does it hurt for all of that feed? or just the start?
if so then you could try expressing a bit to ease the pressure a bit first.
also you can wear breast shells inside your bra, they will collect dribbles of milk and you can store it in the freezer for later in life.
i expressed from 2 days old until 8 weeks with ella and 2 days to 7 weeks with chloe, topping up with ready made formula if i needed to. if you do go down that route, give them all breastmik and if they are hungry after that, make them the formula feed up.
i mixed it to start with and was v disappointed when she didn't finish it all...i was like... wasting the good stuff!
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
hey everyone, im siobhan and im 10 weeks pregnant i had my first appointment with the midwife today and everything seems to be ok i have to get a scan to c how far i really am and the midwife said i would have to wait to 20 weeks before i can find out but i hope wen i c the doctor she will change her mind and send me for a scan tho i dont know when i will c the doctor but hopefully it will b soon
how did you get on today, did you manage to go along by yourself?
20 weeks seems awfully late! i had my scan at 13 weeks...they normally do them around 12/13 weeks here. some places will give you a second anomaly scan around 20 weeks. but a dating scan is generally done earlier.
i would maybe try to see your doctor soon and see if you can push it. its amazing seeing your baby at the scan, very emotional.
oh, and congratulations
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
yeah i went alone, yeah my midwife was going to book me for a scan but then she was told by someone that she couldnt so it much of just changed or somthing but yeah i will try and push for a scan because i would really like to know how far i am and i would love to c my baby, yeah i have to make appointment with the doctor because im going to new york in august and i have to make sure it ok to fly and get the ok for the doctor and get a letter to say im ok to fly. i got a information pack today with alot of information but my dad has lifted it and put it sum where and i dont know were and i would really like to look at it but i dont want to ask my dad for it because hes not happy with me being pregnant :(
hmm you really should be given a dating scan, so do push that! I'm glad it went okay though.
I'm sure your dad will come round, mine did...once my daughter was born that is! and he adores her now. Try and ask him for it if you do want to have a look at it.
x
It's so easy to get lost in constantly having to present
whatever face you believe a person wants to see rather than your own
i would definitely push for it - its not just about dates, its about the health of you and your baby.
have a look at this link...maybe print it off and take it in with you when you discuss the scan. it will give you some back up, there are a lot of facts in there and taking them into consideration it does not make sense for scans to be left that late. for example:
First trimester: It's now recommended that all pregnant women have a dating scan when they're between 10 and 14 weeks pregnant, to confirm their dates. This is important if you are having screening tests for Down's syndrome, as knowing the exact dates makes sure your result is accurate.
thats a good website by the way. when i was pregnant i also used bounty.com and i used the forums. i used the 'due in april' one, and we eventually set up our own forum and most of us still use it. i speak to them every day and they have been a great support to me, so i would recommend using forums completely!!
you should be ok to fly, its only really third trimester thats an issue. i went to germany when i was 12 weeks pregnant and i flew there and back no problem.
thats a shame your dad is upset about you being pregnant, but he will come around. maybe you could sit down and have a chat with him. tell him you understand hes upset but this is what you want to do and its very important to you.
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
I would push for the dating scan.
I had mine at 16 weeks, but that was because I was late on getting to see my midwife for my booking appointment which I had at 13 weeks. Usually the 20 week scan is a detailed scan.
As for your dad, he will come round. Both my parents were extremely annoyed when I told them I was pregnant. My mum came around quicker than my dad when I asked her to come to my dating scan with me as my partner couldn't get time off work. My dad is now the doting granddad and would do pretty much anything for Faith.
hey mama's :)
i've not been on here for a while but i had a baby last month, a beautiful girl called mia rae madison- my pregnancy and birth went great and she's so good i'm really lucky!
however, although i'm certain i don't have post natal depression- i've had depression and anxiety in the past
i'm 19, starting uni in september, moving next month and my boyfriends starting a new job which means he works away... although i have great support i feel like i can't let on when i'm not coping... i love being a mum but sometimes i feel so lonely as all my friends are out enjoying themselves at uni and i don't know any other mums and i get really nervous going to places where i'd meet other mums... sometimes i wonder if i'm ever going to fit in anywhere and that i'm going to miss out on so much... i don't mean to sound like a bad mum.
when i look at her i know she's worth it :) <3
i just need to know if other mums feel the same?
and if so how do you cope?
xxx
yes i felt a lot like that. congratulations on becoming a mother, she has a beautiful name.
i had my daughter at 21 and i found when i fell pregnant my social life more or less vanished. i suffered depression during my pregnancy i believe due to work pressures and i went on to suffer PND.
i felt that people judged me as i look so young and well, i am young. none of my friends had kids and other mothers seemed worlds apart.
my saviour has been an online forum. i used a 'due in april' forum on bounty and i made a lot of friends. even though they are online, they are still a great support to me when i have no one else to turn to or if i just want a chat.
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
thanks for replying guys :)
did you find it got easier in time? or do you still feel like this?
i understand the being judged too.. older mums seem to know everything and i've got so much to learn! i'm trying to prove people wrong and not fall into the stereotype of young mum on benefits (not that theres anything wrong with that) by getting back into education but it's hard juggling that and being a new mum!
xx
everyone has to learn, regardless of age. motherhood is one big learning curve and no one knows everything
i have found it easier in time yes. but you needn't settle for lonely...have you tried netmums? they do local meet a mum boards. you can respond to adverts by other mums or you can put your own up saying who you are, how old your child is and what sort of person you are looking to meet etc.
i also know a lot of mums who swear by baby groups. they can be daunting, but children are great ice breakers.
i know what you mean about the stereotype. i gave up work due to PND and i am now at home with my little one. but this year my partner has been very ill with his bipolar and off work as a result since february. i feel like people are looking at us like we are scum, but i try to ignore my paranoia - or rise above any idiots who judge me.
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
good for you raven :)
only we know are situations, not up to other people to judge!
thanks for the advice, once i've moved i'll find out about groups in the area xx
Hey - ive used this site since 2008 but now feel my depression is coming back and as im using the happy front infront of everyone else (my OH doesnt understand my depression/self harm) then i thought Id come back to the site. Then found this thread. Mind if i listen in/post?
My son is 4 weeks old, he was born 2 weeks late at 11lbs3... midwife left me to do it myself and didnt give me pain relief.. forceps delivery at the end and im still recovering :( wasnt numbed properly and dr was determined for me to do it myself...! I feel like i havent bonded with my son yet? How long did it take for you all to bond?
x
Tom my amazing partner and our 4 week old son Jack :) <3
gosh you're very brave! congrats :)
i may not be the best person to answer as my baby's only 6 weeks and i'm new to this! but i wouldn't worry about how long it's taking you to bond it will come naturally- i imagine it's been hard for you to start enjoying your newborn as you're still recovering.
in a way i'm in a similar position- as my partner is amazing but doesn't fully understand SH & depression and i do worry if things get too on top of me i could slip back which i don't want at all as i've got my baby to look after.
make sure you're open & honest with your care provider about how you're feeling because there is so much help available for new mums facing post natal depression
apple doll... I am 21 (22 in August) and I am a mother to 2 beautiful little girls. I got pregnant with my oldest, who is 3, when I was 17 and I became pregnant with my youngest right before my 21st birthday and she is 2 months. I have been and am at this moment right where you are. It hurts to see the people that you were close with and even some that you grew up with living their lives while your seems to be hanging in the balance so to speak. I didn't get to, as they say, live it up when I became 18 because I was pregnant and had bigger responsibilites and I also wasn't able to enjoy my 21st because once again... I was pregnant. But when I am sitting at home with my daughters, I realize that I have it better then all of them and I wouldn't trade them for the world. They help mold me into the positive person that I am trying to be today. I get "me" time once in a blue moon, which I believe that every mother, no matter how old or young they might be, deserve that and need that. I admire you for still living your life and having the drive to still get an education to better your life and your childs. I am in the process of doing the same. As you get old, it will get better. Enjoy the time that you have with your child, because it will be gone with a blink of an eye. Good luck.
thankyou very much for that :)
it's good to know i'm not the only one.. and it's encouraging to know things get better.. i do love her so much & know i'm very lucky!
it's just difficult to be in such a different place to everyone else..
good luck with your education too! xx
