Last week at the fabric store I found some double sided "Hollywood Tape" for keeping necklines etc in place. I used it this week to secure the hem of my short sleeve T-shirt so it couldn't ride up and show the kids I teach the mess that is my arm. It worked great!
I don't hide my scars at home, i'm married. I sometimes show my closest friends. I'm teaching young girls sewing, not how to cut themselves up. Hopefully they won't ever have to learn that!
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In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
Meaty? Do you like for others to see your scars and know what you are doing? Do you like when others do make judgements?
I dont understand why you would deliberately let someone know that you are doing something liek this....
It is a secret of mine... only my closest and most trusted friends know about what I do... and they are the only ones that have seen SOME of them... not even all of them.... I just dont understand why... hmm
Showing scars isn't necessarily so that people can know and judge. Maybe they got to a stage where they just don't care any more. And more power to them for that. I would give anything to wear short sleeves without feeling self conscious, to not give a **** and bear all. Not because I want people to know or to judge me, but so I can feel free again.
You can't have to understand, just accept it. Why should we have to hide? We don't, it's a choice we make for various reasons. People at Uni have seen my scars, I have to live with them forever, and I sure as hell am NOT going to hide under jumpers for the rest of my life.
I don't hide my scars, unless they're recent cuts. I'll only hide them on the first day of a new semester. I really don't care what others think. Alot more people SI at my school then I perviously thought. I don't mind answering people's questions. It also helps other who SI to come clean and show their scars. When I first decided to wear my t-shirt, I got alot of people grabbing my arms and saying "what the hell?". I actually had three people dragging my to counseling. It was like I was in a psych hospital being restrained. But the counselor was standing outside and said "if she doens't want help, I can't force it on her". Plus, by then I was already seeing an outside therapist and told my counselor before (this was my friends' they were trying to take me to). Really, peple don't give a second look at them now. They're a part of me, and I don't feel the need to hide them. I'm going on vacation to the carribean in March and am going to wear a bathing suit with confidence. Well, hopefully, the only thig that holds me back is my ED, not my scars.
All these tips are really great, and I'm not knocking them in anyway at all, cos they obv help a lot of you out, which is great...but...
I have really really heavy scaring to both arms from shoulder to mid forearm, and no amount of lotions or potions is going to do a thing! I really don't know what to do when the weather starts heating up. I haven't self harmed for nearly a year and a half now, but my scars are still extremely bad! I know I have to live with them, and I've got to deal with it, but I just dont have the confidence to wear short sleeves at all....I've worn long sleeves from day 1.
Any cover up tips for heavily scarred arms? besides long shirts
Wearing 'light' clothing, erm, how do I explain. Finding things like light cotton shirts, and fabrics that's almost fish-net like or a semi-transparent silk-type fabric.
Like kaftans and stuff?
I just wanna be able to go in a shop, see what I like and not have to think, but I can't really wear that, or if I buy that I'll have to get a cardi to go over it...it's just so depressing!
I want to be able to just say **** it! but I don't think I'm strong enough to take the stares, the comments you know...
I don't want to show my scars everyday, but there will probably be days that I'll just say **** it and wear summer clothes. I don't want to show fresh cuts because those are very personal to me. It'll be a way to raise awareness and encourage other self-injurers to not be afraid anymore. I really won't be able to explain them away, considering my cuts tend to be really close together. I just don't want my boyfriend to know because I don't want him to worry. He has this habit of trying to protect me and take care of me all the time. I would NOT be doing it for attention by any means. I really don't want to hide and be ashamed for the rest of my life. I cut. If people don't like it, they don't have to talk to me.
My roommate has found a lot of former and present self-injurers by mentioning the show Degrassi. If they seem to be interested in the issues, she talks about SI and the other issues that are on there. She likes to show that they're not just made up or that no one really goes through these things. She's admitted to a few people that she used to cut, and she's gotten quite a few people who have said that they've done it too.
Another tip is 3/4 length sleeves.
The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours- it is an amazing journey- and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.
~Bob Moawad
I wear the baggiest uniform t-shirts at school, cus the sleeves are long enough to hide cuts.
If I've totally lost it and I have a couple of thin ones on my wrist (never usually scar) I wear a thin long sleeved jumper underneath the t-shirt. I'm known for wearing these all the time, so people rarely ask questions
I've found that aloe vera is really good at helping cuts heal and scars fade, i can really tell the difference if i haven't been using it twice a day to when i have :)
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I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles, the one who would brighten your day even if she couldn't brighten her own.
Sometimes people put up walls not to keep others out, but to see who cares enough to tear them down.
I've been told that 1/3 scargel, 1/3 neosporin, and 1/3 cocoa butter with vitamin E makes relatively superficial cuts heal in like four days. Aloe vera wouldn't hurt either. I haven't tried it yet, but I may go to Walgreens tonight.
The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours- it is an amazing journey- and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.
~Bob Moawad
Bio oil is pretty good for fading down, but I go for long sleeves always in the daytime, full length too as I have had a bad habit of cutting near my wrists. For summer I have a range of light tops - printed gauze with a cami is a favourite of mine, the pattern hides even fresh marks. Cotton stuff is great, and very thin jumpers worn without tops underneath, or long sleeved T's.
There's stuff out there, you just have to look hard, spring is the best shopping season for light stuff with long sleeves I find, leave it till summer and it's all sleeveless.
For evening wear I use cover up make up and a shrug or scarf around my shoulders and over my forearms. My sister (yes we had a traumatic childhood :) likes elbow length gloves. The dim light helps me feel less self-concious.
I can wear short sleeves as I don't have scars on my arms, however I'm gonna be going on holiday in the summer, and wearing a bikini will be somewhat of a problem...
I can wear trousers cos I'm most comfy in them, or sweat pants...
Ooh! Sweats are good... they're not too heavy as long as you get the right kind.. some of them can be really heavy..
I have scars on my upper arms and during the summer I'm going to be working as a lifeguard so I kinda need some help and advice. The scars arent raised or anything just really pale and discolored compared to the rest of my skin, would tanning or anything help these fade at all??
I favor arm socks (arm warmers) or for legs Leggings. I wear Leggings all the time, I have them in all diffrent colors and styles, and I get arm socks to match =D One of my most creative scar-hidding tricks has to be when I wore Ribbon, about a yard or so of it, all up my arms and tied it ina bow right near my elbow. From my wrist to my elbow, I had royal purple and black ribbon =] everyone thought it was very cute
I tried prescription steroid creams to "dissolve" away the scars. But it didn't work. As some of my scars are massive keloids, I think I may get cosmetic surgery when I stop growing, at around 21.
i have read this and it is very usefull.... thanx!
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Don't know if this has been metioned as i haven't read the whole thread, but Dream Cream by Lush is really good. It has lavender oil which calms irritated skin and chamomile which eases redness. Its really good for easing the itching when cuts start healing.
Also, any moisturiser with wheatgerm oil is good, as it helps to penetrate the deeper layer of the skin and helps it to regenerate.
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