friend advice please..

[shadowdancer]

Ok, I really need some advice..

About four or five months ago I became friends with this girl who had just started working where I do. I'll just call her L. The first time we spoke and she was asking me for help cause she likes this other girl..

Anyway after a while we became really close and I started opening up to her about things.. she was really good to talk to and I had (have) nobody else. In return I listened when she spoke about this girl.

But then she began to tell me that she was feeling sad and she'd cry for no reason.. I'd listen to her and encourage her to see someone, she never did.

After a time I noticed that what she was telling me was remarkably similar to what I was experiencing. At first I was glad to have someone around who was going through the same things, but then it began to get a little too coincidental..

Now it just feels that every time I tell her something, a week or two later she'll have turned it into her own problem. Most examples I don't want to post but there are things like I once told her about how I feel numb all the time.. later that week she said that she was the same, but the week before she was telling me that she felt like she was going to explode from all the things she felt..

It sounds like nothing but there are way too many things like this..

I don't know what to do.. it's really driving me crazy but I can't say anything, least of all because she's so paranoid if I even hinted she'd probably do something really stupid. But she was the only person I ever spoke to and now I don't want to do that because I'm just worried it'll become another of her problems.

I don't think I could hack it if she started hearing voices too..

.. what do I do?

[Saxitoxin]

i had a friend like this once, less with the feelings side of things but she cut her hair like me, wore clothes like me, spoke like me, liked the same boys i did (which she always seemed to get). i ended up flipping out at her and not being friends with her for ages which i really regreted in the end cause she was always around, i don't know i think this girl maybe in some strange way looks up to you, it seems like she may even like you in "that" way a little bit, not wanting to freak you out or anything if your not "that" way, i'm bisexual and before i came out it was really hard for me to tell people that i liked them, it sounds tome like a kind of strange version of immitation is the biggest form of flattery.

[shadowdancer]

She did tell me a while ago that she "felt something" for me.. I'm not freaked out, I am bi, I don't like her back and to be honest she was ok with it..

What should I do? I can't ignore it because it really is making me loopy..

[Saxitoxin]

i don't really know what you can do to be honest mate. like i said i went mental at my friend and it went the wrong way, maye the best thing to do would be maybe talk to her in a round about way like saying its someone else, other than that hunny i don't really know what you could do.

[shadowdancer]

I'm really looking to try anything before trying to talk to her about this.. she's really quite volitile and paranoid and I'm more than a little scared as to what she'd do if she knew I don't really believe her..

I don't talk to her about me any more.. I guess I should give it time and see what happens..

Any anger management tips.. ?

[Saxitoxin]

My anger managment conciller told me to try the old tricks like counting to ten and a deep breath i've always found that these really help me!other than that theres channeling your energy into other things such as art or writing, also you could try things like going for a walk or just leaving to situation your in until you calm down, theres things like writing letters you never give to people, thta helps me, or just ranting in here!