't wear certain fabrics. I get overwhelmed by perfumes and cooking smells. I have to screen tint my laptop and lower the contrast otherwise I get severe eye ache
But I love my obsessive interests and I am advantaged in that I don't need loads of friends to be happy
I just wish that I was better understood at school
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
I enjoy a bit of company every day, but I get overwhelmed easily by company and need a lot of time alone. It also depends on who it is. My Dad and my best friend can stay with me and I'm fine with it, but if I have someone else I soon become anxious and overwhelmed
I think he likes to see you though. I like seeing my Dad but not all day
Thank you for your honesty. I like to think I can tell when he is getting anxious and try to back off.
And I'm glad you are happy with your own company, that makes me feel better that he is happy on his own. I think us "neuro typicals" tend to try and enforce our own likes/dislikes onto people and so if we like being around people we assume you should which is obviously not true!
Good luck with your Uni course. I'm sure you will do amazingly well. x
I have to say, I am incredibly inspired by you and how you view this.
My Cousin has recently been diagnosed with this as well and her parents, like your mum, think its a curse. They refuse to say Asperger's because they don't want to label their daughter.
I really hope that her parents come to terms with it, because she is 11 and if her parents can't accept it, how can she? I really do hope that one day, she can have an amazingly positive outlook on life like you do!
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I think its awesome your proud of it! it makes you who you are afterall!
i used to know someone who was autistic. I have to admit i envied the fact he was so obsessive about cleaning. ahaha! x
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Catherine, I think it was more of a "I know many suffer & please don't be offended by this but I am proud to be Autistic" sentence rather than "I know many suffer & don't feel they should be proud of it".
Thanks for clarifying Sarawr, I am prone to making mistakes like that
Thank you all. I like to think that me being on the spectrum is an advantage (my obsessive interests in pharmacology help me in my BSc pharmacology course, I see the world in a different, more logical way, and I have a good rote memory, especially for numbers, etc)
Saving Grace, I think you should get your cousin's parents to read a book about Aspergers (I am not sure which book to recommend though, as there are some very good ones but some very poor ones) as education helped me and my Dad (it didn't work on my Mum unfortunately). My Dad understands me well now
I am currently memorising pi =]
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
As the Mum of a son(17) with Asperges, I am proud of my son. I am proud of his achievements, he too is very good at science. I am proud of the choices he makes in his life, proud of the way he handles other people, especially at school. Proud of the way he handles his asperges. He too is proud of his asperges and the way it influences his view of life.
It has been helpful to me to read about the way it effects your lives and how you deal with the environment and other people. It gives me more insight into his life and explains some of his nuiances. Smells and tastes real effected him when he was younger, now that he is older it seems to be more of the touch and visual senses that are effected. He wears lose clothing and prefers the lights off and to be alone in his room. (I do have to ask myself though is this just a typical teenager).
Well i think all of you who posted should feel proud of yourselves for having the courage to stand up and speak (post).
Jackie, thank you for your post. I think that Asperger's/autism is not a curse, and that things like seeing the world in a logical way and the "little proffessor syndrome" should be cultivated
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
