I've thought that there was a possibility of me being depressed for a long time. It started with my inability to sleep at night, and then turned into self-confidence issues, and then an overbearing feeling of sadness. Finally, I grabbed the razor and slit my wrist. Now, I've finally realized my problem and desperately need to tell someone about it. My parents don't understand me well enough, but I have a great friend that I think I could tell, but I have no idea how to bring it up! We are awesome friends, and most of the time the atmosphere between us is happy and bright. How on Earth do you tell one of your best friends that you think you have depression? We both have gmail and facebook, so we chat online a lot, and I thought that may be the easiest way to tell her about my depression. At the moment, nobody knows or even suspects anything wrong with me. My friend is a great friend, and I know she will always be there for me. Sorry about all of my rambling, but it all boils down to this question:
How do you tell a good friend that you think you are depressed?
I know I do not look like you, and I know I never will.
But that is not a reason to put me through such hell!
Every day is a huge struggle, every night is full of tears.
It's hard to lead a normal life while filled with all these fears.
At first, I did not notice: my appearance wasn't bad.
But all those things you said to me, they made me more than sad.
Like Crazykat said, perhaps write her a letter or an email?
If you think things might be uncomforatble after she reads it, you could ask her in the letter to bring it up with you when you next see her.
You could always give her the link to this thread?
*hugs*
xxx
well when i told my best mate i text her sayin i have something to tell you && keep askin me to tell you otherwise i wont && ur gonna really hate me...then the next day she took me aside at lunch where it was really kinda private && i found it really hard i kept sayin ur gonna hate me over and over but she was like whatever youve done im not gonna hate u && then she was like write it down if u cant tell me but i had to tell her face to face for me so she sat down && i just said i cut myself on purpose. she was shocked i could tell coz she was shakin, but its such a relief when u finally tell somone. its like a weight off ur shoulders.
'Cause I'll always remember you the same.
Oh eyes like wild flowers within demons of change ♥
like everyone else has said a letter or something like that could be good.
for me i would tell my mate that i ahve something to tell them and to make sure they keep asking me about it until i tell them - that way i couldn't back down!
let us know how it goes hun
" I wake up feeling convicted, / I know something's not right / Re-acquaint my knees with the carpet //
They've been swimming in the wrong waters / Now they're pulling me down / But I am clinging to you, never letting go / 'Cause I know that you'll lift me out //
Have your way here / Keep me afloat / 'Cause I know I'll sink without you / Take this ocean of pain that is mine / Throw me a lifeline " - Lifeline, Brooke Fraser
writing her a letter is a good idea, or even text her or something and just say your feeling down and if she says whats wrong, say you have felt it for a while. The friendship you describe sounds great and so im sure she will be understanding xx
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Thank you guys so much for the advice! It's been confusing... I want to tell her face to face, but I'm not sure I would be able to get it out. I think I may tell her as soon as I can get alone with her. I may bring it up over the internet just telling her how I feel and stuff, and then really talk to her when we are face to face. Once again, I thank you so much for the advice, and I'll let you all know how it goes.
I know I do not look like you, and I know I never will.
But that is not a reason to put me through such hell!
Every day is a huge struggle, every night is full of tears.
It's hard to lead a normal life while filled with all these fears.
At first, I did not notice: my appearance wasn't bad.
But all those things you said to me, they made me more than sad.
" I wake up feeling convicted, / I know something's not right / Re-acquaint my knees with the carpet //
They've been swimming in the wrong waters / Now they're pulling me down / But I am clinging to you, never letting go / 'Cause I know that you'll lift me out //
Have your way here / Keep me afloat / 'Cause I know I'll sink without you / Take this ocean of pain that is mine / Throw me a lifeline " - Lifeline, Brooke Fraser
Ok, I finally did it. Almost a month later.. I thought I would be able to do it sooner, but it was so hard. Lucky for me, I really didn't have to bring it up. She asked. It was really ironic, and it happened online. There was a friend of mine, and a really good friend of hers, who she suspected of being depressed. We were chatting over Gmail when she started asking me questions about depression, and I, with all of my research trying to figure out if I had clinical depression, happened to be an expert. She asked how I knew all of this stuff, but then two seconds later, she said, "Are you depressed? Because you can tell me if you are." I timidly answered, "I think so." From that point on, I told her about pretty much everything, and she responded by saying, "You're my best friend, and I've always got your back." From that point on, it felt like a huge weight was taken off of my shoulders. I knew I really coud trust her.
I know I do not look like you, and I know I never will.
But that is not a reason to put me through such hell!
Every day is a huge struggle, every night is full of tears.
It's hard to lead a normal life while filled with all these fears.
At first, I did not notice: my appearance wasn't bad.
But all those things you said to me, they made me more than sad.
