My mum know's about my SH, well kind of... she thinks I've stopped but still this is still relavent.
I've heard many of you say that your parents support and help you. Well I have a different story.
My mother found out about my SH by reading my diary. I know she read it but she still won't admit it. Anyway back to the point, me and my mum are close, that's probaly due to the fact that my dad doesn't really play and active role in my life as a parent. But my mother is argumentative and to be honest quite cruel. I know it sounds harsh but its true.
I've never told anyone this before, but she can turn violent sometimes and has hit me on various occations. But she constentley is messing with my head. Giving snide remarks such as 'what are you gonna do, cut yourself?' and then walking off. I don't know exactley what to call it, but it makes me fell insignificant and depressed.
I'm sure this sin't a regular occurance. Are you parents supportive? Let me know. Helen.
Originally my parents found out from my dance teacher, and by then going through my bedroom countless times they've read through all my poetry and diary entries.
They don't mention my self harming at all now, unless we're having an argument in which my mum will shout at me "what you gonna do now? go cut yourself?!" if I try to walk away from it.
If they suspect I've been SHing (and usually they're wrong) then I get the lecture about there's other people who are worse off than me and I should just stop doing "that unacceptable behaviour".
*shrugs* I'm used to it now.
For those doubts that swirl all around us
For those lives that tear at the seams
We know… we’re not what we’ve seen
For this dance we’ll move with each other
There ain’t no other step than one foot
Right in front of the other
my parents are supportive sometimes....but can be harsh at times...they jus want to protect me i guess....
sometimes they shout at me though...probably because they dont understand....
take care
yasmin
xx
Argh! My internet just crashed so i'm having to write this again.
My mother isn't supportive of me one bit, and has often triggered me before. She knows sneers at me everytime i go into the bathroom (apparently I don't go the toilet, get changed, or have a bath anymore, I only go into the bathroom to cut). She looks at me like she's about to kill me sometimes, it's scary...
She has called me a freak or something along those lines and told me I won't ever get a job or even have a proper future becuase of my SI, so your not alone with parents who don't support you, i'm pretty sure there are many others who know how horrible it is to have unsupporive parents *hugs*.
oh and my dad doesn't get angry as such, but he always goes on about it and give me lectures and the 'there are others worse off than you' speech. i'm not sure whether he understand how unhelpful it is or not..
My mom is supportive of me, and tries to understand why I feel I want to harm myself which is hard for her, but she tries to understand, and she's always there for me, she's helped me a lot since I told her about my self harm.
...Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear...
They know. They're far from supportive. If I cut, they act all dissapointed, and come up with "I thoguht you had stopped" This is EVERY time they find out I ahve. And that used to be alot. They never talk about it, sweep it under the carpet and act like it doesn't exist, just like me sometimes. Hell, my dad raided my room and took my blades and stuff away one day, and then my mum didn't understand why I was angry.
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My parents don't know. However, my Dad works in a young offender's institute were SH is rife among the young boys, so he comes home and makes snide comments about harmers and is really horrid, so it doesn't really make me want to say anything...
Hell, my dad raided my room and took my blades and stuff away one day, and then my mum didn't understand why I was angry.
yeah, that's happened a few times with my parents. Then they get angry that I'm angry. Then they get defensive; "We're worried sick that you'll hurt yourself! When do you ever think of us? What will people say if you need treatment? You're going to kill yourself with them!" And then I try to remove myself from the situation and the follow me around yelling even more. So helpful (!).
For those doubts that swirl all around us
For those lives that tear at the seams
We know… we’re not what we’ve seen
For this dance we’ll move with each other
There ain’t no other step than one foot
Right in front of the other
in a word...no.
they freaked whenever i go in the hospital because they are scared who might find out. They even ask me not to tell anyone..cos god forbid the neighbors should find out. Even tho we live 250 miles away now.
Then thru therapy they were always wondering what we talked about..they are scared of what i might tell a psych. If i tell all.
This sums them up...when me and my sister were younger we were all n a camping trip, they didnt make reservations so it was full..we were young, hungry and tired. So my dad pulled over, beat the hell out of both of us and told us to shut up or he'd come back in the camper. they then listened thru the intercom to us crying and thought it was funny. They think this story is hilarious..they tell everyone and osmehow miss the shocked disgusted looks of all who hear it...arent family outings fun?!
They dont want to know but curiousity gets the better sometimes and they have to ask...i tell them nothing. At least i have friends and a wonderful hubby by my side.
my mother just tells to me sort it. trying to care. shes just scared that other peoplr will find out and question her. she screams at me if she sees new cuts, but only when they are obvious. i know she ignors it. she dosent talk to me about it but i don't want to talk to her so its all good.! its well confusing! lol
my 1st oldest sister and my big brother are very supportive but my mum, dad and other 2 sisters arent the best in helping me out with all of my SH problems and ****, and my little sisters who are only 3 ask me how i got the marks i jst tell them that it's a red ball point pen that wont come off and it's stopped them from drawing on themselves tho....well i hate my parents so it's no supprise that their not supportive of me
Princess Suicide
Grrrrrrrrr i hate girls in my class i wish they would all go to hell
My sister is really supportive and so is my mum she doesn't really understand but she tries. As for my step 'dad' since my mum told him he doesn't really talk to me I might get the odd hello but thats it. Then again thats no great loss!
at first my mum hated me because of it butwhen i went in hospital and that she got to understand it. weare very close now and she backs me 100%. my dad does not know and anything which is great!!!
" my precious, precious child, I love you and I would never, never leave you during your times of trials and suffering. When you see only one set of footprints it was then that I carried you" you were carried out of are lifes into the next and when its my time to leave this life I know i will be carried into the next life with you.
I wish i had my world complete again.
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My mam wasnt supportive at all, she took a dirty stress about it and then that was it. End of.
And nothing has been said for 3 years.
I know how down it can get you hun, cos my friends parents acted totally different when they found out about her SI, and i just wanted to be supported myself
take care hun x
my parents know... but they've put it as a 'forbidden' subject and we're not allowed to talk about it in the house
kinda like... they kknow... but are in denial!
xxx
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I tear my heart open just to feel_[</3]
~*~I walked away because you were((hurting))((Killing))me! [[not]] because i'm weak~*~
my parents dismissed it as a "phase" a long time ago. keeping them in the dark now. It's the best solution for everyone.
Showing signs of weakness is unacceptable in this family.
Hmm, my parents don't wish to hear about it. They reacted with total disgust when they found out I was cutting. "I can't even look at you" was one of their remarks. Anyway, they don't ask, and if they do I'll deny (obviously!). They are in denial about my SI and ED, it's kinda sad, but I also kinda like not having to disclose every detail of my life to them.
