Triggering (Abuse) - physical abuse by mother?

[learning_to_fly]

has anyone else experienced physical abuse with their mother as the main perpetrator?

I was abused by my mum from as long as i can remember, and it eased off around 8 or 9. She later became an alcoholic which brought a whole new range of problems for me from 12 onwards. But more painful was the lack of positive physical contact - i was never cuddled, held or touched in any way, and it's hard not to feel worthless because of that. it's hard growing up knowing your mother never wanted you... she tolerated me, but never loved me (until i became an adult). I don't know how to deal with the feelings this brings and i wondered if anyone else is/has been in the same situation?

[LittleVampp]

I have be abused and had to deal with a great deal of the things you have but not from my mum or dad so its a bit different I suppose..... But at least you know you are not the only onethat has had the abuse :)...

If you would like to talk PM me :)

[becky_in_vogue]

i was abused by my mother since i was about 5 years old :(. I dont remember much of it becuase ive tried to block it out, but i remember her pushing me down the stairs and hitting me ect..
she was also pretty verbaly abusive and still is now.
i think maybe it was her that was abusive instead of my father becuase he was/is never around maybe. but i dont know.
i never really felt/feel like she loved me aswell, i always felt like she hated me for being alive and being there.
you're not alone dw
take care
xxx

[Imperfect]

*Hugs you so tightly*
Have you ever heard of a writer calld Dave Pelzer? He was abused by his mother. It would probably be rather triggering but the entire series is probably worth a read to you, as his last book is about coming to terms with everything and dealing with the abuse and lack of positive physical contact, etc.

I really hope you are able to come to terms with your past. I wish you all the luck in the world! Sorry if my advice is a bit crap, haha <33

Robyn

[popcorn]

Hey,
my mom was physically abusive, and not a cuddler (she had a lot of issues from her own childhood, but that's not an excuse). My dad was the affectionate one, but then again he was also sexually abusive. I do feel like my parents loved me, but in a really twisted and often narcissistic way. It's hard for me to understand how a parent, who is entrusted with the most precious and delicate job in the world, can abuse that trust and neglect or even actively hurt their child. I've read that a lot of abused kids decide that they are the bad, worthless one, to kind of justify the treatment and make a 'safe' world because the idea of having bad/mean parents is too terrifying. I try to remember that the crap they did was about them and not about me. I think about how I feel about kids and how I believe that all kids are good and innocent and deserve to be loved and praised and cuddled safely. Sometimes I get very angry about what I didn't get... but I just try to manage that safely and not turn it back on myself.

[learning_to_fly]

I just wanted to say thanks so much to you guys for replying, and for sharing your experiences. Sometimes it all seems so overwhelming.

I have read the first David Pelzer book but not the others... maybe i will have a look for them.

thanks again
tammy

[Detour. Derail]

I know what its like to not be cuddled or shown any affection by a mother...its an awful feeling. Im sorry that you had to go through that.
Dont hesitate to PM me if you ever want to talk
Take Care
xx