we'd been giving chloe tastes so cows milk during weaning, on her weetbix, made food using it like cheese sauce for her veggies and pasta etc, so it wasn't completley unfamiliar when we switched. I've found she either likes it really hot... or really ice cold. i'm the same, i like milk really really cold, or hot enough to not have that claggy sort of taste.
do any of your kids have bad breath? if chloe wakes up at night i struggle with her coz her breath makes my stomach turn. we're brushing her teeth with aquafresh or colgate depending on what is on offer, i brush all of her gums as well as her teeth and her tongue gets a brush as much as i can, and the roof of her mouth even. it's getting to the point of where she'll be just about to sleep, will yawn into my face and i have to thrust her at matt and dash for the loo... i'm sure its the pregnancy making me more sensitive... but she shouldn't smell that bad, surely?
mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
i give freyja cows milk on her cereal and in her food etc but id prefer to keep her on formula for a while longer so i have decided to use the 1+ and just offer cows milk as a drink.
i havent noticed bad breath in freyja...but maybe chloe just sleeps with her mouth open.
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
I'm not really sure how far I am.. I only tested because I was over a week late. I'm going to ring the doctors today. I've not been with my partner long {just over 2 months} & he doesn't feel like he's ready, and wouldn't like me to keep it, but even though I don't feel I'm ready, I want to keep it, I think.
I'm not really sure how far I am.. I only tested because I was over a week late. I'm going to ring the doctors today. I've not been with my partner long {just over 2 months} & he doesn't feel like he's ready, and wouldn't like me to keep it, but even though I don't feel I'm ready, I want to keep it, I think.
laughingdoll - I think the only advice I can offer is to do what you think is right for you. Do you have any close friends other than your partner that you can talk to?
What time does everyone put their little ones in bed? I normally give adela a bath at 8 and then milk, so bed at about 9. I'm starting to think that I could move that forward a bit.
Between 7.30pm and 8.30pm, usually. Every baby's different though, do what you think is best for you all, Anna; for us, having Fin up that wee bit later is ok, it works for us, i've got friends who have their little ones in bed well before 7.
Speaking of bed and bath, i better get the bath running!
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Esmé is in bed by 7 and has been since she was about 6months, unless we're out, or if she's really tired she'll go to bed a bit earlier. but like Shona said, do what works for you =]
It's so easy to get lost in constantly having to present
whatever face you believe a person wants to see rather than your own
Lucas goes to bed between half 7 and 8. We give him a bath at 7, then feed him and usually feed him just before we go to bed too.
We've only been doing this for a few weeks. We used to do it all an hour later as well, so would give him a bath at 8 and he'd be in bed by 9. But we started getting annoyed at how little time we got together in the evenings and the fact that I always had to wake him on my workdays so we brought it forward.
Loads of peopleI know have their kids in bed by like 6! I don't know how they do it! When do they give them dinner? I think whatever works best for you. When Lucas was really little we'd have him up til we went to bed and I know people who still do that too. I say whatever works!
We eat dinner at around 6.30 then he has a bath and is asleep between 7.30 and 8. I prefer having it a bit later so he sleeps for longer in the morning - I'm not good at early rising! Until he was about 7 months old he went to bed when we did though. He had bad colic when he was young, from 10-1.30am so we would all go to sleep at 1.30, then it gradually started moving back.
it's interesting to hear how everyone does bedtime, I wasnt really asking because I thought what we do is wrong or anything, just lots of people have been telling me that 9 is really late for a little one, but they're the same people that tell me she should be up and playing by 7am! I think i will start bath time at 7.30 because I'm on my own at night and need some time to clean up.
chloe recently had her first shower - she loved it! so now i bring my shower time forward from like 10-11pm (whenever i can get her to bed) to when she has her shower. I use baby products on me as well as her so if anything drips into her eyes it's all baby-friendly. I put her in get her hair wet and shampoo her, wash her, tickle her with the strong jets on her hands, then she sits down and plays with toys or stands and bangs the glass (usually daddy is sat on the otherside pulling faces) whilst i get showered. i wrap up in a towelling robe and put a turban on my head, by the time she is dry and in a nappy, has had her oil massaged in, and ready for bed, i'm dry and just change into my nightclothes.
then a bottle then bed... mummy can then sit down and watch her soaps uninterrupedted! Chloe usually goes to bed by 10, sometimes later. We let her dictate bedtime still because no matter how hard we try to get her in a routine, she still gets colic and with teething it's all messed up anyway.
Sometimes she sleeps twice in a day, sometimes you can't get her to sit still all day, so that affects how tired she is too.
By the way, she has her 5th tooth just broken through! we were up 4 times with her last night, now i know why! Shoes tomorrow! mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
the way i do it is i give freyja her dinner at 4.30/5pm then when shes finished i let her play for a while and if she needs a bath i will put her in one any time before 6.30, depending on how long she took to eat her dinner cos she needs to settle her food.
once she has had her bath she will get dried and into her jammies and if she has time i will let her play some more. i will give her a bottle around 6.50/7pm and after she gets her teeth brushed and off to bed.
mand freyja is terrified of the shower i have no idea why. she screams the place down if she is put in it. i took her in with me a couple of times to try to break the fear as i was in there with her but it didnt work.
anna is adela crawling? - i always wait until after freyja is in bed to clean up because i have to keep an eye on freyja now shes crawling/walking and getting into everything.
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
i love reading this thread. i love seeing how the babies are developing.
I'm disappointed i'm not pregnant but not gutted because it definitely wouldnt be an ideal time. Give it a couple of months and we'll be ready!
Can i ask a couple more questions?
How do you fall pregnant if you're periods are irregular? Like i know day 14 is the ideal day but thats on a 28 day cycle, is it still day 14 if you have a 40 day cycle or does it then work out about day 20? I dont want to get one of those ovulation kit things as i want this to be a natural thing and testing for it makes it a bit clinical! I have been off the pill around 8 months though and still nothing (although we dont really do things often enough to make it count as though we are trying properly).
Also in real terms how much are babies costing week by week? like if i had to put aside a certain amount for food/formula/nappies etc what would it be? i know there is no maximum.
i know what you mean, i have had a couple of pregnancy 'scares' and i have always felt really disappointed when i find out im not....even though i know now is the worst time for another baby! i would be mad to plan one lol so im sticking to my little freyja for the next year or two.
im not much help in terms of trying to work out ovulation days on irregular periods...but my advice is to have sex and lots of it! when i was trying for freyja i had a lot of sex and i used to also lie in bed for a while after with a pillow under my bum to help them in the right direction pmsl! i know it sounds daft but i came off the pill in july, had a period and i found out i was pregnant in august. so maybe it did help after all!!! id also just go with the flow, have fun and dont go manic over it. we were relaxed about it because we didnt actually think it was gonna happen. i almost went down the ovulation dates route - i remember calling jamie and saying listen these are my fertile days! and he said what are you doing? lets just have fun trying. and i believe it was the best way.
babies week by week....well thats a tough one. if you have all of your base stuff down like cot, pram, etc then i guess you would need to take into consideration the age of the baby. a newborn i think costs less in food (though i breastfed so im not sure what a newborns formula needs would be) but more in nappies. just looking at the boots website, the newborn pampers (the brand i use) costs £6.98 for 54 nappies. when freyja was newborn she went through as many as 12 nappies a day. so that packed will only last about 4 days.
now though, she only goes through about 6 which i suppose is helped by the fact she sleeps through the night. but in turn i now have to buy her solid food, i use formula milk which i pay around £7.98 for and that tub will last me a week.
clothes is something you will go through a lot of. they grow like nothing else!
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
Honestly, babies are as expensive as you want them to be! You can breastfeed, use reusable nappies, get a sling for the fraction of the cost of a pram and buy clothes and equipment you might need on ebay, freecycle or charity shops. They'll be just as happy to play with an empty bottle filled with rice as an expensive rattle. On the other hand, you can buy all the best stuff and as you said there is no maximum, or you can be anywhere inbetween on that scale.
Now that Oliver is eating food he is a bit more expensive, but if you're feeding them bits of what you eat it isn't too bad. I find the biggest expense to be travel actually, we go out a lot and I don't drive so we get the bus a lot which adds up, plus I spend on playgroup/soft play/swimming etc. If you have places near you you can walk then you'll save too, and obviously there are lots of free activities you can do too.
So basically, the cost is whatever you make it :) plus you will get child benefit and tax credits if you or you partner are working, which will help.
^agreed. there is a lot of crap that you buy for babies that is totally unnecessary! i find the netmums nearly new page is a good place if you are looking for things a little cheaper and its all posted by mums in your area so that makes it a little easier too. its also good to put your old stuff up on the page as people will often come to your door to collect the stuff. i sold freyjas crib on netmums, which was brand new at £70, for about £30. i also sold her swing, i think for £40 to a lady who also bought her playmat off me. so i find that is really helpful.
i have also been fortunate that my friend has a little girl who is 10 months older than freyja so i have been getting a lot of clothes for free and i just hand them back to her when freyja grows out of them! so if you have any friends with babies that could be a cost cutter.
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
Cost of a baby differs, as has been said, on lifestyle as much as anything. Though, once baby is born, it's worth remembering that you'll get Child Benefit (whatever your income) and that helps. We did mixed everything and it does cost but doesn't have to be terrible; one of the best ways to save money - in the long run - is reusable nappies, then depending on how you feed, you might save money but formula isb't horrendously expensive. Also, you can get a lot second hand and slings are a great too, but it's also worth baring in mind that no matter how you think parenting will go, you'll be surprised: i intended to breastfeed fully, but i can't so mixed feeding; love slings, but can't get away from the buggy; coslept for ages but still needed a cot etc.
All that aside... babies are priceless ;)
Well we had a fun day, went to see my parents which was lovely. Fin had a great time feeding the ducks before deciding it would be fun to jump in the burn and then, once back at their house, it was evidently best to do gardening whilst already covered in muck...
And i've finally settled on having a wee garden party at my parent's house next week, for our birthdays. Here's hoping we have good weather!!
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If you took your child to a pub/restaurant and they started screaming would you take them home or just let whole pub be deafened
today we were in a pub wanting a quiet drink and we get a about a 1 year old screaming its head off for an hour and the parents think aww just ignore iot no take the baby home or in the garden!!!!
Also what about parents that let there kids just run wild all over pubs/bars/restaurants. We got told don't shut up and behave no dinner and home you go. Never did us any harm.
banging knives and forks on table urghhh
and parents encouraging it!
If they're family pubs, i don't see the issue. If parents went straight home every time their child cried, they would never go out. Not all screaming is a sign of distress either. Not every family are going to parent the way your parents did and i don't see why they should either. If you like adult only pubs, then fair enough, but if they're not exlcusively adult pubs, then i don't see the issue.
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