I mean they were pushing and pushing me to 'say something personal' and 'describe how i am feeling' more than just 'talk about facts'. And then they were just like 'yeah we can offer you a place' and then I just left. It wasn't very nice of them to do that I thought. Also they said there are some risks involved with joining the service, namely that 'you may get close to people here and you may feel rejected when you are asked to leave after 3 months'.
It's 10 - 3 mon - fri for 3 months and there are groups and individual sessions and it's supposed to help.
and yeah DBT can be helpful. I didn't really find it that helpful but I know it works for some people - I think it depends on the individual.
Magpie maybe they just wanted you to open up a bit. I have been to a day hospital before It can be difficult when you have to leave. Thats why they have cut down the length of time you can stay at mine now to 7-14 days. I guess its less time to get attached to people and the service. Try to make the most of the groups and individual sessions your really fortunate to have a place for three months.
I am okay. Just feeling lonely Iv tried meeting up with friends and family but their all too busy. I think I may go for a walk later just to get outa the flat.
and wow fuzzy that doesn't seem like a very long time at all - I guess I should feel more lucky that I have a place for so long. I am kind of looking forward to starting, but I'm worried about the whole opening up thing; I don't think I'm going to be able to do it. Especially if someone is the slightest tiniest bit negative towards me it's like action stations in my head and I completely shut down to them. Also I'm worried about meeting the other people I'm not sure if I'll fit in... :(
its frustrating when you try and do something positive and something thwarts your plan! I think a walk sounded like it was a good idea - did you do it? I love walking when I'm in the right mood.
Hope you are having a good time at your friends Doikers!
I'm withdrawing off my anti anxiety med at the moment (which is what the crisis team psych told me to do) but today I had a horrendous walk home from youth group, was shaking so much and so anxious and paranoid, was glad when I got home safely.
its nearly 4am here and i'm wide awake, wish I could sleep.
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Magpie yeah i went for a walk and the fresh air seemed to do me good. I went to morrisons on the way back home and got some stuff to bake mince pies. they were lush. I used to do a lot of baking with the occupational therapist at the day hospital, it takes my mind off stuff and the smell of pies baking is really comforting. Seen as your there for three months I wouldn't worry about telling your life story straight away. Once you get to know and trust the staff it will come naturally. Just remember they are there to help you and they wont know your struggling unless you tell them, thats what I learnt the hard way. I'm sure the other service users will be friendly, everyone will be in the same boat. If all else fails take in a pack of biscuits on your first day and you'll be popular lol.
Oliver you did well to get home safely, that sounds dead scary. Are you okay now?
Tommrow i have to go see a consalnt inthe hospital but i dont what i should be asking him cos at the moment im so angery and the way the hole mental health system as treated me i tired of having no support at all i just wanna scream at that any ide what i should ask
I'm alright thanks Kat - had a v stressful day today but just glad to be back home now.
and hmm i don't know fuzzy, I've been in mental health services for 10 years now and I have never found anyone I have felt comfortable 'opening up' to about how I really feel - not just facts. Even people I have been seeing for a long time. I just don't see the point either. It's not even like I want to but can't (although I do think that is part of the problem - I actually don't know how to describe how I'm feeling because I don't actually know what I am feeling, I just know its really big and really bad). I think I'm a very difficult customer haha but I don't mean to be. I guess we'll see what happens... and thanks that actually sounds like a really good idea! Apart from the fact I'd be too scared to offer them out haha so would just end up looking like a greedy bitch haha.
Have a fun time last night Doikers? What exactly is a sklorp and a glomp!? They both sound incredibly exciting!! Haha.
Kelly I guess maybe you could ask what support there is available and say what you think might be helpful? They often like it when you say what you think might be helpful, because then they don't have to think for theirselves! Haha. Good luck :)
Barbie I hope your evening is better..
and french, I'm glad you managed to get out of bed. Why have they told you you need to come off your anxiety meds if you're really anxious?? Sounds a bit silly to me..
how many times have you been called manipulative when you genuinely haven't been being manipulative at all.
E.g. My psychiatrist wanted to talk to my mum on her own without me after the weekend to help him decide whether I should be discharged from hospital or not. This completely freaked me out because I was extremely concerned that my mum would lie (which she has done plenty in the past) or exaggerate things (which she has done for attention - oh poor you you have an 'ill' daughter, how awful for you). I told my psychiatrist I didn't want this to happen and he told me I was being 'manipulative and obstructive' - when i was just genuinely concerned!! I felt this to be totally unfair, and even more so because I couldn't get angry because that would just be me having 'uncontrollable anger' in his eyes not being angry for a reasonable reason!!! It still makes me feel extremely angry now when I think of it because I felt he only thought this because of this damn diagnosis (BPD).
I later found out someone made an allegation about him and he left... good riddance!!!
So.. how often do you get accused of being manipulative when you are genuinely feeling a certain way about something
(i.e. I had genuine concerns about my mum talking to him, but my concerns were completely disregarded because he considered me to be trying to control the situation for no reason other than I could, and he was trying to 'prove' that I couldn't manipulate him)
I've found that the psychs are generally more willing to listen to your parents than you (which I suppose makes sense given their cumulative pool of patients)...I've been fortunate enough to have my mom on my side, but I also saw how it could've gone if I hadn't. For example, when I was sectioned, they were constantly trying to make me sign in as voluntary. I was calm and (from my perspective) very reasonable..."I just turned 18, I really don't think that I am comfortable making that sort of commitment without thinking it over and/or discussing it with my family" "There are still 2 days on the involuntary, I'm optimistic that you won't need any more time than that" "If, after the remaining 2 days on section, you still think I need to stay, I will sign" etc...this got me labelled as 'uncooperative and obstructive', of course. They also essentially threatened me with court orders and "if you don't sign, we'll keep you longer".
I talked to my mom, who thought that I should absolutely not sign...somehow saying "I won't sign because my mom told me not to" was considered more mature and less problematic than "I won't sign without thinking it over first".
*shrug*
I'm sorry your psych is refusing to listen. I hope you find someone who actually listens; I never did (at least professionally), but I know many people who have.
