Everyone's first time is different. Some people relay horror stories, others describe it as a non-event, and for others it was one of the most wonderful things they've ever experienced.
It all depends on your relationship, your partner, your body and your mind-set.
I was one of the lucky ones and I had a really wonderful first time.
For me, it wasn't the sort of pain I had expected. It was deeper and more intense than I had anticipated, but after a short while, as I relaxed and my body adjusted, it started to feel good.
I'm lucky enough to have a boyfriend who was previously experienced and very thoughtful and patient, so he took it slowly and we talked about it a lot before we actually did it. Talking is really important, you need to communicate what you need from each other.
I don't know if someone else said this already because I don't have time to read but here's what I did and it worked. First of all: RELAX. Don't tighten your muscles, especially your legs and vagina. Don't expect it to hurt, if you do you will unconsciously tighten your muscles and then IT WILL HURT. Use lubricant, if you can, and have your partner go about it very slowly and following your directions. Spread your legs as much as you possibly can...and most important of all: ENJOY IT! This is suppossed to be fun so have fun. Also: have a lot of foreplay and if you can, have an orgasm before penetration...this will help you relax and the orgasm will relax your vag muscles too. I followed all these advices and did not feel any pain, you shoul be alright too.
"...that incremental suicide of turning your life into a dream, to make being awake as similar to sleep as possible. Drowsily, lazily, dry-mouth your way through the day's ceremonies, fumble your way back into the dew-bather you never really left, draped in brown, brown now all around, the haze!" - Russell Brand on drug addiction.
"Si ma êkh gûndo piyiamásko...ándo bírto barruno. Bírto, bírto barruno."
it dependson the person, for me, it was quite painful the first time then eased up a bit for the next few times and then went away after a while. i have friends who it didnt hurt at all. yes relaxing is definately a good plan, if your stressed/nervous/worried then you will be tense and it wont be easy for him.
as i have read, everyones accounts where diffrent, it all depends on you. but yes it can hurt but its not something to worry about, for most people the pain goes away after a minute or 2
smile, your beautiful
if someone hates you, be proud that youve done something worthwhile enough for them to disaprove of
Lol and a man with a tiny penis never hurts
(No pun intended!)
Nah my first time was uncomfortable and boring - but at the same time I was like "Wow, Im having sex!! .... This sucks."
Keep yourself relaxed and at your rate, theres no reason you cant stop if your uncomfortable or in pain =)
Happy humping!
Sarah: Give me the child.
Jareth: Sarah beware. I have been generous up till now. I can be cruel.
Sarah: Generous? What have you done that's generous?
Jareth: Everything! Everything you have wanted I have done. You asked the child be taken, I took him. You cowered before me, I was frightening. I have reordered time. I have turned the world upside down, and I have done it all for you! I am exhausted from living up to your expectations of me. Isn't that generous?
The first time hurts a bit, but I find if you relax and have an understanding partner who is willing to go slow at first the pain goes away. Still not an unbearable pain.
