Contains abuse - Survivors of Female Abusers Support Thread

[foxfly]

I think I know what you mean, Wannabfree, I just have no idea how to deal with what's happened or how to deal with myself. It's horrible. I just don't know what to do with myself or where to go from here.

[Kitkat :)]

I know what you mean.
I've told my psych, and I've told a couple of close friends... But now what am I supposed to do?
I hold a huge vendetta against my cousin.
She cut my hair a few weeks ago, she cut it shorter than I asked and now I'm convinced she's trying to ruin me again because I didn't want it short, it was nice long and now its short ):

[troubleshooter]

Kathryn baby shouldn't let her do things like that. Even if she cut your hair the way you liked it's not safe to give her power over you with something like that okay? Next time you see her just try to stay away, and don't let her put her hands on you, even in a "nice" way. *hugs* We don't want her to hurt you anymore love. And your hair will grow back sweetheart, maybe you can go to a hairdresser and have it fixed in a way you like better.

[Kitkat :)]

Okay ): I asked her to trim it...
This is why no one goes near my hair except me.
NO ONE.
I know it will, its just long platinum hair was my signature, everyone knew me for hair that looked like extensions but it was real.
Now its not there...
I feel like I'm not here anymore.

[foxfly]

I'm so tired. I feel so tired all the time, and hungry, even though I'm eating. I don't know what to do with myself. I'm just so drained with this all.

[Wannabfree]

Im confused...i was sure females wouldnt hurt me and then she did...why did she pick me..do i have a sign that says ''abuse me''

[Kitkat :)]

*hugs*
totally understand what you're saying and feeling

[troubleshooter]

People are people honey. There's good and bad in every gender, race, sexuality and more. *hugs*

[xxjuliexx]

um i dunno if i'm allowed in this thread coz it probably doesnt count but my mummy used to hit me and pull my hair wen i was younger
probably doesnt count coz it's disapilne

edit: *wonders if should delete post even tho it only been like 2 minutes*

[troubleshooter]

Pulling hair isn't appropriate discipline for a child. And in most places only light smacks that don't leave bruises are allowed, and not constant either

[xxjuliexx]

i dont bruise that much no matter what so i dont think she every bruised me my mummy loves me but sometimes i piss her off
i'm trying hard not to

[troubleshooter]

Even if you don't bruise or you're hit with something that doesn't bruise, if it's constant and/or really painful then it's not ok. Just because your mom loves you doesn't make it ok. She may love you but be wrong hurting you too. You're not bad.

[xxjuliexx]

The following content has been hidden - Reason : coz

feel like i've invaded ur thread

[troubleshooter]

Julie you did nothing wrong. You're allowed to post here if you've been hurt by a woman, and your mom has hit you a lot and pulled your hair like you said. It's ok. *hugs*

[bleedingdragon]

Hey there,
I just spotted this thread and didnt realise there was one for survivors of female abusers. I kind of have been avoid a certain amount of forums and threads here mainly because ive had so much sh*t happen to me i have to be carefull i dont get triggered i try to support as many people as i can.

Ive posted a few times tonight and i cant post any more especially here just now, i nead a break.
i will come back to this thread and try and post about my story i was in a 10 year relationship married for 5 years where my now ex wife abused me emotionally, mentally and physically arghhhhh.

[xxjuliexx]

*drags in comfy chairs and bean bags and a table with lotsa types of cookies and food and drinks hot or cold*

[xxjuliexx]

Quote:

Originally Posted by troubleshooter

Julie you did nothing wrong. You're allowed to post here if you've been hurt by a woman, and your mom has hit you a lot and pulled your hair like you said. It's ok. *hugs*

thank u for letting me use ur thread

[Sarah]

hi julie :)
sarah hasnt beed hurted and she comes in here..
is sorry for what happened *offers blankie* maybe you should try talks a friend if you hasnt already.. tells they how you feels, or tells here if wants to

[troubleshooter]

Yes Sarah you have been hurt, you just don't understand it all yet baby. *hugs lots*

[xxjuliexx]

*accepts blankie* thanks sarah and btw i like sesame street there cool my favourite is count he's cool *snuggles into the blankie and yawns*