Triggering (SI) - Freaking out

[AbandonedPixie]

I emailed one of my teachers with a secret account and I haven't revealed anything about me. Except I'm a pupil [obviously]

But I'm really worried. Because I asked what would she have to do legally if a student told her they self harmed. And I'm worried about the response because if she has to tell my parents then I'm not going to tell her who I am.

Just freaking out majorly about it.

x

[Scarletdreamer]

Why did you ask her if you were afraid of what she'd say? and why did you ask her at all? bc you wanted her support/help?

If that's the case (that you wanted support/help), then well done. Talking to someone about it is hard, especially trying to trust when you don't know if it will work out.

I'm still not quite sure why you are freaking out, though. You didn't reveal anything about yourself, so she can't do anything to "hurt" you in that regard. I get it if it was like an adrenaline rush type thing - thinking about it for awhile and then finally, finally doing it. But I wouldn't worry too much about it. If she says that she has to tell parents, then you don't have to reveal your identity unless you want a third party to tell your parents for you (which is often easier, if scarier). I'm not sure how old you are, I think that matters in some countries as well.

Take care of you. I'm here if you need to talk, PM box is always open. xx

[AbandonedPixie]

I'm 16.

I'm just worried she'll trace me, but I know she can't so I don't know why it is such an issue. It's just the fact she's a teacher and I have pretty much just told her I self harm and I can't back out of it, even though she doesn't know who I am.

I want to be able to stop self injuring but I know I can't do it on my own, I guess I'm half asking for help but I want to find out more about what she'll have to do before I do anything.

[TinkerDebs]

*hugs*

when i was in shool [just tuned 16] i emailed one of my teachrs for a chat - not specifying anything but she knew that i was in a bad place and was getting a bit depressed - she'd seen the sigs - but she agreed

before we like got talking she said told me where she legally stood:
# because i was only 16 - if she felt that i was a risk to myself she would have to tell someone [there wa a special person in school fo that]
# if she felt i could be in danger - she would have to tell
# and if she felt it was needed - she could contact my parents
[bearing in mind she didnt know about my SI] so it could be a it different

also since i been at college i told a teacher about SI - he checked out the legal crap too
# if you say your harming - the teacher can refer you to a councellor/ reccommend you see a councellor/ tell the councellor about you

thats all they can relly do though

[l'il esky]

hey sweetie,

if you need the support then i would tell her...... but (at my school anyway) initially when i was bout 16 i was found out and the teacher said she had to pass it on to someone higher (who knows why) and then they told me they had to tell my parents, then a bit later on i went to another teacher and she never told anyone..... then someone senior found out again that i was sh-ing and again they said cos im a minor they have to tell my parents!!
ok that prob didnt help, kinda depends on the teacher tho as to whether they would tell your parents in my experience....... but dont not seek help because of that! it might turn out to be the best thing you ever do :)

take care chick pea xx

[Netsirkylime]

I fear that I will get found out all the time... a couple kids at school just got in trouble for it because they were talking about it in a note and someone found it in the hallways and turned it into the office... all of their parents got called... but then again my school is dumb... my friend's parents got called because the office found out he was gay (his family didn't know and his dad, had he been the one to answer the phone, would have kicked my friend out of his house...) I think it all depends on the school and such... I hope it all works out... don't be freaked out, hon... it'll be okay

[Gizzy]

If the teacher knew you were self harming, she would be legally obliged to call your parents.

But she cannot track you down from an anonymous email. Don't worry.