OMG my mum winds me up so much... It just makes me want to do the opposite of what she wants. I've been offered the swine flu jab because I'm pregnant, and my mum sends me an email full of links, saying:
'I know you don't want to read this, but how would I feel if I didn't at least try to save my grandchild from harm'
Also... there's a small chance I might not be able to breastfeed this baby because of the meds I am taking (olanzapine and fluoxetine). I haven't even dared to tell her... she's so against medication and she's so pro-breastfeeding it's ridiculous. She's going to think (and tell me) that I'm the worst mother EVER if I don't breastfeed this baby. I will not get a moments peace from her nagging at me.
So, that email makes me really want to have the swine flu jab just to spite her.
Also, my sister has started self harming (she's 12, nearly 13) so that makes all three of us... common link? MUM!
OMG my mum winds me up so much... It just makes me want to do the opposite of what she wants. I've been offered the swine flu jab because I'm pregnant, and my mum sends me an email full of links, saying:
'I know you don't want to read this, but how would I feel if I didn't at least try to save my grandchild from harm'
Also... there's a small chance I might not be able to breastfeed this baby because of the meds I am taking (olanzapine and fluoxetine). I haven't even dared to tell her... she's so against medication and she's so pro-breastfeeding it's ridiculous. She's going to think (and tell me) that I'm the worst mother EVER if I don't breastfeed this baby. I will not get a moments peace from her nagging at me.
So, that email makes me really want to have the swine flu jab just to spite her.
Also, my sister has started self harming (she's 12, nearly 13) so that makes all three of us... common link? MUM!
*cuddles* it sounds like you are having a hard time with your mum, im sure she is just concerned and its hard to get the balance of family life right.
as for the swine flu jag, i had mine last tuesday, im a nurse and we regularly have patients with both query and confirmed swine flu on our ward so i felt like i had to get the jag, if you read the NHS info, http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Pandemi...nantwomen.aspx it is the most reliable there is alot of scaremongering out there about the safety of the vaccination, but the facts are if you are pregnant and catch swine flu it is likely you will be extremely ill
as for breast feeding, i was told the same, and to be honest i would rather be mentally well and bottle feed my baby, than fall back in to my depression and self harm where i would be unable to care for my baby. they say breast is best and it is but bottle fed babies thrive just as well too
and im really sorry to hear about your sister *big hugs*
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I've got my first midwife appointment on Friday.
Its taken long enough for it to bloody well come round!
how far on are you now nic? ... let us know how you get on
yey i have my first midwife appointment on the 4th december.
i had scare and went to hopspital, baby only measured 5 weeks last thursday and the sac doesn't contain anything yet, but that can be normal at this stage. my hcg levels were fine, so i'm just keeping fingers crossed that baby keeps growing : )
Helena, i'm sorry you're having a bit of a hard time at the moment, don't listen to your mum. You've just got to do what you thinks best for both you and the baby. I hope the pregnancy is going along okay? How's Maddie doing?
I hope everyone else is all okay and the little ones too! =]
It's so easy to get lost in constantly having to present
whatever face you believe a person wants to see rather than your own
I had a scan yesterday (28 weeks) and my baby is growing just fine! Hurray! Maddie's alright, she's getting bigger every day and I can't believe she's now nearer 3 than 2! Her talking has suddenly got a lot better in the last month or so and she's stringing lots of words together now.
My mum just pisses me off and makes me want to do the opposite of what she says.
D-licious thanks for the advice I think I'm going to get the jab... I wasn't sure, and I'm still only half sure it's the right thing to do, but my mum being so against it has swayed my decision.
As for breastfeeding... I breastfed Madeleine for 21 months and I really want to do the same again this time round. But then again, if I stop taking the Olanzapine then I might go into psychosis again and that's no good for anyone, especially the baby. So I guess I'll have to just do what I'm told regarding meds. They did say that I wouldn't have to be on it for very long, so hopefully that means I can come off it safely before the baby arrives.
hey, chloe's had a temp of over 39 for a few days and is on calpol, nurofen and tamiflu just in case. poor baby. saying that she nearly bit one of ella's toes off today! ella is 7 weeks and we're trying stage 2 milk to see if it settles her stomach as it worked wonders for chloe. right now she's screaming in my arms coz of colic. it goes on til 2 or 3am then typically chloe wakes up. we get about 3 hrs sleep between the pair of them. we're moving out at the weekend and last night matt and i nearly split up. i had a bust up with my mum then he started vhis 'you're not always right' thing against everything i tried to say. he dismisses everything i suggest with 'you're not always right'. he threatened to take the girls to essex and i very nearly packed a bag for him. i even suggested he mopve out with the girls and i'd find somewhere else to go.
i feel like i don't love matt or the girls. or that if i do love them it's not enough. i'm scared by how i feel. i'm stressed and we are not coping so how will it be when its just the 2 of us? my mum seems to constantly be looking after one of both babies. i'm aware we're really tired and stressed and chloe's ill etc and all that can change, but i just feel empty and blank. i don't feel down or sad or like i want to harm or die - so to me i don't feel depressed. maybe my experience of depression was fairly severe where i leapt headfirst into harming and suicidal thoughts? i've never had just this emptiness before.
help.
mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
*HUGS* to Mand...two babies is tough..so sorry you're feeling empty...If you can manage to get more that 3 hrs sleep it might make the world of difference..not sleeping is the thing that'll make you feel the most rubbish, an it might not help me saying it but just to reasure you its really really common for mums to feel empty, bloody exhausted and worried. Sending huage hugs and hope you get some sleep! xx
I've not been on the forums for ages, but back now, saw this thread which I think is ace! I'm hoping and hoping and hoping to have a wee bump soon ..and I hope its ok to say i'm a midwife too....
*hugs mand* I didn't read the whole of what you wrote (my concentration for reading anything is totally gone) but I get the gist that you're not happy, so hugs to you.
Just to let you know Mand has now moved into her new place but wont have any internet connection until christmas eve. If anyone wants to get intouch with her please pm me and I will give you her mobile number (she has asked me to do this). Much love to all xx
hey thanks for posting rowie, am at mum and dad's for a few mins so hopping on quickly.
we're all getting over gastroenteritis and now chloe has a viral cough that the dr said was 'kamf cough' but hubby went and not me so that could be wrong! only treatment is antibiotics ( a no-no coz of recent gastro) or steroids so the dr wantws to hold off treating unless she gets worse. ella only taken 140mls of milk so far today, but she has been taking 1oz at a time yesterday coz hard to keep down otherwise, so maybe she had too much yesterday?
pm rowie for my number if you want me. mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
I'm sooo sick of being pregnant. I'm just too big and uncomfortable. Roll on February... or if I'm very lucky, late January.
I've suddenly got a lot bigger this week and people are starting to ask when I'm due... followed by 'are you sure it's not twins' when I tell them I've still got over 2 months left.
hey i had the same thing said to me(looking like i was having twins!) i embraced that fact that i was so big i loved it!My little 1 is now 7months it seems such a long time ago i was pregnant i miss it!!!!!!
those last to months will fly bye i did for me!
hope u feel better soon take care of yourself!xx
I think I'm going to get the jab... I wasn't sure, and I'm still only half sure it's the right thing to do, but my mum being so against it has swayed my decision. 
