Okay, here's the deal: no matter how old you are, your parents are going to be super upset about the fact that you SI. If they weren't upset I'd be a bit worried.
When my parents found out, I'd been doing it for about eight years, maybe more, and I was kept at home for a week. I wasn't allowed out, I wasn't allowed to make phone calls, but I could receive them. They will calm down over time. Mine kinda had a timetable forced on them. You can help with the calming down by talking to them. Kinda like 'hey, I know you guys are trying to help, but really all it's doing is upsetting me. if you want to help me, could you do x?'
Giving people concrete ways to help is kinda hard sometimes, but it's one of the best ways to go about it. Your parents love you, but they're not mind-readers. Thank goodness, I have no idea what we'd do if they could read minds because there are just some things better left private. Anyway, they don't know what you really want or what you think will really help unless you TELL THEM. I cannot emphasize that enough. Perhaps you could also talk to your parents about why you cut, telling people whys is always helpful. Basically, just talk to them. Let them know that you appreciate their concern (that's important) but also that the way they are going about isn't being helpful in the right way.
Also, help them to understand that quitting is a process. It takes time and many tries. I've been trying to quit for almost two years now and it's hard. Quitting anything is hard, but this is almost the hardest thing I can think of, for many reasons.
Most importantly, TALK to your parents, don't scream, argue, fight, throw a fit, or anything. Just talk.
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