Clearly the general consensus is that those who did have sex young wish they'd waited, like I do very much, so you did the right thing respecting yourself and it's good that you still do now, enough not to go to a club and pick up some randomer :)) And a lot more people wait than actually let on, you probably won't be the only one in your circle of friends. It's really not all that special anyhoo, unless it's with the right person. I mean for me, it was painful and awkward and I havnt seen any of them since.
and as for feeling "knowledgable", cosmopolitan online will do the job just fine and it's cheaper than condoms.
:P
XOXO
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Me: Mum what are you doing for ur 20th anniversary? Mum: BIG party time! .. Dunno what your dads doing.
I recently watched my friend, who had previously been a virgin, throw herself at everyone she could in order to try and lose it. It was one of the most heart-breaking things I have seen, there was no way I could stop her, and she wasn't happy even after she lost it, because her first time was in a room full of other people.
Sex is about trust, love and romance, not about how far and how fast you can get to the end. If its worth doing, its worth waiting to share it with someone you care about.
Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind.
To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse.
To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better.
To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better.
I'm 22 and still a virgin. I think the most difficult thing for me is not the fact I haven't had sex, but that the thought of even just having a boyfriend absolutely terrifies me, so I reckon it's going to take me years before I do. Being a virgin at 19 sounds really young to me still, so don't worry. It will come.
don't feel left out... seriously, sex should be a loving thing done when you're ready and not a race....
I SERIOUSLY wish I waited longer... in fact i regret losing my virginity so much I avoid the topic most of the time...
As a little kid you believed in fairytales,
that fantasy of what your life would be: white dress; prince charming who would carry you away to a castle on a hill.
You closed your eyes and had complete and utter faith.
Eventually you grow up. One day you open your eyes and the fairy tale disappears.
But the thing is, it's hard to let go of that fairytale entirely because almost everyone has that smallest bit of hope, of faith,
that one day they will open their eyes and it will come true.
before i had sex, i wanted to do it really badly. i thought it was the thing to do or the thing i SHOULD do.
it's really... i dunno. i don't want to say overrated, but it's definitely not something to brag about or feel cool over. it's not like an exclusive club you're not invited to. it is special and should be done with someone you care about, but it's not really something you like... should worry about, you know? i did it with someone special, but it still made me feel weird afterward. i felt like i did it too early (after about a month of dating) and that i should have waited and that i wanted to do it for the sake of doing it, not because i loved him or wanted to make my first time special.
wait. it's worth it. don't feel bad or ashamed about not doing it. and don't feel ashamed if you DO do it. everyone has their own times of being ready.
I basically just did it at 18 kinda what you're describing with pretty much close to a stranger. because my parents had been super strict and not let me go anywhere i'd never had the chance to do anything sex wise.
this is me.
As a little kid you believed in fairytales,
that fantasy of what your life would be: white dress; prince charming who would carry you away to a castle on a hill.
You closed your eyes and had complete and utter faith.
Eventually you grow up. One day you open your eyes and the fairy tale disappears.
But the thing is, it's hard to let go of that fairytale entirely because almost everyone has that smallest bit of hope, of faith,
that one day they will open their eyes and it will come true.
As people have said dont feel left out, you have the chance to be mature enough to make ur first time special, rahter than having made a mistake in your youth and regret it now.
I wish i had waited. When you meet teh right person then you'll know, i knew mine wasnt but i did it anyway and it was horrible but i was scared of what would happen if i didnt. Thats why its better to wait til you're are older then you can make the right decision for you and not feel pressured
I had sex when blacked out drunk before. I don't count those experiences because they're not memorable... at all.
The first time I soberly chose to have sex I did mainly because I didn't like being teased by my friends for being a "virgin" at 20. So this one guy flat out told me "I'd like to **** you" and I said "okay, when?"
I don't regret my first memorable experience being something like that but I only wish it had been with someone I truly cared for. But don't beat yourself up over still being a virgin. It's not a huge deal in the end. I eventually told my friends why I slept with that guy and they were all "oh, well, you could have just told us it bothered you and we would have stopped. We never actually thought you were any less of an adult because of it."
After that guy I ended up sleeping with someone I was close to and really cared about. It was so much better when it was with him as we had this comfort level that still hasn't been matched by anyone else. Don't do it just to do it. At least wait until you have someone you can laugh at the embarrassing things with instead of run away in shame.
Personally, for me it was an active choice not to have sex with somebody that I really cared for. After seeing how sex had destroyed some of my friends relationships, I didn't want to wait for it to be something really special if it was going to change the relationship with that person, and after making it out to be something huge and amazing and special, I'd end up regretting losing it to him if we split up further down the line.
So, I chose to lose it to somebody who I cared for, but I wasn't in a relationship with, and who it wasn't like I was holding and waiting for that 'special someone'.
It's completely up to you, though. It's your call, and you really, really shouldn't feel pressured into doing it or losing it to somebody that you don't want to.
You have to feel emotionally ready, that's the most important thing - everything else can sit on the burner for a while :)
