you are so so brave! well done!
although i'm sorry your friend reacted bad :(
give her time, maybe try and tell her why and stuff?
I'm not sure really!
Well Done though :)
I know I don't know you, but I just wanted to say, I feel so proud of you!
What you did today does take immense courage, and getting that reaction from someone who was a friend, must have really hurt.
I know how hard it can be with friends/former friends, I've just spent a week in Vienna, the girl I was sharing a room and bed with, (the hotel mucked up the 'double' rooms =/),wouldn't even look at me. Someone had told her previously that I had badly scarred arms and legs, and she just avoided the situation totally. Even when it really felt like she was about to say something she just didn't.
I must admit that it does sound like this person actually cares enough to kick up a fuss though, as crazy as it sounds. She probably doesn't know how to react, whether or not it is the fact you had your scars on show, or just the knowledge that you have been harming yourself.
I guess we kinda have to think, if we had never started self harming, and we were in that persons position, we would probably be equally shocked, even if we didn't react in the same way. Try and see it from where she is standing, and if you get the chance, maybe try and explain to her why you did what you did, and maybe she might understand a little more.
Sorry this post is so long, and that i can't be of any decent help!
But just know, if you ever want to talk, you can PM me anytime hun =]
you are brave sweetie, well done.
Try and talk to your friend, it may just take a little time for her to understand. It was probably a shock today for her seeing, give it time, and be proud of yourself for today :) (/yesterday!)
xx take care
Wow, that took a lot of courage to wear short sleeves. As for what your friend said, about not wanting to touch you, if you feel the relationship is something you want to save, tell her the truth about SI. You have the right to stand up for yourself and tell her how it is. Good luck!
I'm so sick and tired of the taste of tears the sting of pain the smell of fear the sounds of crying
-Voltaire "Feathery Wings"
I'm so proud that you went through with it. *hugs*
Now, about your friend. I think it was just a shock for her. It took a few of my friends a while to get over the fact that it was 1. something they didn't know I did and 2. something they didn't understand at the time. People handle situations like this so differently, and it sometimes takes a while to get over the shock of it. Give her a bit to let it sink in and process, then try explaining what's been going on.
And about my friend..I know she does all these things because she cares about me and I understand her. I would have the same reaction anyway..
I'm going to write her a letter today to try and calm her or something.
*squeezy hugs*
''Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay it's not the end.''
hey hun. sorry but i just saw this thread! im glad that it went fine. i wanted to tell you that you are so brave for doing this. i told a boy about my SI and he said 'stop doing it, do you do it because you are emo?' but i ignored him. but anyway. i don't think i will wear short sleeves at school. in my school, people make stupid comments all the time. im sorry that it didn't go so well with your friend. do you need help with your letter or you gave it to her by now?
My RYL family:
I-used-to-be-positive is my big sister razorxkissedxwrists is my mommy alyssa.star is my sister phoenixflames_forever is my cousin concreteangel, helpmydeath, xxbeckyxx and queer fringe are my little sisters bob--says--hi is my twin
try to explain that you need her support, but tell her not to tell you that you have to stop it, because to decide to do so, you have to want yourself, do it for you and not for others. tell her that you want her to understand and support you.
My RYL family:
I-used-to-be-positive is my big sister razorxkissedxwrists is my mommy alyssa.star is my sister phoenixflames_forever is my cousin concreteangel, helpmydeath, xxbeckyxx and queer fringe are my little sisters bob--says--hi is my twin
Keep us updated as to how things go with your friend.
I gave her the letter but we haven't discussed anything yet and I don't think we will anytime soon. She was friendly and happy today as always.
I have a feeling things will start getting better with her from now on.
''Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay it's not the end.''
The ironic things is that the weather is a bit cold again and I'm back to longsleeves ><; At least I won't be too scared when I have to wear t-shirt again :)
PS. I'm still too scared to wear a t-shirt while walking on the road or go shopping...Is that normal?
''Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay it's not the end.''
