I really can't add anything else to what people, especially Mari have said. I am really glad that it has been brought up though and totally agree about the excess woeing and then either ignoring advice or the support being just one sided. Everyone has extra bad days and I don't think anybody would have a problem with people talking about it. I think it is the context in which it I spoken about that is the problem. And again, most people are guilty of that at times not only in this thread, but the whole of Ryl and in real life. Sometimes hugs are all people can offer now and again and they are a form of support but occasionally trying to write a little more may not only be helpful to the individual you are addressing the prospective hugs to but also to the one offering that support. It can make you feel better when you take the time to reply to individual queries here and there.
I think the other thing people need to try and be mindful of is that probably the majority of te people who post in this thread are ill themselves. It is entirely possible that when people post about an issue or having a crappy day then they will not be the only one experiencing those emotions or issues. Just because someone does not post in here About it does not mean it is not happening (one of the reasons I stalk some rant threads ). Also when we feel really shitty then it is easy to believe that people don't understand etc when in reality I would say most do. BPD is basically a combination of up tolist of nine symptoms which is why anyone who feels they have something to contribute or wants specific advice on an issue is always welcome to post regardless of the stability of their diagnosis.
I would be interested to hear some of the newer thread members stance on some of the things said today. Everyone matters and so all opinions would be helpful, especially regarding what might help newer members in the future and what they (and the members with a few more thread posts under their belts who have not posted) think or can suggest about ways to improve the thread.
I'm on my phone so I am not sure how much of this will make sense- delete is problematic so apologies for the typos and disjointedness!
I have read over most of the posts people have made (Sorry, not all because my concentration is all over the place, but I'll get back to it) But I get the general idea of what everyone is on about.
And, I don't mean this to sound bitchy or horrible cause that's not how I mean this. I am sorry if I have been one of the people you've been talking about. I try terribly hard not to be, and try my best to give support as well as receive it. I'm not good at giving support but I have been trying. I am very new to this thread, and if people think I am being too.. depressing, please just tell me. I won't take it personal I swear. Many people have told me I need to be more positive and the odd reminder or two won't go a miss, it's what I need most of the time.
Anyways, I hope everyones doing well, I've had a very good day and I hope to spread my good feelings to everyone *Throws happiness around*
Just FYI ,I'm not articulate so hugs are sometimes all I have , will try to do better
thats fine Mark, and yes i am replying be cause i am the one who said it, but sometimes is fine, just not as a reply at all times, sometimes its nice to have a proper reply to a post some actual advice or understanding.
We all turn to hugs sometimes for example if you only ever received replies that said *hug* then you would soon wonder what was going on, don't you think?
anyhoo i don't want to dwell on one person, its not fair on you
I just wanted to say, and I hope it doesn't come across as patronising, that I'm really glad this discussion has been able to take place and in a really productive manner. Nobody appears to have taken anything personally and it seems like everybody has worked together to try and work out through difficulties. I hope this will help to get the thread back on track, and just yes, I just think it's important to recognise how well it's been handled by all :)
I agree, Lottie, I'm really glad everyone's been able to take each other's opinions on board and that people have been able to voice their own feelings about how the thread's been :)
I just wanted to apologize...I've only posted twice in this thread and twice it's been more of a rant. I'll make sure to keep that stuff in a rant folder. If you see me being too negative please let me know, I won't get offended. :) I have a hard time being positive.
Thank you <3
It's me, and I can't get myself to go away
Oh God I shouldn't feel this way
Reach down your hand in your pocket
Pull out some hope for me
It's been a long day, always ain't that right
And no Lord your hand won't stop it
Just keep you trembling
It's been a long day, always ain't that right
i have either become an old man or an emo, yesterday i bought some braces because im fed up of loosing my trews, they are skull ones thought but sniff* they didn't come today lol
on the even bestester news the website i bought it from has reward points and i saved a tenner using them :D
). Also when we feel really shitty then it is easy to believe that people don't understand etc when in reality I would say most do. BPD is basically a combination of up tolist of nine symptoms which is why anyone who feels they have something to contribute or wants specific advice on an issue is always welcome to post regardless of the stability of their diagnosis. 
