telling your parents? *possible trigger*

[CrazyChaoticMess]

I went to my school consellor, school phoned home and said they were concerned, when i got home my mom asked what was going on, i explained that i'd been cutting myself as a means of coping, she cried, but was supporting, best thing is to find something your comfortable with hun *hugs*
good luck x

[Porcelain Child]

Chloe if you find talking hard... perhaps writing it in a letter would be easier...

If not then perhaps using sensitve words and staying calm...

Claire...

[snazzy]

I've never spoken to my parents about it, or indicated that i self harm, but i have a feeling they know. I mean they're not stupid, and im really not very sly, i'd forget to hide tools and come home from school with them still sitting out, and my mum had been in with washing. Or my mum would make a coment about me wearing shorts in the pool on holiday. Just little things, but to me it seems obvious. OK im rambling.
When you tell them, theres always a chance they already know but were waiting for you to bring it up? Tht would make it much easier i think, because they'd have come to terms with it.

[alienshe_cheesycake]

My mums dead, I would have hated for her to find out about my cutting but she died before it got too serious to hide, I think if she had of found out she would have flipped on me and been really upset

My dad, I told him after an argument with my step-mum, I just told him that I'd been really depressed lately and that I'd been to the doctors and given anti-depressants and after he was cool about that I sort of mumbled that I cut myself sometimes when things get too much
He was just really shocked but he was supportive of me
He doesn't like talking about my SI with me because I know he gets nervous because he doesn't know what to say to me, but on the whole he is very supportive, but I still find talking to him about my SI too awkward
He saw my scars and cuts when I got admitted into a pych ward and he seemed a little bit shocked and upset then though

My sister is the other family memember who knows but she found out by accident when I cut in a rather visable place one day
She just asked me outright if I'd been cutting myself and I had to come clean, she was pretty calm and cool about it, even though I think she thinks I'm stupid for doing it

I'm rambling now On the whole I think telling your parents is a good idea if you know how they usually react to stuff like this, I know my dad is usually cool as a cumcumber so I didn't mind telling him too much

[Teddy.Lupin]

I never told my parents. They find out, get angry, scream at me until I promise to stop, then I get better at hiding it, they get cleverer, find out, scream etc. So my parents have to find out repeatedly.

[xbeckyx]

My dad first found out by accident and reacted badly then forgot about it.
The next time he found out after I got diagnosed with depression and made me show him my arms to see if I was doing it again. He was a bit better about it this time.

A good way to tell them would be to write a letter explaining how it helps you/why you do it. I did that to my dad so he could understand better.
x

[BunnythesAINT]

Well....she found out because of my 'friend'. My friend was told by another person so my friend told the teacher who told the school officer person who told the guidance person who told my mom. I wasn't too happy...

But I wrote her a letter when I did it again and that went over okay....