Triggering (SI) - How do you know...

[e.taylor]

ok, can anyone give me some words of wisdom.

how do you know when you're ready to stop?
coz a month or so ago, i thought i did, and i asked for help, but then as soon as i got a bit of help (which btw wasnt very helpful) I realised i really wasn't ready to.
I just started thinking "why should I? it helps and i like it."
now i dont know what to say because it's kinda like im throwing it back in peoples faces.....and i dont see how they would understand that i dont wanna give up yet.

how can i explain what i dont understand?


i haven't phrased this very well...i hope you get what i mean.....

[-Shae-Lynn*]

To know if your ready, I think that it has to be something you want. Because in your heart you want more than anything to be better. But just because it's something you want, doens't mean you are necesarilly ready. That's a really hard question to answer. Um.. Maybe, if SIing causes you more pain then it relieves.
To any "normal" person, someone who hasn't been through SIing, what we go is crazy. In a way it is. Causing yourself pain to take away pain. It doesn't make sense. But somewhere along the way, we found out it helps. If someone has never felt it, they can't understand. It's like anything really. If you haven't lived through it, you can't really understand. For now, just tell whom ever it is you are talking about, that you want to stop, but that it is truely an addiction and it's hard. That it isn't going to happen over night. That you are going to mess up, but that it's normal. Well, maybe not say it like that, but along those lines.

You can do anything that you put your mind too. Good luck.
If you ever need to talk, PM me anytime<3

[e.taylor]

that actually helped...thanks.


coz you're right.
i think there is a difference between knowing that you should really give up, and actually being ready to....

hmmmmmm :S

[Tuesday]

sometimes, in order to stop, you have to simply do it, and forget about being ready to or wanting to. i know that sounds kind of weird, but it's not always thoughts/feelings that determine actions...a lot of the time, in order to change the thought/feeling/urge, you have to go through with the action first (stopping) and then after a while, you might feel more ready to stop and more determined - further fueling the desire to stop, so eventually it becomes easier.

this may not work for you, but it has worked for me...so far, anyway. i do think it is true though, that a lot of the time actions actually influnce feelings/thoughts...

hope this helps. :)