Triggering (SI) - i dont know

hayleyd1991 · 21-04-2008, 09:16 AM

wat to do anymore, i keep letting people down and the same is just going to happen again and again.
ive let people down today. i cut i couldn't help it i had to, every1s going to be so annoyed with me.
im sorry think this is kind of a rant. sorry

Cazki · 21-04-2008, 02:47 PM

Hey there *hugs you* Im really sorry that you slipped up. You wont have let anyone down at all. None of us will be angry with you and even if other people are you have to keep in mind that you tried your best and that trying your best is all you can do, you cant do any more than that. If some people are angry with you you need to explain that you did your best. Who is it that you feel you have let down? Im sure if you explain to them they will understand. A good friend is someone who cares and is willing to listen. Do you know what it was that caused you to slip up? Do you feel able to talk to us about what it was that caused you to slip up? Did something trigger you?

Do you have any support at all? Try to keep yourself distracted as much as you can. There are a whole different variety of distractions that you could , such as going for a walk, listening to music, doing jobs to keep yourself busy, watching a movie, or posting on the fun and distractions forum. The other thing that you could try if you feel that it would help you is writing down your thoughts and feelings. This link also has lots of other distractions that you could try http://www.recoveryourlife.com/forum...ead.php?t=1403 I know this is tough for you but you can get through this. Please remember that this isnt something that you will have to go through on your own, because we are all here for you and we promise to do the best we can to support you for as long as you need it. Please look after yourself, its important that you take things in small steps a day at a time. Please keep talking to us.

Take care best wishes Ian xxxxxxxxx

-Shae-Lynn* · 21-04-2008, 02:52 PM

You don't need to be sorry for posting. Never apologize for asking for help. The same as you should never apologize for feelings, because when you do you apologize for the truth.
Are you talking about letting people down by not being able to stop SIing, or in some other way? If it's because of your SI, people aren't going to be annoyed with you! I know how you can think that. I do all the time. I feel like I can't reach out for help because I'll be a bother and that my prob;ems aren't "real". The fact is though, the people who love you, they won't be annoyed at YOU, they will be annoyed at the SITUATION. There is a big difference. I don't think annoyed is the right word, but I guess you can figure out what I mean. Being annoyed at a person, is usually because of something they control, and are able to change, but refuse. Being annoyed at a situation is like when you are on a plane, and you have to stay up for 3 hours extra. You are mad because of whatever is keeping you there, but not at the pilot. It kind of the same here. The people will be upset that you felt you needed to cut, or that you didn't come to them, but they won't be mad at you personally. Don't blame them for their first reactions though.

Can you say why you had to cut? I know it's hard explaining emotions like those, but maybe it can help?

If you ever need to talk, PM me anytime<3

wishing_ on_a_star · 21-04-2008, 03:08 PM

don't apologize, slip ups happen. you haven't let anyone down.
what caused you to do it? you get triggerd?
people arn't going to be annoyed with you, probably worried more than anything.
PM me anytime.
xxxx

hayleyd1991 · 22-04-2008, 12:49 PM

thanks guys. im okay now i talked bout it, kinda helped but kinda didnt aswell .