the only time i cover them is at school or in front of my brothers/cousins as they dont know.
my parents have seen them and so have my friends they dont really comment, unless its a new-er one. and most people have seen them in games and dont see anything, they presume there off my semi-feral rabbit
I cover the wounds that havent healed yet with a bandage, but yes i do show my scars, In hot weather i wear t-shirts.. People do look, but nobody's ever stopped me and asked about them...
I never cover mine up, like... never. Unless it's freezing cold, obviously.
My friends and family don't mind either way as long as i'm comfortable.
Sure, you'll find people staring... but what can you do?
If I catch someone looking i'll either make eye contact with them for an uncomfortably long time, roll down my sleeves and give them a 'you're a ****, now i'm going to boil... thanks' look, or make out with the Mrs, then they're staring at lesbians instead ^_^
I was really ashamed of mine for a long while, and would cover them up in any way I could, but as they got older and started to fade to white I got more comfortable with it, though I leave newer ones until they fade, and tbh no one ever notices unless weare having a serious one on one conversation and I have my arms on the table between us or something.
Actually, my biggest obstacle was having them out in the open for my parents to see, and honestly if you're not ashamed of them I say good for you.
I do also think it depends on the setting. If it's a professional setting or one where you're really trying to make a strong first impression, it may be in your best interest to cover them up, whether or not it should be socially acceptable. But I think that in everyday social situations there's no reason why you should be compelled to display/not display your scars against your personal wishes. Your body, your choice.
I would never optionally show my cuts,but I'm currently sitting gcse's and have to wear a short sleeved school shirt in exams,I cover the cuts with bandages but it still makes me feel really uncomfortable. And distracts me completely.Wish I could be as brave as some of you people.
I don't cover mine up unless I have fresh ones or it's cold. I always seem to be saying whatever excuse comes to mind when people ask about them. I suppose I'm not entirely comfortable with them, but I'm trying.
i have no problem showing mine my ones on my wrists i got tattoos over them the ones on my arms ive just left and i feel no shame against it and so what if people notice its none of their buisness!
self harm is real. it's an important issue. you should never feel responsible for it and like it's your job to cover up. people have to learn to face the fact that people do it and it's not just because they're attention seeking or emo. **** the people who might judge you, i say there's no shame in it, you obviously don't do it for those reasons so who cares right? :)
they don't get it i wanna scream
i wanna breathe again
i wanna dream
Personally, I keep most of mine covered, but that's not so much because I'm ashamed of the scars but because of the area where I usually hurt myself. I almost always cover fresh cuts/burns though.
As for your situation, I don't see any reason why you should cover up. If you're comfortable with your scars, then that's fine. You shouldn't have to hide your scars just in case they might make someone else uncomfortable or anything. Some people who've self-harmed have the opinion that their scars don't show their weakness, but their strength in overcoming their obstacles, even.
oh non-believer, please believe me.
is there honestly nothing in this world
that keeps you living & breathing?
you're a ghost in your own
goddamn city.
I keep fresh or really bad ones covered, but I also tend to harm in areas which I would never have on display anyway.
I do have a fair few on my arms though, and I tend to not bother with covering them, unless I'm working (I'm a music teacher) or I'm with extended family; my granddad or niece/nephews don't need to know.
Anyone else though, I don't care. My response if I get any gyp tends to be 'If I can do this to myself . . .'
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I think it's very respectable that you're able to not have to cover them up because it shows how comfortable you are. I think it's amazing, and I don't think you should let your mom destroy that confidence. I can see that she doesn't understand what it means to stop hiding, but maybe you could explain it to her? Because I think it is something positive that you are able to show them.
Personally, I'm still too uncomfortable with my scars, so I suffer through summer in long sleeves and long pants. I know that is probably just as suspicious especially where I live, but I still can't bring myself to show them-especially those that are really bad.
One thing is sure-
we have to do something.
We have to do the best
we know at the moment.
If it doesn't turn out right,
we can modify it as we go along.
-FDR
Honey, I show my scars. I don't like doing it but it's a choice between that and being really hot in the summer. I'd rather have on a short-sleeved t-shirt than die in the heat! I never show open wounds because that's just wrong, but I often just bandage them up and put on a tubigrip. That way, if anyone asks, I can tell them that I hurt my elbow.
Do what you want, though, honey. Don't let your mum tell you what to do. It's your choice.
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I think if you have the confidance, thats a great thing! i really admire people who do. The only ever time ill have mine showing, is if its really hot and im with close friends. My mom told me they are shocking to people and i suppose in a way it is. But why care about that others think?
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I haven't covered up for a long time, and my friends have never asked me about them, so I don't cover them. Sometimes people stare, but I just ignore them.
I think it's your body, and you should decide what you feel the most comfortable with.
It's hard to tell what the appropriate response is. On one hand, I'm sure it is somewhat disturbing to people when/if they figure out what they are. Seeing as you say they're obvious, then it's going to happen; they're going to attract some stares. I'd advise you to figure out some answers to questions people might ask before you decide to go ahead with this.
On the other hand, it sounds as if it's your mother who is the most ashamed over this. This could be an opportunity to have a talk with her about potentially unresolved issues.
In the end, it is your decision what to do. After all, it is your body, and it must feel nice/freeing to not worry about being self-conscious about it. Still, I don't think it would be wise to exactly show them off like some people tend to do...There's a fine line between being honest and being intentional, but I'm sure you'll find it.
What if you had been in an accident and got a lot of scars that way???? Would you still feel you should cover up???? It doesn't matter what put the scars there in the first place. It's just scars. I have seen people with burn scars from fires and i would never, ever tell someone like that to cover up in order to spare other people. And i would never, ever tell a self harmer to cover up to spare other people.
It's your body and your story. It's not your job to protect the world from seeing something that could be potentially disturbing. If people don't like it they can look away. Simple as that.
My arms look horrible. But i don't cover up. And it's my experience that most people are too polite to say anything anyway. I think there's enough hiding in self harm as it is.
